Originally Posted by phoenixmama
There have been numerous times that I have had to go up to another child to say, "Excuse me, may my daughter take a turn going down the slide?" This is why I do not let my child go up the slide.
You seem to see this (speaking up in your dd's behalf) as a tragic thing -- but I actually see it as very pro-active, and great modeling for your dd on how to assertively pursue the things she wants. If no one ever climbed up the slide, that'd be one less growth opportunity for your dd and for children everywhere.
I forsee a time when your dd will be more verbal, and, thanks to your example, she'll know she has more options than looking sad and twirling her hair, when confronted with frustrating circumstances.
There's a reason children have parents, and I think the above example is one of them. My 2 1/2 yo also needs active parenting at the park -- but I don't see it as tragic, I see it as an investment in her future.
And yes, I let my children go up the slide, while helping them to stay safe and to consider the feelings and safety of others.