I am so sorry. When I discovered I was pg after my second c/s, I cried so much knowing that I couldn't have another surgery if I didn't want to be maimed or die. I know that's not reassuring, but in my situation, that was the reality, and that's what opened me to the possiblity and eventuality of my first uc and also this one coming up. I think I can relate to your pain in some way. I am so so sorry.
If the choice to have another c/s ever became the better one, I would definitely hire both a midwife and a doula to stand in the OR with me and dh, having shared care all the way through and who were strong women, willing and able to advocate for me and my wishes. We did have a midwife share care with the OB for my surgeries, and she did her best, although the whole thing was new to her- she'd always done vaginal births.
But, she closed the curtains when the drs left them wide open to the hall with me naked (: ) and stayed with dh to fend off the formula-mongers and antsy nurses who wanted to take our babes away every half hour for checking something. She also held and continued to refer to the forms that I signed stating my refusal of eye drops and tests for my newborn. I wish that I'd had a second person there, though, which is why I suggest a doula; she could be there to care for you exclusively. Our midwife advocated, my dh kept our babes safe and I was mostly left alone because there simply were not enough people there to tend to every need.
Also, for me, even with a scheduled c/s, there was never any guarantee that I would actually have the OB who saw me up until then. It was always a possibility that that OB wouldn't be there because of having been on-call the night before and gone home, replaced by an OB I'd never met. The second c/s OB never read my medical papers or my hospital forms- the ones stating what I consent to and what I do not, so our midwife (who was livid about that) did a sort of running commentary the whole time to inform him before he acted outside the allowable parameters of my consent. He wasn't even aware of my latex allergy and had to have everything in the OR switched just a few minutes before the surgery, even removing the latex gloves from his hands to do so. Ridiculous. In fact, I asked my midwife to ask him if his gloves were latex because I know that the non-latex gloves are blue, and he was wearing white ones.
Anyway, please do research and find the best options you can. And keep us updated about your pg since many of us, I suspect, don't often read the other pg forums and we're all concerned for you with this new information!