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post #1 of 18
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um. I have been breastfeeding every half hour for the last eight weeks!!! someone please help me! sometimes, she will nurse for 10-20-40min,,, but then. SOMETIMES she will nurse for HOURS on end!!! especially in the morning and at night! she can be awake for 4 or 5 hours just trying to gain sustenance from my breasts! that can't be right! a tiny baby MUST sleep or get cranky, right? we all need a rest! we all need time to play... or LEARN things about the world around us!!!

my lactation consultant suggested five min on one side then switch and do five min. on the other side? well, all that did was cause me to loose sleep! as then, the one month old baby would wake up EVERY single hour to feed at night! yikes! (previously, she was sleeping 2-3-4-5 hours for the first part of the night, then waking every hour after that) so, we did go back to the "old" regular way, 10-20 min (as the baby decides). plus, she gets all that yummy hind milk that way.

i have pumped my breasts. i usually only get a mere one or one and half oz. (one side or both sides combined! is that very little milk flow???) ... OH! except in the morning, rarely, (when she has not nursed every half hour) i can get 2 and half oz from ONE breast! wow! that's like amazing for me! are my breasts low flow? how much milk does a mom usually produce?

please forgive me, if i can not relpy! we will be in a nursing frenzy from 6-10pm (sometimes until midnight!) usually, i can take all this nursing with very good humor! i am pretty needy. i love to feel the comfort and love of holding my baby close! (i have loved a child and lost a child before. but that's another story)... PS. my other child did NOT nurse every half hour! what would make this child do this? has my body changed? is this new baby different? what has happened?
post #2 of 18
The first question is whether she's having lots of poopy and wet diapers, and is she gaining at a reasonable rate. If she is, then you can rest assured she's getting enough milk. It's perfectly normal for a young baby to want to hang out on the boob all day. My DS is what you'd term a high-need baby, and he nursed without pause for his first 8 weeks of life. The only time he was not latched on was when my DDs needed me, and then he was screaming bloody murder in DH's arms until I could nurse him again. They nurse for so many reasons besides nourishment, especially at that age-- for comfort, to soothe an overwhelmed nervous system, and to build a solid supply, and many other reasons too.

If babe is not wetting or dirtying diapers, or weight gain is not good, I would try and get somebody who knows what they're doing to evaluate the nursing. And honestly, I would be very suspicious of any LC who suggests limiting baby's time on the breast; that's not sound advice and is likely to compromise your supply.
post #3 of 18
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millions of wet and poopy diapers!!!!!!!!!!! LOL EVERY TIME she feeds (which is every half hour!) she would have a poopy diaper! and we would laugh that she is just like her daddy!!!!!!!!!!! she has gained some weight! she is pleasantly plump! (have you ever seen a FAT breast fed baby? well,she is definately trying to be the first ever FAT breast fed baby! i think that is her goal! she was a mere 6lbs6oz at birth and is now more than 9lbs1oz (we saw the dr a week or two ago). thank you so much for the reply! i do feel better! and i dont always mind nursing 24-7!!! she is a blessing!!! she is the happiest baby ever! she hardly ever fusses! she just breast feeds... constantly! ps.how DO you survive with a two yr old and TWINS????!! i can barely feed this ONE baby! good gosh!
post #4 of 18
I had similar experiences with two of my kiddos. DS #2 and my DD nursed almost non-stop in the first few weeks. DD is now 3 1/2 months old and she nurses every hour to 2 hours if she's awake. The dear little girl has finally started taking longer naps, she naps anywhere from 45 minutes to 3 hours now. So my boobs get a break when she naps but if she's awake she still spends a lot of time nursing. Like the PP said, watch diapers and weight gain. DD is 16 lbs so I'm pretty sure my supply is adequate.

As for pumping, I only got an ounce or two in the early weeks. I don't get much more now, maybe 3 ounces a pumping but I don't pump much.

