DH already knows, of course (it was pretty much the focus of things after our oops on cycle day 10). And I've told my 8yo DS, who of the three kids is the one who can keep a secret. We had a nice long walk together, just the two of us, a couple days ago and I told him. It was my way of rewarding him, so to speak, for being the way he is. (I don't know if this makes any sense.) He's very excited.
We've been waffling on when to tell the other kids and DH's parents. (The eldest has memory issues and will probably remember the big news, but not remember she shouldn't tell her dad and stepmom, etc when they call; the youngest, well, she's a total blabbermouth, so we know that once we tell her, we've told the world
. So we won't even ask them to keep it a secret.)
I don't much mind friends, acquaintances, and total strangers knowing about the pregnancy, though I have no interest at all in sharing this part of our lives with my ex-husband and his wife, or with my parents. My parents, especially my mother, have been miserable grandparents to the youngest two, my mother to the point that I'm scared to leave my youngest two alone with her (long story), and frankly, I really don't want them to know. I have zero interest in having any input from them on it. The only way to accomplish that, though, is to say nothing to the kids, which means we say nothing to anyone else.
DH's parents, on the other hand, have been the world's best grandparents, always there for the kids, fun, happy, just all around great. We want to tell them very soon.
Last night we decided to go ahead and tell our other two kids tonight at dinner, then call DH's parents (I'm 5w5d today). Yes, this means people I want to exclude will know very early, but I'll just have to live with that. We don't want DS to have to keep a secret too long, and once my m/s ramps completely up it'll be hard to hide from the kids anyway. Plus my belly is doing some amazing stretching and I honestly don't think I'm going to be able to hide this pregnancy for more than another month.