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post #21 of 31
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Originally Posted by Papai View Post
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OH man, those quotes you posted fruitful womb, really paint the pro-circ advocates as fetishists. I mean these people are waxing poetic about erect-looking penises? :Puke
Yeah - and erect penises on newborn babies. These people are beyond sick. :Puke
post #22 of 31
Lovingmommyhood - I do think these quotes are from circ fetishists - but there are more of those out there than we think.

I think you are right, and that the average mom isn't thinking about being personally sexually attracted to her own son when she has him circed. But the fact that this is a reason that often comes up ('it looks better') with moms who circ, does suggest that this is an issue that needs to be brought up and challenged.

WHY is it acceptable for a parent to sexually modify his/her child, because of her his/her own aesthetic preferences? As others have pointed out, no way would this be acceptable if a father wanted to sexually modify his daughter, you know?

It's amazing what people will accept as 'OK' simply because they know lots of other people who accept the same thing as 'OK'.
post #23 of 31
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I was really curious where you were finding these bizarre quotes so I did a little digging. Hmmm... I knew I smelled something fishy.
They may sound bizarre, but people like Brian morris write papers and are in the news ALLLLL the time on this issue. Just google news search him. This a guy that parents hear from!!!

In addition, a recent video on the stanford medical site which demonstrated a circumcision had the doctor talking about "this is how you make apretty penis" and comparing the circumcised penis to a rose/other flowers.

It seems crazy, IT IS CRAZY...but this stuff is not just the work of a few web sites. It's out there in our world, and parents are listening and learning from these sickos.
post #24 of 31
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Originally Posted by lovingmommyhood View Post
There are many reasons that parents (it's not only evil mothers "putting it upon" their newborns by the way) circumcise their children and I think you would be hard pressed to find one whos reasoning was sexual attraction to the infants genitals. That is a major stretch. A lot of the time the parents are mis or uninformed about the whole thing and just think everybody else is doing it so it must be right.

DS1 is circumcised and his glans kept reattaching. I had no clue about anything and I just kept bringing him back to the ped and he kept pulling it down and instructed me to do so as well. I thought it would reattach and become deformed. Like I said, I had NO clue. It had nothing to do with being attracted to his penis and that really makes me sick that you would even say that.

I was really curious where you were finding these bizarre quotes so I did a little digging. Hmmm... I knew I smelled something fishy.


"An interest in 'the flesh' can be noted in circumcision enthusiasts. This is obvious in a sexually charged website like Circlist,26 but examples of 'glorying in the flesh' can also be seen in medical and other circles. Take a neonatal nurse, quoted in Circlist: (Again, the sexually charged website)

'Assisting during circumcisions is the favorite part of my job, as I think it's a moment of magic when a baby boy's glans is permanently exposed for the first time in his young life.' Sandra (US)27

Naturally, she took steps to ensure that she had more moments of magic:
'As a nurse in the maternity wing of a large hospital, I have assisted with several hundred circumcisions. I am 100% in favor of routine circumcision. The pain the baby experiences is no doubt considerable, but I think it's more than worth it. … I strongly encourage any expectant mother to do it.'28

Circumcision also made a good show for this doctor:

'[C]ircumcision is a beautification comparable to rhinoplasty, and a circumcised penis appears in its flaccid state as an erect uncircumcised organ - a beautiful instrument of precise intent.'29

Doctor Brian Morris, a circumcision advocate, makes the same point. After noting a survey of American women where 90 per cent of respondents said that the circumcised penis 'looked sexier' he wrote:

'What then is sexier about a circumcised penis? Quite likely it is that the glans is exposed in both the erect and unerect state, and therefore the unerect state still suggests the erect.'30

So it seems that American women like the same show. And so do some of the men. Marvel Williamson and Paul Williamson, two medical researchers, said:

'While the foreskin of an uncircumcised penis can be retracted, the circumcised penis exists in exposed beauty whether flaccid or erect.'31
Frankness is indeed a feature of their study. It asked new mothers what kind of penis they preferred for certain kinds of sexual activities. What they found was the sexual involvement in the decisions of the mothers who had their sons circumcised.

