Victory...at a cost.

[eli's mama]

So, I've posted about my sister and her fiancee and how she plans to circ any boy children they might have. Some of you were kind enough to respond with suggestions on how to talk to them, and I appreciate that! But nothing I said to her (I never see him) had made a difference until the other day. A close friends SIL just had a baby boy in July, they circ'd him and it went wrong. He bled a lot, they had to keep him, it was and is horrible. I'm devestated that it had to happen to another innocent baby, but upon hearing the story of someone we know having an incident, my sister went home, started googling videos and information and made the decision on her own not to circ. She called me the next day and even though I wanted to scream at her for putting me through the agony of all of that, I was so relieved! I am so relieved!!!! Now the boyfriend is another story, but the battle is half over. And she already started working on him.
And also, for that poor baby boy.

[kldliam]

no victory is won without failure. Your activism helped here!

[Mommiska]

Oh, gosh...I am so sorry for that poor baby, but thankful that your sister's baby will be spared.

I wish people would realise that circumcision really is a SURGERY and that it can go wrong (besides the obvious wrong of cutting off a healthy, functional part of someone else's body without their consent : ).

[lovesdaffodils]

Sometimes people just need an extra push to really "get" what we're saying. It sounds like your sister got that!

Just be grateful she wasn't like the many people who hear of a complication (or even experience one) and continue to circ anyway. Probably thanks to your intactivism, this spurred her into researching and saying no to circ, instead of accepting it and continuing anyway.

[fruitful womb]

I'm so angry at that doctor for what he did to the poor innocent baby! I bet his parents are feeling wretched guilt by now! This needs to be outlawed ppl!!

I guarantee you that if you had not been educating her about this and that poor baby still went through his tragedy she would have passed it off as a fluke. Your activism really helped.

[Quirky]

Well, on the bright(er) side, the poor little boy would have suffered no matter whether or not your SIL was around to be educated, so I suppose it's better that one suffer than two. : I hope your SIL and the parents of this poor little boy will spread the word though to help prevent even more boys from suffering this atrocity.

It is a shame that it took a personal tragedy of someone she knew to get through to her, but some people are just like that. You can give them all the statistics in the world but until it happens to someone they know it's just not personal.

Now just make sure you educate her on the care of the intact penis so that some quack doesn't convince her to circ her son for no good reason down the road!

[Papai]

Unfortunately, it really takes stories like to shake a lot of people out of the mindset that circ= no harm.

I'm glad your nephew will be intact.