I am so grateful to have found this thread I could cry. DS 21 mos hit's pretty much every trait on all the lists, is bright, but just can't turn off, body or mind. We eat an almost all org diet, with no processed foods (DH has food sensitivities) no artificial colors or anything like that. He does have goat yogurt...but I had never heard of the salycilates I will read up.
He also has "sensory issues", we are in early intervention because of them, although I have avoided an actual diagnoses, since we have the services and I want to avoid the labels.
It can take him up to 2 hours to fall asleep, and that is with both parents with him when possible, after a calming bedtime routine. 1.25 hours is average, kicking, jumping all the way. MyBabysSmile, do you do that routine AS bedtime, right before he falls asleep? I do some brushing (but DS doesn't like it much) and some joint compression, but not what you talk about with the ball, etc)
We have the LOW LOW tolerance for frustration, and we started seeing tantrums at 10 months when he could understand something and couldn't do it, like trying to fit a pot lid onto a pot that didn't quite fit. Some days the tantrums barely had 1/2 hour between them. He HATES clothing, diapers (we've ECed, partly because he couldn't stand them) and some days can't even get out of the house because of this. His persistence is the key, if I put the clothes on him even if he says no, he does not get over it, he screams and pulls at them until I take them off. I feel so permissive, when that happens, but I have to respect him, he will not settle for anything less, so we have to find a way to make what I need (ie to get dressed to get out of the house) acceptable. I usually have to make it fun, he's too intense and bright for distraction, he just catches on too quick.
I've read "Parenting your Spirited Child" and we're doing a lot of it, but still there are days I just cry from sheer exhaustion and from the horrible bad advice I get or advice I imagine people are thinking, it makes me feel so ALONE!
We're big believers in letting him have the tantrum, supporting him through the feelings, although I'm afraid he could really hurt himself arching backward into things, hitting or biting himself, and pulling out his hair by the clumps
:. One thing I like that the PYSC book says is that spirited children sometimes need to be called back to reality from such strong explosions, because they can work themselves up to where they don't know how to stop. I remember feeling this way as a child.
Thanks for being there Mamas!