'While many mothers may not consciously view their sons as sexual beings, many may opt for circumcision with the belief that the son will be more sexually attractive to his future sexual partners, based on how they themselves feel.'32"

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Your RIGHT!! Thats exactly where I got it from!!!
I didn't post that link because I was afraid the MODS would shut me down...
Here is where the quotes from that document came from.

Circlist: Personal Preferences and Experiences. (Spool down or seach for "Sandra".) <http://www.circlist.org/cpreferences.html>, accessed 15 October 2001.

Legitimate Professionals do go on that site!
I don't doubt she was a real nurse. My MIL is a nurse. I've heard her talk like this too. Says its "prettier". She assisted in circumcisions and "the babies don't feel pain." Tell me you don't think thats evil!


Goodwin quoted by Kaufman JJ: Should circumcision be done routinely? Med Aspects Hum Sexual 1:27-28, 1967. It was quoted in 'Whither the Foreskin? A Consideration of Routine Neonatal Circumcision' by Capt. E. Noel Preston, MC, USAF, Journal of the American Medical Association, Volume 213 Number 11: Pages 1853-1858, September 14, 1970. <http://www.cirp.org/library/general/preston/>

Not from Circlist!
Brian Morris, In Favour of Circumcision, UNSW Press, Sydney, Australia, 1999, page 55.

Again NOT from Circlist
Marvel L. Williamson and Paul S. Williamson. Women's Preferences for Penile Circumcision In Sexual Partners. Journal of Sex Education and Therapy vol 14, No. 2, (Fall/Winter 1988) pp. 8-12. <http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2754/womenpref.html>, accessed 15 October 2001.
Do I have to tell you again?

What does it matter if it was from a sexually charged website anyways? The point is, these are REAL PEOPLE who get together loathing about the flesh and glorify the altered human being!

Before you go and excuse me of calling mothers "Evil"! I didn't call these mothers evil. I personally know mothers who were adamant that their son's had to "Look" a certain way so they signed them up for cosmetic surgery. Subconsciously this stems from her own preference in a male partner. Most Americans are conditioned that a penis has to look a certain way and it wasn't the "INTACT" genitalia! American Medical Professionals (The ones educated in America) are taught in medical school that the INTACT MALE GENITALIA is gross and ugly. WHY? Because medical text books show only circumcised penises, EVEN IN UTERO! I KNOW this because my cousin is a Doctor fresh from residency. I asked him what they teach doctors about the foreskin, he said, "Nothing, they just taught me how to cut it off". They only teach them how to amputate normal healthy tissue. Not that the tissue is healthy and has a purpose.

I have a friend who is a nurse and she told me about the medical text books having pictures of circumcised penises in utero. And I believe her. The American Medical Establishment will not rush into circumcising a female child BECAUSE they teach medical students how to properly care for her if an infection ever arise. This is beyond discrimination! This is ignorance and BIGOTED behavior. My friend, the nurse, ADMITS she use to talk like the nurse in the quote I posted. I've heard FIRST HAND the same kind of talks from MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS. Its not as far fetch as you think. They are brainwashed for a reason. They're taught to think like this so circumcision can continue in America.

The parents who subject their newborn ds's to this atrocity ARE uneducated on the matter. I ALLOWED THIS TO HAPPEN TO MY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!!! Because I didn't know any better. Growing up only seeing circumcised penises (babysitting), and never knowing what was really normal. I didn't think the intact penis looked normal to me. I thought it was suppose to look like what I was more attracted to. I know, its sick. This kept me stuck on fence when my ds was about to go through circumcision. Yes, my instincts were screaming. Now that I know better, I find the intact penis very sexy, sorry TMI! YOU CAN FLAME ME ALL YOU WANT!!!!!!!!!! IT'LL NEVER BE AS BAD AS WHAT I GO THROUGH EV-ER-Y SING-LE DAY, and possible till the day I die. MY WOUND WILL NEVER HEAL!!! Don't dismiss my quotes too quickly. They ARE the WORK of REAL PEOPLE. THESE PEOPLE DO EXIST!!!

