Originally Posted by KaraBoo
If you have enough for your kids to get "stuff," do you (plural) still not get anything for yourself?
I am asking over and over because I used to be this way. I dunno. I somehow felt a mom shouldn't get anything for herself or that even if I had 10 extra dollars, I shouldn't let myself buy something just for me. I don't feel that way anymore. I set aside a budget for everyone in the family to "get stuff." The amount is inconsequential. It's the idea that matters.
Well for us, sure ds gets "stuff" but that stuff is stuff like new underware and shoes. Okay, actually, we got him a new Leapster cartridge that was on sale, and he's gotten lots out of it. But no, usually, ds doesn't get tons of toys and games and Gap clothes while I'm huddling in the corner like The Little Match Girl. Honestly, it's just that on a regular basis, the funds aren't there for any of us to get those little extras. We always make sure we all have shoes (though I'm sorely in need of new sneakers, but it's so hot out I won't wear them...I'll buy new ones when I'll actually wear them!) and the basic necessities, though.
Dh takes care of the bills and check book. He wouldn't bat an eye if I were to spend money on a book or something for myself. Usually, anything over $25, excluding when I grocery shop, is a joint decision. But anything under, If the money is there and not spoken for, I can go and use it for something for myself.
And it just occured to me that I DID buy something kinda for myself the other day. I bought a book to assist in homeschooling ds. This is a book I've wanted for a long time and I finally decided that, at $13 it was a cheap investment considering I can use it for years to come.