My girls are 11 and 12. R is your textbook first child, wants to please, cleans her room and has finally gotten on track again with school after the transition to middle school last year. M is spritely and funny as well as monumentally stubborn and has been known to fall into middle child syndrome. Which isn't all her, the 2y/o does spend a lot of time with me (I m the keeper of the booba after all
Most of our conflicts have to do with school. Transitioning has been difficult, the elem is Montessori based but the ms & hs are intensely college prep, so it is much more work. I don't know if I would have made it through with all the work they do.
Friends are also another trigger. R has a few friends in the grade above her who she just met this year. She isn't friends w/ anyone in her grade (other than boys) and seems to be ok with it, though she tried to have a sleepover party and no-one could make it (3 out of 4 did call) so I'm not sure how great of friends they all are. M has a bully. She calls her names and that's the extent. We've done a bit of role playing. She has some phrases to fall back on as well as her favorite - silence and her death glare. Her friends do back her up though they are self titled 'The nerdy comic book goths'
Funny thing is, none of them dress or look goth at all, they just think its cool.
They are both beautiful, smart girls but are having a hard time reconciling how to be yourself vs. being a popular girl.
I second the care and keeping of you, yes it does address shaving which I think is a bs social construct - but if they want to hey more power to them. We actually bought their first razors last week oy! The rest of it has been quite helpful over the last 2 years. Our copy is old and dogeared.
good heavens, M just said 'are you posting about me?' when I said yes she said 'well I need to know what your posting if I'm in it'....just so you all know, my post was approved