Whats with this, "I thought I smelled something fishy"? AND I THOUGHT we were all in this together trying hard to STOP RIC!!! IF someone has their information incorrect, (WHICH I DON'T!) we're here to HELP THEM GET IT RIGHT, NOT FLAME THEM!!! ITS THIS JOB, MY SOLE PURPOSE IN THIS LIFE - TO SAVE THESE NEWBORN BOYS FROM NEEDLESS TORCHURE,(and to love my family of course) ITS THE ONLY WAY TO GET BETTER AT WHAT WE DO!
post #25 of 31
You're right about medical professionals, Fruitful - my mom, an RN for 50 years (she's now 82 and still working!) openly admits that she was trained to lie to mothers, she was taught that babies don't feel pain, she even told me that "they go to sleep"! And she is now against circ - only after some education from me for the last 15 years! You know what's really weird? When I told her we would leave a boy intact (20 years ago!) she flipped, gave all the common myths about it being dirty, getting infected etc. My older sister was a medical assistant then and told me the same lies - it's just a piece of skin, it doesn't hurt, so many infected boys comeinto our practice, etc. Then I find out, FOR THE 1ST TIME, that my dad is intact!! He has always been modest LOL! I wonder how he felt all those years hearing how "unhealthy and dirty" his penis is?? Plus my brother is circ'd (b.1967). It's so twisted and obscene!
post #26 of 31
I'm sorry I got sensitive, lovingmommyhood I've been having "one of those days". I'm actually glad you researched this on your own. Another poster questioned the legitimacy of the quotes too. That shows GOOD character! No one should just take someone's word for it. I admire that. Thanks.
post #27 of 31
I was reading another forum where one woman talks about wishing doctors used a new type of circumcision device that takes off all the foreskin and leaves the scar at the base of the penis. This forum also has a lot of the mothers very upset about there sons' getting loose circumcisions and having to go in and getting them re-circed. because the penis doesn't look good.

I was just in shock as to what I was reading!!
post #28 of 31
I'm working on an e-mail right now. I've been trying to compose a good argument to a Mohel who I wrote to in the first place complaining about his brochures in my EX- MW's office as he was promoting circumcision. It was advertising his services. This is one of his direct quotes.
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your mutilation is another’s beautification.
If any of you want to read his e-mail to me I'd be more than happy to PM you! I really need help composing a reply. Not quite finished with it yet.

~FW
post #29 of 31
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Originally Posted by kathy1_10 View Post
I was reading another forum where one woman talks about wishing doctors used a new type of circumcision device that takes off all the foreskin and leaves the scar at the base of the penis. This forum also has a lot of the mothers very upset about there sons' getting loose circumcisions and having to go in and getting them re-circed. because the penis doesn't look good.

I was just in shock as to what I was reading!!
If the doctor cut the whole thing off maybe that would satisfy them?
post #30 of 31

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Originally Posted by fruitful womb View Post
I'm working on an e-mail right now. I've been trying to compose a good argument to a Mohel who I wrote to in the first place complaining about his brochures in my EX- MW's office as he was promoting circumcision. It was advertising his services. This is one of his direct quotes.

If any of you want to read his e-mail to me I'd be more than happy to PM you! I really need help composing a reply. Not quite finished with it yet.

~FW
Please PM me. Thanks.
post #31 of 31
sick. sick. sick. my stomach is in knots just thinking about these parents who would injure their child so horribly (not even just once, either, but again and again)just so that his penis could look a particular way...
Are these the same people who bring thier daughters in for a boob job on her 16th birthday? ugh. grossly mis-placed priorities...
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