Using a sperm bank - Question

[female18-]

How do you feel about your child not knowing who their father is? Never meeting him etc etc? What's everyones views on this?

[MujerMamaMismo]

I'm not sure if you're asking whether we think a child needs a father figure or if a child has the right to know the biological lineage?

I certainly don't think that fathers are essential to a kids wellbeing and future happiness. I do, however, believe that a child has a right to know who their donor/father is and when age appropriate (mid-upper teens) they should have the opportunity to meet them.

[thismama]

I personally think it is important that children are able to find out their entire story, so I myself would not use a bank where the donor was not willing to be known. I think this is more of an issue with adoption, where people don't have access to information about the woman who carried them in her belly for nine months, but I think it is also an issue re: sperm donation, at least IMO.

I think using a known donor, not through a sperm bank, can be a good option so children can know their donor during childhood. That avenue can be more complex and I think needs to be taken with eyes open and a clear agreement in place, but I really like it as there is no mystery.