DH will never get it - Page 2

[mamasophy]

Same deal with my family. I didn't know that my dad is intact, and I assume neither did my circ'd brother, until I was pregnant with my 1st and my mom was upset that we wouldn't circ! My brother was born in '67, so it was automatic, plus my mom is and was a nurse (ie she learned it was necessary and that babies don't feel pain). And my brother's son is cut, but it was his wife's insistence against his wishes...

[ejcmassage]

DS and DH are both intact, but DH's brothers are not: He doesn't know why and doesn't really care.

In the book Birth From Within, the co-author said when his intact son noticed the difference and asked, he explained exactly why they are different and what circumcision is and that he and the boys mother decided not to do that to him. The little boy said, "thank you, I wouldn't want that!"

[KBecks]

I wish I was in your position and had intact sons. It sounds like you've come to a wise conclusion. Let your husband vent his pain, listen to his concerns, maybe try to reassure him, but it's not worth much discussion.

[hubris]

My 4.5 y/o and 2 y/o intact sons have commented on size, hair, and my lack of penis (the 2 y/o learned the word "vulva" the other day) but never on DH's lack of foreskin. I don't think it has even occurred to them.

On the topic of grown men knowing what their fathers look like - DH is convinced that his father is circumcised. His father claims that he's intact but also has a story about being forcibly and painfully retracted by a physician as an older child or preteen. DH thinks his father was actually circumcised. But I think this goes to show you that the whole "matching" thing is rather unimportant.

[Fyrestorm]

My DH thinks his dad was intact...He has no recollection of ever seeing it one way or the other..but since his father was born in Italy, I think it's a pretty safe assumption.

I guess it was okay that he and his dad didn't match...why is it such a big deal these days? (rhetorical question since we all know it really has nothing to do with matching)

[SammyJr]

3yr old DS has noticed, and for the moment, we just tell him that everyone's a little different. We'll explain the horror of circumcision when he's a little older.