???Weekly Thread??? - Page 2

[BoringTales]

I'm still here and pregnant.

I just wanted to toss out there that after my last delivery we DTD 11 days pp. I didn't really tear at all and I was definitely the aggressor in that whole deal! We'll see this time. We'll definitely use condoms though. I gotta get him into the condom routine because that's going to be our primary form of BC once this little guy comes out!

[quetinha]

Thanks, again, for all the responses. I had been going normally at first so I don't know why the sudden back up but it was very painful. I went to the drugstore to pick up a prescription for my older son tonight but couldn't bare to ask the very young, good looking guy at the counter... My husband was waiting in the car and when I went out I burst into tears. He was like, "what if you tell him you can't poop then you can't flirt with him hehehe".
I had to go to a different pharmacy so I asked there. Wound up with an enema and IT WORKED. It wasn't the most enjoyable experience but better than the suffering!!

As for babies weight, we had our 2 week appointment and he was up 4.5 oz. I guess that's good.

I hadn't even thought about birth control yet. I know we will want to have one more baby (though not immediatley!) I guess condoms do seem best right now though just to make sure nothing gets up there...

[danotoyou2]

For all the mom's thinking about sex.... are you nuts?! Don't you realize that sex is what got you into this mess in the first place?! But seriously, sex is something I'm not even considering at this stage of pregnancy, and I know it'll be a good two months or so before I feel up to it post-partum. DH is understanding, and other than the occasional comments about blue balls, he suffers in silence.

As for me... I'm so depressed today. I really want to have this baby, and it seems like my entire life is on hold until I go into labor. I'm in pain all the time; either from back pain, hip pain, or contractions (prodromal labor), and am having a hard time taking care of DS. Every day it gets harder to pick him up, chase him down to change a diaper, and find the energy to just flat feed the little monster (he's a handful). I know that it won't get any easier once I have a newborn, but at least that will be the beginning of the next phase, whereas now I just feel like everything is still spiraling downhill... once I give birth, it'll be the beginning of improvement.

So, that's my gripe for the day... week.. month...

[ladyleigh]

Good luck to all you mama's still waiting. I was 9 days past my due date and losing my mind. Soooo uncomfortable. But- alas- I did finally go into labor!

My ds is so awesome I can't believe it. He eats and sleeps like a champ. He gained 2 oz and 1 cm in his first week. I'm not nearly as sleep deprived as I thought I would be.

My body feels good- no tearing. I'm down to a panty liner at 7 days pp.

The only concerns I have are all in my head. I keep wondering 'Am I enjoying this time enough? Am I happy enough." Why I wonder this, who knows. I am totally happy and blissed but somehow I worry that I'm not as plugged in 'as I should be'. I worry that other mamas are happier than me and I am doing something wrong. Ack- I get so annoyed at my stupid mind! I'm making up things to worry about that aren't even true.

[EkkaGrrl]

Originally Posted by danotoyou2

As for me... I'm so depressed today. I really want to have this baby, and it seems like my entire life is on hold until I go into labor. I'm in pain all the time; either from back pain, hip pain, or contractions (prodromal labor), and am having a hard time taking care of DS. Every day it gets harder to pick him up, chase him down to change a diaper, and find the energy to just flat feed the little monster (he's a handful). I know that it won't get any easier once I have a newborn, but at least that will be the beginning of the next phase, whereas now I just feel like everything is still spiraling downhill... once I give birth, it'll be the beginning of improvement.

So, that's my gripe for the day... week.. month...

I soooo feel for you! This is eactly how I feel!!! I can't do anything but I look around me and see so much left to do. I haven't been able to pick dd up in months. I'm just really ready to have this little one.

[kristen1978]

Originally Posted by ladyleigh

The only concerns I have are all in my head. I keep wondering 'Am I enjoying this time enough? Am I happy enough." Why I wonder this, who knows. I am totally happy and blissed but somehow I worry that I'm not as plugged in 'as I should be'. I worry that other mamas are happier than me and I am doing something wrong. Ack- I get so annoyed at my stupid mind! I'm making up things to worry about that aren't even true.

ladyleigh -- I hope you know that that is COMPLETELY normal. In a way we have overly romantic ideas as a culture, and assume that we should be feeling that "bliss" after having a baby. Not to say that we shouldn't be careful about PPD, etc, but so many mamas assume something's wrong because they don't feel as though they are walking on clouds, when there is absolutely NOTHING wrong, kwim?

Take a deep breath and enjoy the nice moments, mama, and allow yourself to feel bummed when it gets hard -- you're only human!

[plummum]

Originally Posted by kristen1978

ladyleigh -- I hope you know that that is COMPLETELY normal. In a way we have overly romantic ideas as a culture, and assume that we should be feeling that "bliss" after having a baby.

Yes and you might find it interesting to talk to women from other cultures. I have talked to French women with newborns who say "well this baby and I are just getting to know one another, I think we may fall in love when we know each other better".

So I suspect some of the bliss you hear about is exaggerated because it's expected by the people around.

You're very busy and taking great care of the baby! Good work!

[quetinha]

I had a little harder time with my first. My whole pregnancy I couldn't wait to have a baby. Once he was here I remember feeling like I wish I could send him back to the hospital (usually at night when he was crying!) It took time to bond with him. This pregnancy I just loved the pregnancy itself and didn't really look "forward" to the baby. But the baby and bonding part has been much easier. I wonder if it's better because I braced myslef for the feelings? Or if it's all in the hormones....

I do feel bad that I'm not taking as many pictures. I keep thinking I should then forget to!

One thing I'm having a hard time with is his name. It just isn't clicking for me. I'm not used to it and it doesn't quite feel right. I have moments of regret and I when people ask me his name I feel embarrassed for some reason. I really hope this passes! I keep wondering if it's because we didn't pick until after he was born whereas with ds1 I had his name since I was 14 weeks along.

[mama2walden&luna]

Well, I think that Noah is a great name. It's a name I would have like had we had a boy. You'll get used to it, don't worry. I had the same kind of deal with Walden. So many people said they didn't like her name, I felt awkward about it, but I got over it.

[ladyleigh]

I like the name Noah as well.

Thanks for the replies- I have been able to give myself an easier time. I can't believe how quickly time is moving. We compared pics of yesterday to last sunday and he looks so different!

We are dealing with gas/fussiness issues. I think I am eating something he doesn't like. Giving him a little bit of Gripe Water seems to help.