I don't get lotus birth. I do wholeheartedly support women/families doing what they think is best for themselves...but I don't get lotus birth. I think that the revulsion mentioned by someone else is perfectly natural to feel about a rotting piece of meat, and not something to 'get past' for any reason whatsoever. I don't believe that babies care one bit about the placenta as soon as they are out, because they immediately start caring about looking at the their loved ones and sucking booby, yum! No loss there, just amazing new gifts and sensations that now take their attention...babies just aren't as attached to past moments, or to things, as we learn later to be, they just want love, warmth and milk in plenty, whatever else is going on. And from what I've read about it, the way the cord gets so stiff as it dries would make me worry about joggling the site of cord insertion--baby's umbilicus--too much, and cause a bleed or just discomfort for the baby. It also sounds very very inconvenient to the parents/loved ones caring for the baby...I never wanted more work once I had the baby, I just wanted to lie around and love on em, in whatever positions suited us best in any moment. Never could think of a persuasive reason to deal with the placenta and cord...and like I said, I don't believe that babies really care about it.
I've been around a lot of different mammal births, and they all either eat the whole placenta, or at least some part of it. Those who don't eat it all, get the heck away from it as soon as baby can walk away with them, cuz it draws flies and predators. Those who eat it all are usually predators themselves, and will lick up every last drop of blood and fluid, which keeps the strong odor of rotting blood from announcing the presence of food to their predator neighbors. The predators also most often give birth in a cave or other sheltered place that they can protect. Some grazers will eat the whole placenta, but will then get away from the birthing spot soon (they birth in the open) because they won't try to lick up the blood and fluid and it will attract predators to their still-vulnerable young.
It seems perfectly natural to me to eat the placenta (well it does now, didn't at the time I was having my babies); it also seems perfectly human to memorialize and give meaning to the placenta by burying it under a tree, for instance, or otherwise honoring it in a rite of passage from one stage of life to another. But lotus birth to me, goes beyond ritual into unnatural, into created meanings that seem well removed from nature and our instincts...without much benefit to anyone and more work than it's worth (along with that worry about jostling the baby's umbilicus).
So...all this is not meant to be a way of discouraging anyone else, or criticizing any lotus birther's choice. Just my opinion, and I really do respect yours. Hey lots of people don't 'get' some of what I find special in my life, that's perfectly ok. I don't have any objection to people undertaking rituals that mean something to them, and in general I think rituals and honoring life passages are wonderful things. But it seems strange to me that anyone believes that this is a custom that should be urged on others....lotus birth is fairly rare because most people feel pretty much as I do about it, like ewww, why on earth???? At least, this is what I've gathered over the years from many discussions with people about it. 'Evangelizing' lotus birth--urging others to do it, wishing others would do it, feeling others are missing out by not doing it...
well, this reminds me of religious evangelizing, I have to say. Sharing info is one thing...sharing one's own wonderful experiences with others...these are totally natural things for humans to do, and can be a gift to the receiver. And when it gets to the point of feeling that you have to try to get others to do it, well that feels just like religious evangelizing to me--disrespectful of others private, personal and sacred connections with the divine and with their own ways of making meaning and celebrating life. There's just no one right way when it comes to this stuff, and such strong reasons to let private matters remain private without evangelizing. If you really love lotus birth, let your own joy in it be enough to suit you--same thing I'd say to any Mormon or JW who showed up at my door with tracts and instant salvation.
So the only reason I say all this is that a pp mentioned wondering why others didn't want to try it. I'm just giving my reasons why, reasons I've heard echoed by lots of others over a long time.
Now, I'll get the heck off this thread and let you all get back to it--wasn't meaning to rant, but I think I'll just let this stand rather than editing. I just couldn't resist what felt like a bit of an invitation to a devil's advocate.... It's not that I don't want you to enjoy what you do, not at all! More power and joy to you and your babies.