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post #401 of 441
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
I'm very nervous about taking meds...although, I will do anything to not feel like this.
I just want to get on a plane and go home.
I took Wellbutrin with DD1 from the time she was 4 months until I was 8 mo pg with Abby. She is 4 yo and I so far have seen nothing that I think may be attributed to the medicine. Good luck, and try to get help! Often it is only a temporary need. Let us know if we can help!
post #402 of 441
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Originally Posted by arismomkoofie View Post
I took Wellbutrin with DD1 from the time she was 4 months until I was 8 mo pg with Abby. She is 4 yo and I so far have seen nothing that I think may be attributed to the medicine. Good luck, and try to get help! Often it is only a temporary need. Let us know if we can help!
You know, it just helps knowing that I'm not just a bad mother, that this happens to others too. Although, I'm not sure dp really understands. He keeps telling me I just have to have a better outlook, and I just can't seem to do it.
post #403 of 441
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
You know, it just helps knowing that I'm not just a bad mother, that this happens to others too. Although, I'm not sure dp really understands. He keeps telling me I just have to have a better outlook, and I just can't seem to do it.
I started on meds when I was 15, but I had been off when pg, but it hit me when DD1 was 4 mo. It helps me to understand that for me, it is a chemical imbalance, and that I am very susceptible to changes. It really isn't so much your outlook - you can't MAKE yourself be happier. You might be able to pretend or try to smile harder, but in the end it often just takes a bit of help (whether medical or stress relief) to get you to the point where you are normally. It doesn't make you less of a mother or a person, it actually make it easier for you to do your everyday thing, and it will make it easier for you family to be around you - when Mom is unhappy, everyone ends up being unhappy.

With medication, it is important that you talk to a doctor seriously about side effects. There is often a loss of sexual drive or weight gain. The reason I like Wellbutrin is that I don't gain weight and there are no sexual side effects for me - but everyone is different.

I hope you get to a doctor soon - you will feel so much better just by going in!
post #404 of 441
Fin's Mama

I'm think I have PPD too...but I am just so scared to tell anyone - I have spoken to my mom but I'm scared to call the doctor or tell DH. For some reason I think he won't believe me or will think that I am incompitant...and I would never hurt Johnny but I get really mad at him sometimes and I'm scared he would get taken away or something (even though I know that is irrational fear). Mostly I just fight with DH about everything and I get really violent thoughts - but not to any family members or anything. I also just feel cheated even though it was a planned pregnancy and that I am just lost socially because most of my friends are not even married yet let alone have children...they have such differant lives and totally don't understand mine - and sometimes I do just wish I could up and go out with them or something.

Ok enough of that-- on the bright side I got my maya wrap mama baby sling today! DS loves it! Mommy does too! I BF in it whilke making dinner tonight!

I also went clothes shopping today...I winced everytime I handed over the credit card but DH was with me and kept insisting I buy everything...I really needed clothes - it was not that I simply wanted some...all of my clothes are so worn out or way too big or too small...

How are people doing on weight loss? I have 4lbs to go - but I'm trying to lose another 21 after that (freshman 11 and marriage 10 lol).

Hmm...nothing new with the baby...other than he was so cute today, I had him in my baby bundler wrap facing out and some elderly women came up to him in Sams Club and just from talking to him and comenting on his carrier etc he just burst out laughing and everything they said made him get this huge belly laugh! Adorible!
post #405 of 441
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
Well, not sure if this move has triggered it, or what, but I am feeling really crappy. I just took the ppd test in the ppd forum here and scored 75. Sorry to dump on you mamas, but I had to tell someone. I'm not having any negative thoughts about the baby, but my toddler is making me crazy. Like I wanna jump out the window crazy. So dp is on his way home and I guess I better get to the doctor.
This sucks.
A
Oh, mama, I feel so bad for you! A move that big can make you feel depressed alone, no need to add new baby and crazy toddler to it! It can take so long to adjust to a new place where you have no support system, no routine, no comfort zone, no familiar place...when I moved across country as a teenager it was so hard. I have no doubt the move triggered it for you, you have been totally uprooted! I can't remember if you did find a LLL group or not, but do try to get out to somewhere where there are other mamas like you! And I hope you get good advice at the dr.'s. I hope also, even if your dp doesn't understand, that he's supportive.
Hang in there mama, it will get better, you will find friends, you'll find a new 'home'! Glad this is a good place for you to vent.
A
post #406 of 441
Tomorrow is your last day at work?? WELLL then you need to start hanging out with us other crazy AP mommys,
i know what you mean about scared to saying anything about how your feeling i feel the same way then i get the courge up and i am feel better so then i dismiss it all over again, i was 18 when i had my oldest, i missed out on all that going out with friends stuff anyhow, and some times i wish i could just go o ut but now there are no friends to just go do tht with so now i go out with other mommys and babies leaving big kids home and that really does help. anyway after LLL next week i have to hang around because sam goes to school close by so if its nice out you wanna hang out at the play ground? hehe pm if ya wanna

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Originally Posted by LilMomma83 View Post
Fin's Mama

I'm think I have PPD too...but I am just so scared to tell anyone - I have spoken to my mom but I'm scared to call the doctor or tell DH. For some reason I think he won't believe me or will think that I am incompitant...and I would never hurt Johnny but I get really mad at him sometimes and I'm scared he would get taken away or something (even though I know that is irrational fear). Mostly I just fight with DH about everything and I get really violent thoughts - but not to any family members or anything. I also just feel cheated even though it was a planned pregnancy and that I am just lost socially because most of my friends are not even married yet let alone have children...they have such differant lives and totally don't understand mine - and sometimes I do just wish I could up and go out with them or something.

