Baby Showers

[*Lindsey*]

My MIL, 3 SILs, and aunt are throwing us a twin shower on Sunday! I am very excited...mostly to get out of the house and do something! Not that the cute little clothes won't be nice...

Anyone know if/when they are having a shower? It feels a little strange to be having one (for #3 & #4). And, I suppose it's earlier than most people have them since they wanted to make sure we were all set before these girls come.

[Curlita]

My sis just left me a semi-mysterious message asking me about dates I'm free in Sept and Oct, so it looks like there will be a shower for me. I wasn't sure, since no one had mentioned anything. I have just about everything I absolutely need anyway, but... it's always fun to be an honored guest at something!

I know what you mean about feeling a little strange and sheepish to be having a shower after the first nipper.

[Dee-Groovy]

Wow congrats Lindsey! That sounds like so much fun - two of everything. Holy cow, you're going to be swimming in tiny pink outfits!

When are showers typically given? This is my first so I'm not familiar with etiquette/protocol. Technically I'm not having a shower but I'll get some small gifts from coworkers. I'm just wondering when to expect them so I can finish shopping myself.

[kathteach]

Oh Lindsey I am way happy for you! Yipppeee!!!! Can't wait to hear how it goes. Maybe you will even share some photos with us....please??

[Mama Bear]

Oh fun!!! It doesn't matter if its your 6th baby! I think every mom and babe deserves a shower. Even if its just a girls get together for some cake. It nice to feel loved.

I have no clue if anyone's planning anything for me. I am kinda getting worried b/c we do need some stuff and I just think it would be nice to have some sort of party to feel special. No one's asked me or hinted. I am kinda feeling bummed about it actually.

[*Lindsey*]

Aw, Christine. Could you possibly hint about it to someone close to you?

[LittleBrownDog]

I'm pretty sure I'm not having one, and I'm OK with that. It would be nice but I'm not upset. I am planning my SILs, so I have that to look forward to and I think it will be fun- It's her first baby and it's going to be a BIG shindig! Yikes!

[wwisdomskr]

How exciting!

We didn't get a shower for the dd1... The spouses association at my dh's first duty station caught wind of that and threw us a really sweet one when she was about 6 weeks old. Course, we couldn't use anything that we received... But, the thought was really touching.

My sil and my dear friend threw us a really lovely baby shower with dd2...and the same friend gave me a surprise mother's blessing. It was one of the best experiences of my life.

This time, I'm not expecting anything...so, I'm throwing myself a henna party in October! : I'm so excited! And it will be nice to pamper some of the friends who have cooked and cared for me during this difficult pregnancy.

[AimeeandBrian]

Mine's October 6, which means I can't really buy much until then! I will be so stressed for the next 6 weeks after that lol

[dcgrl]

I think I'm having a work one, and husband's coworkers might have one, too. We moved here just a couple of years ago, so most of our friends are in New England, and family's scattered across the country--so that means probably no "big" shower.

[sandiegokristi]

I am having one on October 6th. I felt kinda funny about it at first seeing as how this is my second son and they are so close in age, but my Dad insists that every baby deserves a shower. My parents are going to host the shower at my house and it will be co-ed and more like a bbq get together to celebrate. I am not registering this time and just look forward to seeing everyone. Gifts are not necessary! If my son were older and was able to understand that he is becoming a big brother, then I would just throw him a big brother party instead.

[melissakc]

No one has asked me if I want a shower, but I don't really want one anyway. I have one friend who suggested we go to tea, which is nice. But I really, really, really, really, really, really, really want a blessingway instead. Unfortunately, she isn't the sort to do that. I might have to do my own and just invite my crunchy friends. :

[scheelimama]

Since I'm having a girl and really don't need anything, I told my friends that I really didn't want a shower. I suppose I'm the odd ball here. But I've had enough showers with my first two girls (more than one with dd2 between work, church and other friends), so I feel satisfied and really don't want to have to write thank you's for things that we really didn't need. I told them we could have a cooking party to stock my freezer or they could just keep me well stocked with meals after the baby is born. And I'm sure they will all be a big help once dh leaves (he'll be home on R&R for 18 days in November) and I'm all alone with 3 little girls. They'll also be a big help if this little one decides to make her appearance before dh gets back. I'll truly be all alone and I'll be relying on my friends to help with the older two and bring me meals if that happens. So, I just really didn't want them to do a shower for me too.

But I'm really excited for you Lindsay, that sounds so fun! Especially with twins, you'll get so many cute matching outfits! How fun!!!

[GinaRae]

Yay!! That sounds like fun. I'm so glad everyone has been involved with your pregnancy and helping you out and now, the icing on the cake! BTW, tell us how the icing was

[maisiedotes]

DH's aunt had planned a shower for me for our last pregnancy- he was born (and passed) on a Tuesday and the shower was planned for that coming weekend, and obviously it was cancelled. So this time I was ADAMANT that I didn't want a shower but now that I am feeling good and comfortable, I want one. But how can I go back and say "will you throw me a shower? I changed my mind!"

I should be OK with not having one, but I kinda want to be smothered in baby stuff!

[Hezzy]

maisiedotes - I think under the circumstances it's okay for you to change your mind. Is there someone you could talk to about it who would understand and get on it for you? You deserve this, mama! There are probably people who would love to do it, but are trying to respect your wishes not to have one! Tell them!

We're actually having 2 showers - it's turned into sort of one being my family and all our friends in NY, and one that DP's family is throwing in CT, where they live. It would have been nice if we could have all gotten together, but his family would never have come to NY for it, and we couldn't ask all of our friends to go to CT. We were stressed about them for a while, wondering how we are going to get them to be like we want them to be (the showers, not our families ), but we recently decided that these are parties that other people are throwing for us and for the baby, and we're just showing up and enjoying. The only thing I've insisted on for both is that it not be an all-girl thing - I'm not the only one becoming a parent here. Besides, many of our best friends are men, and I wanted them to come.

[AimeeandBrian]

I wanted a co-ed shower also, but my mom and sister made up the guest list and we had 54 women that we had to invite to avoid hurt feelings (most are too far away to come). If we had invited their partners and DH's friends also, nobody would fit in my house!

[scheelimama]

Maisiedotes, I agree that you are allowed to change your mind given your circumstances. But I was wondering if it might be better for you to have a post-baby shower. With what happened last time, even if you aren't supersticious about such things, I would personally have a hard time planning a shower for before baby came. Just thought I'd throw that idea out there. And I'm sure your friends would completely understand and be willing to throw it for you.

[myjulybabes]

Nope, not having one. Most of my friends live out of state and we don't have a big family, plus, it's the 4th kid! I am thinking of doing a "welcome baby" dinner or something a few weeks after she's born. I think every baby ought to be celebrated, I just don't want a "shower" with the goofy games and implied obligation to bring a gift.

I hope everyone that wants one gets one and that it's a lot of fun!

[welldone]

No showers planned for me, either. I live out of state from all of our family (save one distant uncle). I have a lot of mom friends who have had 2nd and 3rd, etc. babies in the past year, and no one has thrown showers for them. I assume people just don't do that around here.

I could use one, just cause this is our first boy. But I feel blessed to have several friends with boys who will lend us their clothes. I already have most of the diapers. Beyond that, he'll have my bed to sleep in and my breasts to eat from, and what else could a baby need?