"having a hard time reconciling how to be yourself vs. being a popular girl."
I find this is a key issue that gets more intense (in my experince) the olde
r they get. We homeschool but my dauhgter is aorund a lot of girls because she plays sports with the local high shcool and plays club volleyball. She is currently on a soccer team.
It goes back and forth for her. She recently met a frend who shares some of her intersts and actually gets along with many types of kids/sistuations. I think she often,espeiclaly lately realizes she would rather have a more intersting ,vared life. Also, some of the sutff that soem of her friends have rtried to be popular:durgs,sex,drinking,etc. she sees are destructive. She is 14.5. I encourage her to not have expcastations socially. She goes to movies with her 17 yea rold brother. We jsut spent 2 days in Orlando with the new friends, they went to Univerdal and to a concert and out to eat and shopping.
She is an introvert. So, jhaving one friend that she can do fun adventures with seems better lately than tons of kids who are only intersnted in confroming and exclulsing new kids annd adventures.:next week we are going to the fall festival with this family., is better than a lot of suprerfical stuff.
The cliques get really big in middle school/high shcool. I was proud of her that she chose not to go to a sleepover from her club volleyball team as she was too tired after the Orlando trip. She also went to a local movie with some kids she had not seen for a long time.
The key for us has been finding intersts and I know it wil be less frustrating for her once she can drive. Theis week,she has soccer,volleyball, private lessons chuch youth group,and family time with another family.
The popularity stuff often tends to be around designer clothers, cool gadgets, and putting other kids down. This ultimately is boring. She is a very action orinted type girl. It has taken a lot of support and intervention on my part to support her self acceptance.Sallie
I find this is a key issue that gets more intense (in my experince) the olde
r they get. We homeschool but my dauhgter is aorund a lot of girls because she plays sports with the local high shcool and plays club volleyball. She is currently on a soccer team.
It goes back and forth for her. She recently met a frend who shares some of her intersts and actually gets along with many types of kids/sistuations. I think she often,espeiclaly lately realizes she would rather have a more intersting ,vared life. Also, some of the sutff that soem of her friends have rtried to be popular:durgs,sex,drinking,etc. she sees are destructive. She is 14.5. I encourage her to not have expcastations socially. She goes to movies with her 17 yea rold brother. We jsut spent 2 days in Orlando with the new friends, they went to Univerdal and to a concert and out to eat and shopping.
She is an introvert. So, jhaving one friend that she can do fun adventures with seems better lately than tons of kids who are only intersnted in confroming and exclulsing new kids annd adventures.:next week we are going to the fall festival with this family., is better than a lot of suprerfical stuff.
The cliques get really big in middle school/high shcool. I was proud of her that she chose not to go to a sleepover from her club volleyball team as she was too tired after the Orlando trip. She also went to a local movie with some kids she had not seen for a long time.
The key for us has been finding intersts and I know it wil be less frustrating for her once she can drive. Theis week,she has soccer,volleyball, private lessons chuch youth group,and family time with another family.
The popularity stuff often tends to be around designer clothers, cool gadgets, and putting other kids down. This ultimately is boring. She is a very action orinted type girl. It has taken a lot of support and intervention on my part to support her self acceptance.Sallie
This is a difficult age when it comes to friends, isn't it?
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