Hang in there! I know how it feels to be tied down to the couch breastfeeding all the live long day. You wonder if you will ever get a shower again or brush your teeth. Your baby's clothes are stained with spills from your dinner as you eat over her breastfeeding body. It can be frustrating. Learn to nurse lying down if you don't already as this will help get you more rest. Try feeding with baby in a sling if you can as this will give you a bit more freedom to get nesseary things done. I'm glad you are enjoying your babe so much. Hugs to you! Keep up the good work!
post #5 of 18
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Originally Posted by purplemamaaz View Post
Hang in there! I know how it feels to be tied down to the couch breastfeeding all the live long day. You wonder if you will ever get a shower again or brush your teeth. Your baby's clothes are stained with spills from your dinner as you eat over her breastfeeding body. It can be frustrating. Learn to nurse lying down if you don't already as this will help get you more rest. Try feeding with baby in a sling if you can as this will give you a bit more freedom to get nesseary things done. I'm glad you are enjoying your babe so much. Hugs to you! Keep up the good work!
oh THANK you , so much for the replies everyone!! do you know what else? i think it is interesting... this baby BURPS!!! are bf babies supposed to do that??? she is not supposed to get air in there! do you suppose she has a bad latch on? still? i mean, she used to have troubles with that but she has gotten better. my nipples are no longer sore. my other baby never burped,,, but maybe once in his entire breast feeding experience.. and we could do that in bed!!!!!!!!! oh... the good old days... LOL if i forgot to burp him, it was not really a problem. does anyone else's bf baby burp???
post #6 of 18
does anyone else's bf baby burp???
My 12 week old burps and farts like some old drunk hanging out on a bar stool. He even lifts his leg to fart. Cute now...not so much later. I swear you are living my life. For his first 9 weeks he was latched on all the time. I can pee with him attached. Not my proudest moments but you know what it's like.
post #7 of 18
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Originally Posted by NlGHTgirl View Post
ps.how DO you survive with a two yr old and TWINS????!! i can barely feed this ONE baby! good gosh!
I don't eat. I don't sleep. I just live on hormones. :

Seriously, it's rough. I won't deny it. But I guess we mamas do what we gotta do, right?
post #8 of 18
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Originally Posted by gsd1amommy View Post
does anyone else's bf baby burp???
My 12 week old burps and farts like some old drunk hanging out on a bar stool. He even lifts his leg to fart. Cute now...not so much later. I swear you are living my life. For his first 9 weeks he was latched on all the time. I can pee with him attached. Not my proudest moments but you know what it's like.
omg!!! that's funny!

yes.i can do many things while bf, but nod off! (cuz this baby needs to burp!! or else she will spit the whole feeding back up! ---what a waste!!)

i usually eat cold oatmeal for breakfast, and lentils & rice (cold) cooked for one week (supply) in the fridge,eggs, cheese, tofu, triscuts crackers (tasty & good fiber) too , walnuts (high Omega 3's - good for baby's brain growth, and very good for vegetarian mommy! and tuna/salmon fish-omega3's, but only once per week as directed by a DR)..protein is esp. important for breastfeeding (and vegetarians!),.i eat w/the arm the baby is not feeding with... gosh...no hot food.. i would not want to hurt the baby... i'm lucky someone brings me groceries!!!!! cuz i can NOT go out to buy them! by the time i get to any destination, it's time to feed the baby (half hour or more..)!!! LOL shop for 25 min? feed the baby again (half hour or more), before going home... feed her as soon as i get home... thats a 4 hour trip! .... longer... if she naps!

post #9 of 18
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maybe... these babies like to feed so often cuz they like to be as close to you as they were for the past 9 mo... while in your belly???
post #10 of 18
My BF babies certainly have produced lots of burps and farts - all day and all night. No sleep partner could be as loud as a new baby - they are all snorts and burps, and loud ripping farts while they load the diaper.

Both my babies liked to nurse. The newest I really didn't set down at all until he was about 6-7 weeks old and he decided to occasionally take a paci. Babies have a high suck need. Like your LO he is a *BIG* BF baby - starting at only 6 lbs 4 oz and weighing at 1 month over 10 lbs. At 6 months he was nearly 20 lbs! By oldest had the same suckfest in the evening for the first several months of his life.

I really think what you are describing is quite normal.
post #11 of 18
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My BF babies certainly have produced lots of burps and farts - all day and all night. No sleep partner could be as loud as a new baby - they are all snorts and burps, and loud ripping farts while they load the diaper. By oldest had the same suckfest in the evening for the first several months of his life.

