have you told anyone? - Page 2

[chely7425]

Pretty much everyone knows here too... at least everyone we talk to on a regular basis!! I wanted to wait and just tell family until 12 weeks but the boyfriend just can't keep his mouth shut

[sadiejane08]

Originally Posted by celestialdreamer

She recently was going on and on about how "people shouldn't have more than 2 kids, blahblahblah I did my part and only had 2..." UGH!

I often think this is the mark of someone who actually wanted more, but didn't have them.

[Stacy821]

I wasn't planning on telling anyone this early for this pregnancy, but all that it took was to a few people (besides my immediate family) and I had people calling me that day! It's so annoying to be in a small town where nothing can be kept secret.

[jeomom3]

I haven't told anyone irl....not even DH!!! We lost our last one at 15 weeks and I have no confidence that this one will stick. I'm really hoping and praying that it does, but I don't want to get anyone's hopes up (not even mine and DH's) until I see a heartbeat on u/s. Even then I know things can go wrong. But last time there turned out to be no baby, only a placenta that gave me all the pregnancy symptoms, including m/s and growing belly.

I am lucky that all my friends and family were very supportive last time we announced we were having #4. I think I will try to wait as long as possible to tell anyone. I have always had very bad morning sickness so it might be hard to hide it as long as I'd like. Anyway, here's hoping that I will be able to tell DH in a few weeks when I've seen a hb!

[takasmom]

we haven't told anyone yet and i am just avoiding people (a) because i feel pukey and (b) because it's impossible for me to keep a secret! don't know when i'll feel like it's finally ok to tell...i mean won't they just figure it out eventually?!

[GISDiva]

Originally Posted by My3babes

I have only told DH, my best friend, and my online groups...

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I may start slowly leaking it out to a couple more friends who have been pulling for us, but I'm trying really hard to make it to 12 weeks as well.

I think MIL had suspicions last weekend, I got to hear WAY too much information on her 3 pregnancies for some reason.

[christinespurlock]

Originally Posted by jeomom3

I haven't told anyone irl....not even DH!!! We lost our last one at 15 weeks and I have no confidence that this one will stick. I'm really hoping and praying that it does, but I don't want to get anyone's hopes up (not even mine and DH's) until I see a heartbeat on u/s. Even then I know things can go wrong. But last time there turned out to be no baby, only a placenta that gave me all the pregnancy symptoms, including m/s and growing belly.

I am lucky that all my friends and family were very supportive last time we announced we were having #4. I think I will try to wait as long as possible to tell anyone. I have always had very bad morning sickness so it might be hard to hide it as long as I'd like. Anyway, here's hoping that I will be able to tell DH in a few weeks when I've seen a hb!

I'm there with you. My last died too. The baby died at around 8 weeks and I found out at 16 weeks. I told everyone. And I'm still having to tell everyone that I lost that one. Two weeks from tomorrow is my u/s. I envision both senarios over and over again. I just hope time goes by a bit faster.

[tarajean56]

Besides DH and I, we have told a few close friends and my mom. Part of me is really enjoying keeping a secret because I never am able to do it! Its kind of fun having this special thing going on that only a few people know about. Also, I am afraid we are going to hear it since DS is only 10 months old...so I guess I'm postponing that...

I'm sure we are going to tell the rest of the parents soon, but I don't know when we will tell our friends. We have a few sets of friends that are TTC for a while now, and I just don't know the best way to share our news.

[s_kristina]

I've told most of my online friends, but only dh knows irl. We are going to have to tell some people before long though as we had told them they could use our swing. Sorry about that, but with reflux babies it lets me get a shower in so I'm going to have to take back that offer. I'm still so scared about this entire pg that telling anyone irl is very nerve wracking for me. It doesn't help that I'm going to be screwing up family plans as my brother is getting married in the spring to his long time dp. I'll be very surprised if we get any grief over having #3 as my parents had 4 and my sister has 5. They bugged us more when we thought we were done with 2.

[paphia]

For me it's still just DH, my sis (living with us) and my bf in another state. She said she wanted to tell her parents and I said okay (she loves her parents, they're very sweet and they have no connection to my family or any other friends). It is a big secret right now. I don't want anyone else involved for some reason. I think everyone was so nervous, I had random people calling me on my due date and every night after until I went in to labor, family visiting and making me stressed out, etc.

I guess it's still all too fresh in my mind, and I don't want a repeat. Also, I didn't feel supported at all by my mom. I had a lot of fears of being cut by a dr. in the hospital and my mom just blew me off and kept telling me to "stop reading" and trust my doctor and I just couldn't do that and she just wouldn't lay off or listen to me. Since then she's opined on the topics of homebirth and not seeing a dr. for prenatal care and she is incredibly uninformed, misinformed, negative and judgmental. She also makes people's private business topic for conversation (she told me all about a cousin's wife's pregnancy scare - had some spotting - and I've never even met this woman...) so I just want to leave her out of it as long as possible and then reveal as little information as possible when the time comes. But then that means I have to keep quiet about it to everyone else.

I'll probably mention it to the IL's and my family after 3 months or when I start showing, but I am totally lying about due dates. I'm going to tell everyone the middle of May so I don't get the phone calls or visits until hopefully after the baby is here.

[accountclosed6]

Only DH, my midwife, MDC, and our good friend in Europe (only because I was staying with them for weeks 4-7). We aren't telling ANYONE else IRL until after 12 weeks. I really need to tell work, but I'm holding out. I've had to outright lie to several people already. I've been avoiding people a bit...

