We would probably be able to feed and house them, but there'd be no emergency savings account, no retirement savings, no college savings. Possibly no health insurance. I can't live like that.
Necessities to me are literally food, shelter, clothing. Everything else is an extra.
I guess some people just have a very different standard of living. I know I can't imagine going out to eat more than once a month, yet I know some people do it daily or at least weekly. To me thats an enormous amount of money for that. Because in comparison...it IS an enormous amount of our monthly income. Someone mentioned violin lessons averaging to what.. three thousand a year I think was said? Thats three months income for me. No way would I be able to sink that amount of money towards lessons of any kind. So there are other ways. We find them, and have no problem utilizing them.
I guess my problem is.. we're supposed to accept that if you have the money to spend it on things, than you should be allowed to live how you want. Fine. I do accept that. But then the argument is, that people that don't have enough money keep having kids. Having enough money is relative. It really is. With my three things I listed as the important things, that actually leaves quite a bit left over. But my quite a bit would seem like a very tiny amount to most of you. It all comes down to what YOU think are YOUR priorities and having enough money for that, but not coming down on others who don't have those same priorities, or who have alternate means of meeting goals that don't take a lot of money.
Honestly, I am glad that I can barter and "beg" as the word was used. I know there are people out there that want to help, not just because we're a charity case. I see nothing wrong with utilizing those in your community, nor do I think the quality you get is inferior just because less cash or no cash was exchanged for it. Personally, thats where things get hurtful in this thread. Judgments get placed on peoples values, and it sucks no matter who is judging whom.
Also, I'm coming from a very different place growing up. I was poor. Always had second hand things. But in contrast to many of you, I never felt second rate. I never felt ashamed. I never felt the poverty I was in, ever. So I don't see how I grew up so horribly simply because we had little money. So the reason of, not wanting to struggle because of going through it as a child etc.. to me, just doesn't have a voice because I had the opposite experience. I respect that our childhoods were experienced in vastly different ways and no doubt that has colored our parenting.