Is this appropriate?

[HappyFox05]

I have a pair of married co-workers who are expecting. She doesn't want to circ; he does. She's done research; he hasn't. She's tried to get him to read some of the stuff she's found, or watch a video, but he hasn't. He's convinced it's not that bad. (At least, that's what he says - he may have other reasons, deep down.) I've thought about sending him some links but don't know if I should. If he won't look at what his wife shows him, why should he care about anything I say? Plus, I outrank them both (Army). I don't want that to become an issue. ("My SGT ordered me not to circumcise!" Lol) I just feel bad for their little not-yet-born boy.

[titania8]

can you order him not to? wouldn't that be great!!

i don't know, i think its worth a try. my friend has a great example of dhs ignoring what their wives say only to listen when a friend or coworker says the same thing. she kept telling him about britax car seats. over and over. no, we don't need that he says. until his coworker sang the praises of britax seats. then they had to have one.

is the mother willing to go along with his word even though he is unwilling to do any research?

[myfairbabies]

A lot of men will listen to anybody else but their spouse. Who knows why. I know my dh or my bil with listen to me or my sister and blow it off, but then a friend at work, or someone on the radio or a doctor will tell them the exact same thing and suddenly it's like God spoke to them and it's SUCH a fantastic idea. I would talk to him if I were you, but it is nerve racking.

[HappyFox05]

Thanks everybody. I'll see if I can find a way to approach him which is non-confrontational, using the "back door" so to speak.

And no, I can't order him not to. I think, really, the only medical procedure we're able to order someone to take are certan immunizations, because that's a thing that can affect the army as a whole.

[Sopranos]

Order him to take a look.

[HappyFox05]

Rofl Sopranos.

[lml41981]

I'd only talk with him about it with the wife's consent. Maybe offer with a wink and a nudge to back her up.

[HappyFox05]

Yeah, after more thought, I've decided that's the better route - to talk to his wife first. Not my kid, not my business, unfortunately.

[eepster]

Originally Posted by notyetamommy

A lot of men will listen to anybody else but their spouse. Who knows why. I know my dh or my bil with listen to me or my sister and blow it off, but then a friend at work, or someone on the radio or a doctor will tell them the exact same thing and suddenly it's like God spoke to them and it's SUCH a fantastic idea. I would talk to him if I were you, but it is nerve racking.

: My DH to a T :