Update

[mommy2caroline]

Hello all,

I'm the one who was trying to advise my SIL to research circ - I sent her first a few medical links, and then after she responded they'd decided to do it, I sent her the links relating to circing and Christianity, and also made sure to tell her that in no way was I trying to be obnoxious or offensive, that I just thought it was important to share info.

Well, she never responded to that email... and a week later, she sent me an unrelated email. Very friendly, saying her family-thrown shower would be much better if I could come... so she's obviously not mad at me, I suppose!

How likely is it that she didn't get my email? I use gmail, and it appears in my sent items folder, so it looks like it went through. I asked a couple other non-circ related questions in it and didn't get a response... so now I am wondering if she didn't get it... although I am hoping she got it and isn't irritated at me because she is considering the info and doing some research. :

[mommy2caroline]

Oh, I asked her point-blank in my response to this unrelated email if she'd gotten my last email where I had asked her something - an unrelated question - and when she just now replied to it, she avoided the question of whether or not she'd gotten the email - although she did answer the unrelated question at this point. I even asked it as, "I asked you this before, did you get that email? I'm curious since I have had a couple emails lately that didn't go through."

So if she's not going to answer the question of whether or not she got the email... maybe I should assume she did?

Or maybe I should stop with the obsessive trait of over-analyzing!

[mamavegan]

My guess is that she got the email and is avoiding the issue.

[gridley13]

I had the same experience with someone and they did circ. She was avoiding the emails. I hope yours turns out differently!

[TryingMyBest]

Bless your heart...I am a SUPER obsessive person. It's hard to let go of something once it's on your agenda. You might just drop the email issue and just casually ask her how things are going...blah blah blah and you could toss in a nonchalant question to just see if they did it. I mean, I know we don't like anyone getting into our kid's diapers...but you did kind of have interest before hand and with good reason. The only catch is that since she knew the facts ahead of time....you kind of can't tell them to her again now...if she did do the circ. That would seem confrontational. I would drop the email thing though...I agree with PP's...she is probably avoiding the issue...meaning she might have done the circ. If so, you DID try. I hope that this turns out the best way.

[fruitful womb]

Originally Posted by mommy2caroline

a week later, she sent me an unrelated email. Very friendly, saying her family-thrown shower would be much better if I could come... so she's obviously not mad at me, I suppose! :

She probably thanks you for helping her save her ds from mutilation??? She may tell you at the shower. The suspense is horrible isn't it!

[MommytoB]

i think she doing the dh has a penis so she thinks she has no say in it imaybe at the shower to show her how much men really know of their penis status state how you heard a funny story of a 30 yr old guy who had to be told that he was circumcised because he thought circumcision was when the head of the penis was cut off shows how much men know about penis even though they have one

[Quirky]

Can you talk to her directly, and have your dh talk to your BIL directly? It's easy to be passive-aggressive about email -- and it's also easy to get offended because a letter can come off as too aggressive and pushy even if that's not objectively the case.

I think the time for email is past -- it's time to talk to them directly, as hard as that can be.

[mommy2caroline]

Originally Posted by TryingMyBest

I agree with PP's...she is probably avoiding the issue...meaning she might have done the circ. If so, you DID try. I hope that this turns out the best way.

The baby won't be born until November (hopefully, if he stays put the whole 40 weeks). So, I am hoping that she will be mulling it over until then, and discussing it w/ her dh.