Homeschool?? How do you afford it? - Page 2

[kerikadi]

Originally Posted by Meg Murry.

I find it more than sexist that you don't have one somewhat obvious choice here:

I work and my DH (or DP) stays home and does the homeschooling.

I wouldn't have thought to list that either.
Obviously SAH or WOH Dads could homeschool but in the hundreds of homeschoolers I have met irl and online that hasn't been the case so it would not have occurred to me to make it a choice.

Keri

[majazama]

Originally Posted by Meg Murry.

I find it more than sexist that you don't have one somewhat obvious choice here:

I work and my DH (or DP) stays home and does the homeschooling.

my last post..

Originally Posted by majazama

heket~ I didn't put an option of "my DP stays with the kids full time, and I work", cause I thought that those people wouldn't have any computer time, between working, and being a parent.

ummmmmmmmm, i think i explained that one already, meg murray. I find it actually funny that someone would call me sexist. quite the exact opposite, actually.

here I was trying to incorporate everyone by using the gay-friendly or flexible term *DP* rather than the restricting *DH* or *DW*. I would not have thought that the WOH fulltime parent would be the one online. thats my false judgment. next poll will be more inclusive. guess ya can't please everyone.

[mags]

I guess that the poll is interesting to me, b/c while I am lucky that my DH provides for us. Ironically, if we did not HS, our kids would go to private school and in order to afford that I would have to return to work. For us, HSing is actually a more affordable than sending our children to traditional school. Probably at some point or another when the kids are older, I will get some sort of part time job, in order to help save for my kids' college costs. So, even though I'm currently a SAHM, it may not always be that way.

[MaWhit]

Other. I'm a single mom and I WAH and WOH (taking the kids with me), I get grants from attending college, and I receive child support.

[funnyfeet]

grandma helps out with the books alot. I work a little bit, but my dd is with me. (I tutor two boys). DH has no idea what I spend on school supplies. I will keep it that way for now. I'd rather spend money on her homeschooling now than the therapy that comes from too much socialization later down the road.

[earthmama369]

The obligatory clarification:

I voted "DP supports us and I work out of the home." DH works FT and is the main breadwinner. I have a small WAHM business and also work outside the home at a couple different jobs, but my children go with me and, continuum style, they learn just by experiencing my work with me. (Of course, one of my jobs is teaching and playing with small children, and the other is in an AP baby boutique, so that works out well!)

[sweetfeet]

My DH supports us.

For us, HSing is actually a more affordable than sending our children to traditional school. Probably at some point or another when the kids are older, I will get some sort of part time job, in order to help save for my kids' college costs. So, even though I'm currently a SAHM, it may not always be that way.

Same situation. Thanks for saying it for me.

[mama2cntrykids]

I said the dh supports us, but we also get child support from both of our ex's. Without it, I would have to WOH.

[umbrella]

heket~ I didn't put an option of "my DP stays with the kids full time, and I work", cause I thought that those people wouldn't have any computer time, between working, and being a parent.

ummmmmmmmm, i think i explained that one already, meg murray. I find it actually funny that someone would call me sexist. quite the exact opposite, actually.

I don't follow. Why would a wohm with a sahd have less time than any other married wohm, or even the single moms? Out of the woh moms and single moms, one might think that the wohm with the sah partner, would have More time out of all of them.

You listed so many other options for "working, and being a parent."

Honestly, I found your explanation to be closer to something like "sexist" than the simple omission. The omission can be somewhat understandably explained by the sheer lack of exposure most people have to that circumstance. Justifying it in the manner...like you had a reason to exclude it on purpose? Why would you exclude it on purpose? Not thinking of it makes more sense, and is nicer than excluding it on purpose, and for bogus reasons.

[umbrella]

I guess that the poll is interesting to me, b/c while I am lucky that my DH provides for us. Ironically, if we did not HS, our kids would go to private school and in order to afford that I would have to return to work. For us, HSing is actually a more affordable than sending our children to traditional school.

Similarly, for us too. If we used schools, there are a couple I have mind, and they are expensive. If we did choose that route, it would make more sense for me to woh (but we'd likely also need after-school care) than to sah. But then again, I'd make more than we'd spend on the schools and care, so I guess it would be a net gain.

[sha_lyn]

Originally Posted by mags

I guess that the poll is interesting to me, b/c while I am lucky that my DH provides for us. Ironically, if we did not HS, our kids would go to private school and in order to afford that I would have to return to work. For us, HSing is actually a more affordable than sending our children to traditional school. Probably at some point or another when the kids are older, I will get some sort of part time job, in order to help save for my kids' college costs. So, even though I'm currently a SAHM, it may not always be that way.

