3 year old always waking 7 mnth old..any advice?

[Cyndi33]

Everyday nap time has turned into a huge struggle.
I get my baby to sleep in a sling while im reading to my dd. Then I try to pat my dd to sleep. Before we had the baby she went to sleep at nap and bed time pretty easily. Now she will try to wake up the baby,usually making loud noises, grabbing him, flip flopping around. I ask her to stop, tell her its time to rest she just laughs at me like shes testing what I will do. Its so frustrating.
I think she is right at the edge of giving up her nap but she is really high energy and when she does sleep she crashes, and if she misses the nap she is really overtired by evening but goes to sleep earlier. On the days she doesnt sleep the baby ends up sleeping a lot less b/c she usually wakes him either on purpose or inadvertantly.
I have tried to explain that the baby needs to get sleep to and lets have quiet time, but quiet shes not. I get really short with her and a couple times ive lost my temper which i hate. I guess Im not sure what to do??
Any advice would be great.

[lil_stinkyfeet]

So you all lay down together, is that right? Is there anyway you could lay your 3 year old down first and when she falls asleep sling the baby and join your 3 y/o?

[Cyndi33]

She starts out in her toddler bed, and usually after about an hour will come in and sleep in our room. Ive tried to start her out in our room but she wont fall asleep. She does this at night too, starts out in her room the comes over at some point and sleeps with us. We need a bigger bed so that we can all fit comfortably!

[lil_stinkyfeet]

Originally Posted by Cyndi33

She starts out in her toddler bed, and usually after about an hour will come in and sleep in our room. Ive tried to start her out in our room but she wont fall asleep. She does this at night too, starts out in her room the comes over at some point and sleeps with us. We need a bigger bed so that we can all fit comfortably!

I know the feeling! We broke down and bought a king. My dd too thinks she should give up her nap, she is almost 4 and still needs it.

[Cyndi33]

I think thats what we will have to do too! Do you guys all nap together?

[lil_stinkyfeet]

Originally Posted by Cyndi33

I think thats what we will have to do too! Do you guys all nap together?

No nap time is my down time which I am currently having right now, I need to re-energize for the second half of the day

Dd naps in my bed and the boys nap in their beds. I am not a full blown co-sleeper I like having my time with dh in the evening so the kids start out in their beds and then whoever wanders in, is more than welcome to join. Dd comes in every night for sure, but it works for me b/c dh get to have our time alone when we first put the kids to bed.

[BonMaman]

: there are so many similarities to our situation in the posts here, from my older child waking my younger to the older one trying to give up his nap (to which I say, please not yet!) to naptime being my downtime. I don't have much advice, especially today -- which has been particularly trying -- just