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Do you do DH/SO's laundry?

Poll Results: Do you do dh/SO's laundry?

 
  • 18% (74)
    Yes, he has no time for it
  • 49% (197)
    Yes, it's just part of my job description
  • 23% (95)
    Sometimes yes, sometimes no
  • 7% (30)
    No
396 Total Votes  
post #1 of 156
Thread Starter 
After the responses I got to my almost-comical episode of dh running out of underwear due to my not noticing the full hamper, I must ask. Do you do dh's laundry? Why/why not?
post #2 of 156
I am in charge of laundry in our house. Have been since we moved in together when I was working and getting pregnant wasn't even a thought in my mind. But I took it over willingly, because laundry and dishes are the two household things I actually enjoy doing, plus I'd freak if DP washed something that was delicate in hot water.
post #3 of 156
I usually do it. I'm home, and take care of most of the laundry. DH and I use the same hampers in our bedroom, so when it's full, I wash it...that means that dh's gets washed at the same time as mine.

DH doesn't usually put his jeans in the hamper, so they usually don't get done with the rest of the laundry, and he generally does them himself. It's never been an issue, one way or the other.

Household laundry...I probably do the bedding, towels and diapers about 80% of the time, and dd and ds1's clothes about 70% of the time. Right now, ds1 is in charge of bedding for himself, dd and ds2.
post #4 of 156
My husband actually does about 90% of the laundry in our house. It is pretty much his only household chore, aside from the garbage and the diapers. I hate laundry, but I do all the linens, and I'm not quite sure why.
post #5 of 156
Its my dh's job to bring in $
Its my job to care the kids and the house.

He helps in raising the kids being thats a 24 hour job and he helps in anyway he can in the housework. being that also isn't a 9-5 job either
post #6 of 156
Yes.

We don't do hampers. Everything goes straight into the washing machine and is washed together. Unless the freak item exists, can't think of one now, that would ruin the other laundry. It all goes in on cold/cold and all gets dried on regular.

Dirty dipes went in the pail of course.

Liz
post #7 of 156
I do it because I'm home all day so it's easy for me to do, plus I prefer not to use the dryer which means hanging daytime loads regularly. He helps put away. I already begrudge the time he has to spend on the yard and pool--marathon weekend laundry sessions might send me over the edge.

One of my big issues w/ returning to work when DS is older is how we'll then divide the housework load. I foresee paying others or LOTS of negotiation.
post #8 of 156
DF used to do all of the laundry. His, mine, household.

Now he works two jobs and I am at home all week, so I do it. It's just part of my job.
post #9 of 156
Yeah, I do. It just all gets done together, there doesn't seem to be any point in seperating it out by person. And I do it, because I'm picky about how it's done, just like he does the dishes, because he's picky about how those are done. So I guess it's "my job", but it's because I chose it, not by default because I'm the wife or the SAHP.
post #10 of 156
I do most of it, but dh will throw in a load if the laundry sorter is full. He also puts away all the clothes, a job I loath
post #11 of 156
I never really thought of it as "his laundry", we just have "laundry", and I do most of it because the washer/dryer are at home, as am I most of the time. If it is still going once he gets home, and I am nursing or something, he'll fold it and put it away.

I really find this question strange (not an insult, really). I just can't even imagine doing my own laundry and not his.

I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
post #12 of 156
Yes, I do most of his clothes, but I don't wash his work uniforms because I don't want his nasty work clothes leeching anything onto mine or my girls' clothes. I do wash his clothes because I don't sort clothing. We all just throw dirty clothes in the washing machine, and I wash it when it's full. After drying, I sort the clean clothes into separate baskets for each person. His go in his bucket, mine go in my bucket, etc. If he chooses not to put his clothes away, he digs through his bucket to find what he needs.

I couldn't vote yes, he has no time for it, because he does have time to do it. He chooses not to.

I couldn't vote yes, it's part of my job description, because it's not. My job is mother, not maid.

So, I just couldn't vote because none of those 4 choices apply to me.
post #13 of 156
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Originally Posted by Holiztic View Post
I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
I tend to agree and I don't really like the term "job description" (no offense meant to the OP). DP didn't "hire" me, so I don't feel like I have a job description in the home. DP and I both have things that we take care of ourselves. Laundry is one of the tasks I've taken on, because I like it & I don't want it to sit around until Saturday, like it would if I waited for DP.
I don't put anyone's laundry away, though (except sometimes DS2's). I wash and fold, then everyone takes their stack.
post #14 of 156
I do all of the laundry together -- his, mine and household. He will switch a load from the washer to the dryer or occasionally fold/hang dry clothes. But I get picky about how things are folded and hung so I usually just do it myself.

I can't imagine us doing our own laundry separately. I mean, that would use twice the water and electricity. I actually cringe at the thought of such waste.
post #15 of 156
I do all the laundry. We tried doing it on a whoever-gets-to-it-first basis in the beginning of our marriage when we both worked outside the home, but after several "incidents" DH was removed from laundry duties. Even if he only has to wash his clothes, there's still the possibility that he'll have to put my stuff from the washer to the dryer, and he has no concept of what can and cannot go in the dryer (on high heat no less!) :

DH has his "jobs", too, mainly dog and cat poop- or puke-related stuff, walking dogs, mowing lawn and trimming stuff up (any excuse to use tools). So anyway I don't mind being in charge of laundry.
post #16 of 156
Quote:
Originally Posted by Holiztic View Post
I never really thought of it as "his laundry", we just have "laundry", and I do most of it because the washer/dryer are at home, as am I most of the time. If it is still going once he gets home, and I am nursing or something, he'll fold it and put it away.

I really find this question strange (not an insult, really). I just can't even imagine doing my own laundry and not his.

I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
I agree. I do most of the laundry since I'm home more often and I like to use the clothes lines as much as I can. DH will do it if I don't get to it or if he needs something - I'll wash everything that was in the hampers, on the floor, ect., and then he'll realize that all his pants for work are dirty but never got put in the hamper. This usually happens just as I'm heading to bed , so at that point, it's his job.
post #17 of 156
We disagree about the right way to do laundry so he washes his own clothes. I do all the rest. I HATE when he helps with the towels, etc. because he doesn't believe in folding--he just stuffs it all in the linen closet and kitchen drawers: .
post #18 of 156
I always do the laundry but my dh helps fold sometimes when there is a pile sitting on the couch.
post #19 of 156
I really didn't agree with the options in this poll--none of them seemed to fit. I agree with others that "Who does the laundry" would have been better. Anyway, in our house I tend to do most of the laundry and DH tends (okay, always) does the dishes. Sometimes I get really behind in the laundry and DH definately will help me with it and every great once in a while I might do a dish or two (I absolutely hate dishes).
post #20 of 156
Mostly, DH does the laundry around here. He's much better at it than me.... Not sure why, he just is.

I do all the folding though. I *hate* how he folds just about everything, so he does the laundry, brings it up and puts it on the couch and I look at it for a week before I fold it.

DH does most of the dishes too.
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