Originally Posted by cycle
Maybe you haven't been involved with a custody battle...fathers have plenty of rights in many courts, in fact its about the father's rights not whats best for the child. Making up for past mistakes I guess.
I"m not understanding what past mistakes are you talking about? And once again, I don't know the courts in your area, but out of three divorced fathers I closely interract with, and one that I live with, didn't get to have their kids to live with them, and NOT because they didn't want it.
Statement that "fathers have plenty rights in many courts" sounds silly when you are living with a man who changes dipers, and feeds the toddler, does the dishes, and is there for every parent-teacher conference even when mom isn't. He asked for full custory but didn't get it. He loves his daughter, and he had to battle the courts that you said "give fathers plenty of rights", for two years to extend visitations to at least one extra weekend and to allow phone calls with his own kid.
Once again, when you see your child only four days a month, you will understand whether or not it is "best for your child". As far as things being unsettled - I can understand that it might be true for some kids, but here si a point about the bigger topic for this thread...
How about bm having to come up with visitation schedule for herself then? How about DAD stays at home, and takes care of a kid, and bm works three jobs to pay "fair amount" of CS?.. How about she figures out how to have a dinner in the middle of the week with her kid, come pick up her child, and drop them off by "this" o'clock.
When you try to imagine yourself in this situation - your heart will break, and you will never be the same.
The point I am trying to make is I don't believe that there are THAT many better mothers than fathers out there. Yet I know of no one who lives with their dad. We accept the fact that father must work and pay CS, and mother can raise the child. What's wrong with it being the other way around? We all know families where dad has more patience and is great with kids, so why not give him custody once in a while? And provide kids with a stable home in DAD's home. Trust me, he will feed his daughter and will go to her chorus recitals, and will bring her to all her doctor's appointments.
Bottom line - courts are biased.