i've raised my children to believe that sex is beautiful and natural, and to understand how the body and mind react to it. i've encouraged them to explore their own emotions, and to be prepared for the urging of hormones.
in addition to my four girls, 14, 11, 9, and 4, i raised my step-daughter. she's now 22. the best thing i did for her was to teach her to be her OWN person. to be able to say "no" because she wasn't ready. to think for herself. she waited for sex until she was eighteen and ready to handle it. i was seventeen, and also ready.
there's nothing more beautiful and special than the human body, and how it reacts. sex is fun, sex is empowering...and darn it, it FEELS GOOD. that doesn't mean i want my CHILD having it.
when hailey would go to the movies with friends, she'd turn around...and i'd be there. when she went dancing...there i was. our relationship was so special, she'd just invite me to come along. on new years, she was allowed a glass of wine or champagne. did she drink when she became an adult? a little, but not excessively.
when she had her first sexual experience, she told me about it...we openly discuss sex and partners now...positions...that sort of thing. sex isn't shameful, but i'm not having my kids engage in activities that they are not emotionally prepared to handle...and not under my roof.
if she (or one of her sisters) were at a boyfriend's house, and his parents allowed sexual relations on their premises, i would definitely consider legal ramifications. and YES, i would want to know that they allowed such.
of course, my children aren't allowed in houses that have cigarette smoke, either. *shrugs*
and in my opinion, if you're actually ready to HAVE sex, you should also be able to tell your parents AND his. if you can't talk about it...
in addition to my four girls, 14, 11, 9, and 4, i raised my step-daughter. she's now 22. the best thing i did for her was to teach her to be her OWN person. to be able to say "no" because she wasn't ready. to think for herself. she waited for sex until she was eighteen and ready to handle it. i was seventeen, and also ready.
there's nothing more beautiful and special than the human body, and how it reacts. sex is fun, sex is empowering...and darn it, it FEELS GOOD. that doesn't mean i want my CHILD having it.
when hailey would go to the movies with friends, she'd turn around...and i'd be there. when she went dancing...there i was. our relationship was so special, she'd just invite me to come along. on new years, she was allowed a glass of wine or champagne. did she drink when she became an adult? a little, but not excessively.
when she had her first sexual experience, she told me about it...we openly discuss sex and partners now...positions...that sort of thing. sex isn't shameful, but i'm not having my kids engage in activities that they are not emotionally prepared to handle...and not under my roof.
if she (or one of her sisters) were at a boyfriend's house, and his parents allowed sexual relations on their premises, i would definitely consider legal ramifications. and YES, i would want to know that they allowed such.
of course, my children aren't allowed in houses that have cigarette smoke, either. *shrugs*
and in my opinion, if you're actually ready to HAVE sex, you should also be able to tell your parents AND his. if you can't talk about it...
) You are assuming that you can judge from the outside what a sex act means to the participants. You are assuming that being a sex positive parent is teaching your daughter to "have such low self esteem she lets any guy inside her". You are assuming that a woman under an arbitrary numerical age that you have never met is unable to make an important life decision for herself.