I really think what you are describing is quite normal.
hee hee!

thank you very much for that last part!!!!!! my other child is seven years old! i just do NOT remember him doing this breast feeding bonanza! it's nuts!

oh yeah, the part about filling the diaper? I heard her rumbling in her pants (in her bedroom) from MY bathroom, three rooms away!!!!!!! goodness!!!!!!! we went thru fifty to sixty diapers in two days the first weeks! (they were cloth diapers...)
post #12 of 18
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do you know what? at 3 months old she finally found out that she could suck her thumb/hand/fingers/arm to self soothe!!!!!! and she was constantly sleeping 5 or 6 or more hours (maybe at 6 weeks old!) yippee!

actually, it is vaguely sad... now she does not need me as much anymore! it is very strange! what do I do ? now that she nurses every half hour OR every hour?
post #13 of 18
She sounds like a normal baby to me.
post #14 of 18
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do you know what's interesting? she is wakeful at night... again! -not wet or cold- awake...at age 5 months!!! yikes! i do not understand it! maybe she is teething? (she does drool buckets and buckets during the day! but she never fusses! she's the happiest baby ever!)

ps. the LC said she can go more than 8 hrs without feeding at night (at age 4 mo.) So.... i only cuddle her when she wakes at night (no breast feeding "rewards" for waking up mommy!!) i only cuddle her if she CRIES ,,, (not merely fussing) does this help? i don't know. people suggest the "crying it out" thing? i don't know? maybe the cuddles comfort me? ?????? i am so wide awake at her cries! i have nothing better to do?

oh... i have nothing against formula feeding! i can certainly understand the need for a break NOW!!!! i never had bf problems with my first baby!!! i used to express lots of oz of milk at work on breaks for ~4 months ! although, we did supplement a little formula when i was at work! he used to sleep excellent! too! i would give him a midnight bf snack,,,, and he would sleep straight until 6 or 7 am! i wish i could have bf him only, but,,, stuff happens! it's OK! it is NOT a failure! i am happy to bf this new baby exclusively as a SAHM! yeah! (and i can no longer produce lots & lots of milk??? is that right??? is that possible? does that happen? the new baby is healthy & plump! but what if i want to go "out" someday?)
post #15 of 18
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Originally Posted by NlGHTgirl View Post
ps. the LC said she can go more than 8 hrs without feeding at night (at age 4 mo.) So.... i only cuddle her when she wakes at night (no breast feeding "rewards" for waking up mommy!!) i only cuddle her if she CRIES ,,, (not merely fussing) does this help? i don't know. people suggest the "crying it out" thing? i don't know? maybe the cuddles comfort me? ?????? i am so wide awake at her cries! i have nothing better to do?
Where did this LC get her certification??? From a formula ad? Seriously, this LC is giving you bad advice. Babies wake at night because they need something. If she wants to eat, feed her.

http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/index.html

http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/4mo-sleep.html

http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns....html#schedule
post #16 of 18
Your baby is waaaay to young to stop nursing at night. That LC gave you bad advice. Its important for your baby AND for your milk supply to keep nursing when she is hungry.

Its not about rewarding her for waking you up, its about meeting your baby's needs. A hungry baby needs to eat. Her stomach is the size of her fist. That's it. That is all the food she can hold in there. She probably is waking up hungry and thirst so start nursing her again! Its important that babies trust their own feelings of hunger and fullness, and to trust that you will help them meet those needs.
post #17 of 18
I had a FAT, F-A-T breastfed baby. Mama's milk has plenty of healthy fat.

this sounds like a normal baby to me also. I definitely wouldn't consider nightweaning- if the baby slept through the night by herself, that would be one thing, but I would not discourage nursing at night. It's not "rewarding" an infant to feed them when they're hungry- it's normal human parenting. It could damage your milk supply to not nurse on demand.

I agree that LC is completely misinformed. I would not listen to her advice. Please feed your baby whenever she is hungry, whether that is day or night.
post #18 of 18
Please nurse her at night when she wakes- at that young age most babies still NEED nutrition at night.

-Angela
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