My first midwife appt. is September 17- that's 12 weeks, so I assume after that appt. we'll start telling people. I waited that long for my first appt. because I wanted DH to hear the heartbeat at our first appt. to make it more real for him. There won't be any US or anything, so the heartbeat is all he's getting!

[emcare]

Everyone I talk to on a regular basis knows. I could never keep a secret this good, so I don't even try. My husband feels the need to tell everyone 10 minutes after the test comes back postive, so I'm not alone in my blabber-mouthiness.

[celestialdreamer]

Originally Posted by jeomom3

I haven't told anyone irl....not even DH!!! We lost our last one at 15 weeks and I have no confidence that this one will stick. I'm really hoping and praying that it does, but I don't want to get anyone's hopes up (not even mine and DH's) until I see a heartbeat on u/s. Even then I know things can go wrong. But last time there turned out to be no baby, only a placenta that gave me all the pregnancy symptoms, including m/s and growing belly.

I am lucky that all my friends and family were very supportive last time we announced we were having #4. I think I will try to wait as long as possible to tell anyone. I have always had very bad morning sickness so it might be hard to hide it as long as I'd like. Anyway, here's hoping that I will be able to tell DH in a few weeks when I've seen a hb!

I'm so sorry for your previous loss I understand why you don't want to get your hopes up quite yet. Obviously its really up to you, but don't you think maybe it might be good to talk to your DH? It is his baby too and you will probably want his support either way. I hope this doesn't offend you, I just think that you sound like you could use some support IRL. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes fine for you!

[Sunshine4004]

Originally Posted by JorgieGirl

It's extremely hard to keep a secret in my family, so everyone and their dog knows. I'm not bothered by it.

It is our first and we were too excited to keep it a complete secret. My mom is so excited since this is her first grandchild that if I didn't stop her I think she would stop people in the middle of the grocery store to tell them she is going to be a grandma! Most of our families know. We have told some of our close friends. I have not told my co-workers yet and do not plan to until after the first u/s at 9 weeks.

[Jennisee]

Since I've "told" MDC, I've told several friends who are members, but I haven't told anyone else IRL except DH. I'm considering telling my brother next week since he will be home from grad school for the last time in months.

I want to wait as long as possible before making the pregnancy public knowledge, but it's getting really hard to hide from people how tired I am. I had to lie to my dad yesterday and tell him that I've been sick. I know family is wondering why I haven't been in the garden in almost two weeks, but I just keep telling them that it's too hot.

[jeomom3]

christinespurlock- I'm sorry for your loss. I noticed you are planning an early u/s. I am too. I never had one before, but I'm definitely getting one this time. If this baby doesn't make it I want to know as soon as possible. It was horrible going so long thinking everything was fine.

celestialdreamer- You're right. I probably should tell him. But the m/c was pretty hard on him, too. And his job is really stressful right now. I just don't want to add any more stress or worry to his life right now. And, to be completely honest, I kind of enjoy keeping the pregnancy to myself for at least a little while. I didn't tell dh about #3 or #4 right away either. It's like a delicious little secret between me and baby (and everyone on MDC, but somehow that's different! )

I would love to be able to keep the secret between just me, dh, and baby until 12-16 weeks. But I always throw up 4-5 times a day starting at week 6 and lasting until week 18, so it will be pretty hard to hide it from anyone that knows me. These first couple of weeks are all I have.

[MamaVolpe]

I just found out today and the only person I have told is my sister and her 4 mo old baby. Both are good at keeping secrets. I am going to tell DH over dinner Sat. I want it to be a cool suprise so I am going to get him a baby outfit that says "My Daddy Loves Me" and a book of You Owe Me pregnancy coupons then suprise him with them over dinner. I am also getting my ears pierced. I never had before and have been reluctant to get them done because I would have to stop my aphresis donating for several months. I always said that once I got pregnant I would get my ears pierced since I couldn't donate while pregnant anyway. Hopefully he will get me some nice earings with the appropriate birthstone when our baby is born. I am so excited and it is killing me to wait two more days to tell him. I am the worst at keeping secrets but I will try my hardest to last until then.

[christinespurlock]

:[QUOTE=jeomom3;8982629]christinespurlock- I'm sorry for your loss. I noticed you are planning an early u/s. I am too. I never had one before, but I'm definitely getting one this time. If this baby doesn't make it I want to know as soon as possible. It was horrible going so long thinking everything was fine.

I never had an u/s with my son-I thought they were too intrusive. But after 2 months of holding a baby that has already past in my womb-I am very okay with my 7 week u/s. And if we can't hear the hb at 12 week-another u/s. It will be an emotional day. The only u/s I've seen of a baby of mine was the one that past.:

[jeomom3]

, christinespurlock. May your next ultrasound be a joyful experience.

It's amazing how much our past pregnancy experiences can affect choices for the current one. Although I know that miscarriages are common and that I have a very good chance of having a completely healthy and normal pregnancy this time, I really NEED that reassurance of an u/s that shows that there is actually a baby growing in there. I know that some women heard the hb and then lost the baby, so there really is no guarantee. But for me, confirming it early on will be an important step for me to start believing that this one is for keeps.

[sapientia]

I haven't

told anyone but my husband(and another forum) we lost a pregnancy in may at 12 weeks-very bad bleeding and hospital visit. Very traumatic...I am 7 weeks now so I am hoping and praying that everything is ok-but can't seem to bring myself to really tell anyone yet. I have 4 children and my family is going to be out right livid and cruel when they hear about this one. i just can't face that kind of meanness right now esp. Since my husband dropped it on me a week after we found out I am pregnant that he is moving out. (which means I had to quit culinary school to get a full time job to support my family)
i am so happy about this pregnancy but everything else kinda blows right now.: