There are things I would leave out. This comes as a result of dealing with my wackjob shrew (FIL's girlfriend) who thinks she's the be all and end all of education and who has made it clear she's going to be a pain about me homeschooling my boys (even if I did finally get her to say "OH, you have a degree in education? Well, I guess it's okay then...") - and we were NEVER vague with her. It's also influenced by other relatives that have, as a homeschooling reference, children who they knew who were socially backwards and WAY far behind their age mates when they were enrolled in public school (something about how "it's not just ANYONE who can teach children!").
Things to leave out:
|I am definitely not an expert on school, especially outside the home. (That's what I have YOU for!) I don't have a degree.
A - this gives the impression that she IS an expert. granted, you are indicating that she's an expert on school outside the home, but you don't need to reinforce the idea that she knows more than you and can therefore be in a constant state of critiquing and "advising" you on how you school your child. B - Don't remind her that you don't have a degree. It's more fuel for her fire, potentially. She'll be developing this list in her head: you don't have a degree, you don't know anything about educating children, etc.... It's a door you don't want to open.
|I would rather send my kids to school -- it would be easier on me, but most days when I just admit to myself that God is calling me to homeschool, I feel at peace.
Again, you're giving her fuel. Letting her know you'd rather send them to school? And adding faith/religion to it? Will that encourage her to use that tack when she tries to change your mind?
Don't describe it as trying. Something more like 'this is the decision we've made for junior's early education' might be better? I know that spending 10+ years around my Shrew has really made me once bitten twice shy about what i say, and maybe you don't have those concerns, but if i said "we've decided to try homeschooling" and then we later decided to enroll the boys in school, she'd remember that one phrase, and I'd hear it as "well, you tried...." with the condescending implied pat on the head, and the idea that she knew all along I'd fail, and I should've just left this to the professionals.
|Since we don't actually have to report to the state on progress until first grade, I am not sure what we will decide about kindergarten. (We may or may not follow a specific curriculum for kindergarten.) Matt and I have not had an in-depth conversation about this matter yet. We have a lot of learning to do about laws, curricula, et cetera. "
This immediately puts flares up for people. You're going to Homeschool and you dont have to REPORT to anyone??? Doesn't a teacher have to review your work????
YOu can be intentionally vague "we've read up on the state regulations and are making decisions about our plans for Junior for Kindergarten." Don't tell her you and Matt haven't had an indepth convo about it - she may think this is something she can negotiate with him.
I tell my shrew that i don't have to do anything with the boys until they're 8 BECAUSE I know it will tork her off (and with the crap of hers I listen to, sometimes I need to sling an arrow) - but I honestly don't care what she thinks about it. And, FIL thinks it's great
I say all of this, because I've had to treat conversations wtih my shrew like a chess match - know what's going to happen three moves ahead based on what I say at any one time. I plan for several worst case scenarios. I tend to come close.
I really agree wtih Captivated Life
And, does Matt think you need to send her something?