:

We looked at private schools before deciding to HS. DS would have been in middle school at 11K per yr, DD in preschool at 6K a yr. I would either have to find a job that didn't start until 9 and got out at 2, or I would have to put them in afterschool to a tune of 300-500 per month. At the time DH worked second shift. He could drop the kids off at school. but would be at work at pick-up time or when after school programs ended. Add gas, lunch expenses, school unforms for the kids and work cloths for me. Not to mention increased car insurance premiums if I drove into the metro area every day, convience foods etc.

[sha_lyn]

Well I hit send before I finished and edit isn't working....
We figured out that I would have to gross 38-40K per yr to afford to send them to private school.
Pretty impossible to do at an entry level non-degree position.

[majazama]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

Maybe the assumption wasn't sexist, but rather that the at-home parent would be more likely to be the MDC member.

this is exactly my reasoning, and then using the term Dp, could have been the stay at home DAD if that was the case.

Originally Posted by umbrella

I don't follow. Why would a wohm with a sahd have less time than any other married wohm, or even the single moms? Out of the woh moms and single moms, one might think that the wohm with the sah partner, would have More time out of all of them.

You listed so many other options for "working, and being a parent."

Honestly, I found your explanation to be closer to something like "sexist" than the simple omission. The omission can be somewhat understandably explained by the sheer lack of exposure most people have to that circumstance. Justifying it in the manner...like you had a reason to exclude it on purpose? Why would you exclude it on purpose? Not thinking of it makes more sense, and is nicer than excluding it on purpose, and for bogus reasons.

cause I am totally sexist. I believe that women should take care of kids exclusively, and that they never ever have anyone else care for them. that would be wrong. men don't know how to take care of kids.(sarcasm)

this is utterly rediculous. I meant the poll to be multiple choice, so that people could choose more than one designation. but lord have mercy, I forgot to select the 'multiple choice' box. I am so bad.

[umbrella]

Honestly, the sarcasm doesn't help me understand it better.

I genuinely don't understand. Why would a wohm with a sahd less time than any other working mom?

[umbrella]

but rather that the at-home parent would be more likely to be the MDC member.

I don't understand this either. The site is called "mothering" not "stay-at-homing." Mothers are more likely to be members here. I am sure we have more working mothers here, than we do fathers of any kind.

[sha_lyn]

Originally Posted by umbrella

Honestly, the sarcasm doesn't help me understand it better.

I genuinely don't understand. Why would a wohm with a sahd less time than any other working mom?

I don't understand it either.
I know many people, both male and female who go online/post of BB's etc while at work, or when they are at home. Why would one assume that someone that works, but has a SAHP wouldn't post on the internet, but yet they would have to post if their partner worked outside off the home too? It would seem that if both partners worked outside of the home, then might be less time to post online.

[majazama]

Originally Posted by umbrella

I genuinely don't understand. Why would a wohm with a sahd less time than any other working mom?

i'm thinking of any working parent, of course.


because (as Ive heard, as I'm not a WOHP) people who work and have kids at home tend to fly out the door in the morning, kiss their kids on their way out, work at work (unless perhaps there are computers there, and they spend copious amounts of time not actually working and going online instead)... get home and eat supper, play with their kids for a bit, and then go to bed, only to start over in the morning again... thats the way I saw it. they don't have much FREE time.

whereas, the SAH*P* would be taking care of the kids, cleaning, taking it easy, sitting online to do a poll on MDC.


do you get it yet?:

[umbrella]

Originally Posted by majazama

i'm thinking of any working parent, of course.


because (as Ive heard, as I'm not a WOHP) people who work and have kids at home tend to fly out the door in the morning, kiss their kids on their way out, work at work (unless perhaps there are computers there, and they spend copious amounts of time not actually working and going online instead)... get home and eat supper, play with their kids for a bit, and then go to bed, only to start over in the morning again... thats the way I saw it. they don't have much FREE time.

whereas, the SAH*P* would be taking care of the kids, cleaning, taking it easy, sitting online to do a poll on MDC.


do you get it yet?:

No, I still don't get it. HERE, you're saying that applies to all working moms. But you included other working moms in the poll, except for those who have a sahp. And then by the reason you gave for excluding them, you would also have to exclude all other working mothers.

I still assumed you just didn't consider the circumstance, not seeing it very often.

The reason you gave for the idea of purposely excluding it, just doesn't make sense, considering the options you DID include.

[majazama]

well, I guess you got me. I lose.

[RiverSky]

I agree, it's really tough sometimes to create a poll and remember to include every possibility.

I voted that DP supports us, but the truth is, we're not making it quite so easily as we used to. I'm sure things will be fine, but we've been going through a lean period.