Ok enough of that-- on the bright side I got my maya wrap mama baby sling today! DS loves it! Mommy does too! I BF in it whilke making dinner tonight!

I also went clothes shopping today...I winced everytime I handed over the credit card but DH was with me and kept insisting I buy everything...I really needed clothes - it was not that I simply wanted some...all of my clothes are so worn out or way too big or too small...

How are people doing on weight loss? I have 4lbs to go - but I'm trying to lose another 21 after that (freshman 11 and marriage 10 lol).

Hmm...nothing new with the baby...other than he was so cute today, I had him in my baby bundler wrap facing out and some elderly women came up to him in Sams Club and just from talking to him and comenting on his carrier etc he just burst out laughing and everything they said made him get this huge belly laugh! Adorible!
post #407 of 441
Not to make light of it, Finn'sMama, but I think I have Toddler Depression. Mine makes me want to just leave the house sometimes, with him in it! It is no, no, no all the time from him and always making things more difficult. I know it's his age and the new babe, but it REALLY gets me down and angry alot.

The move I'm sure has alot to do with how you're feeling, it is disruptive to the whole family and that makes it harder on you, since you're taking care of everyone, right? I am constantly telling myself it must get better, and I sure hope it's sooner than later. And if ds would just poop in the potty already!!!

Dump on us anytime you want, that's the beauty of MDC! :P

In other news.... the family is asleep and here I am! The boys are on the couch and babe is in bed. I'll be glad to have the bed with just babe for a little while.

BTW, can I do an age survey? I've been wondering what our age range is here. I'm 38. Off to stretch across the bed, yippee!!!!
post #408 of 441
I'm 23....I've been wondering about age and how many kids also...I have 1 so far...
post #409 of 441
28 ( i think lol i keep forgetting my own age...) and i have 4 children plus a stepson , dh is 37
post #410 of 441
29 w/ 2 kids

Anyone have ideas about DD1? She is 4.5 and since Abby was born she has had a hard time at school with nap time. She's never been a napper so she is supposed to lay or sit quietly and read or color, but I think she has found she can get attention by disrupting nap time. positive reinforcement worked for a bit, but no longer. I have started with consequences like no chocolate milk (her favorite), no tv, early bedtime. We have had a long talk about behavior and I *think* she get it, but I thought that earlier in the week after a shorter talk and she had worse problems.

Ah! Abby is cranky from teething and nipple-biting now. Any ideas on how to nip this in the bud?

We're a mess here, LOL!
post #411 of 441
Me: 28
DH: 27

Married for 3 years

1 baby, hoping for 2-3 more
post #412 of 441
I'm 26,
2 kiddos, hoping for lots and lots and lots!
A
post #413 of 441
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
Well, not sure if this move has triggered it, or what, but I am feeling really crappy. I just took the ppd test in the ppd forum here and scored 75. Sorry to dump on you mamas, but I had to tell someone. I'm not having any negative thoughts about the baby, but my toddler is making me crazy. Like I wanna jump out the window crazy. So dp is on his way home and I guess I better get to the doctor.
This sucks.
A
Hugs mama. Sleep is always my issue. If I can get a night of 5 hours straight it makes all the difference. I had a doc who actually wrote that as a prescription for a postpartum mom so she wouldn't feel bad about doing that and so that her family would take her needs seriously.
post #414 of 441
Thread Starter 
I'm 32 and DH is 38.
I think we want 1 more. Well, I'm happy where we are at. DH told me there is 1 more. I think he would like more beyond that.


I have about 7-9 pounds to go for pregnancy. I have about 30 to go to get down to the weight I was before my thyroid screwed up.
post #415 of 441
Thanks for the hugs and support mamas.: I talked to dp about it last night, but I don't think he really gets it. LilMomma, I know what you mean about being scared to tell anyone. It was hard to tell dp that I felt awful things toward ds1 and even though he is trying to understand, he still thinks that it's just a matter of me getting out or that maybe I don't want to SAHM, not that it's hormonal or that there isn't anything I can really do about. I'm also afraid to go to the hospital (we don't have a doc here yet, so I was told to go to the ER!) because I worry about the kids being taken away if I admit to some of the thoughts I've been having.: Which I hope is an irrational fear.
Anyway, dp still went to work today: even after all that.
But I am feeling a little better and trying to just be more patient with ds1 and that is helping.
I was going to go to the breastfeeding challenge today, but I'm pretty tired as Arlo is up 3 or 4 times a night these days and sometimes not even going back to sleep right away. I think his teeth must be bugging him because he wants to be latched on all the time. I let him suck and gum a nice cold, peeled apple yesterday, which he seemed to love! He got really mad every time he dropped it of if Finn tried to take it from him. I'm really liking the idea of letting him self feed and he seems so interested in holding and playing with food. The intro of solids is going to be a completely different experience than it was with Finn and I'm really looking forward to it.
Oh and I'm 29 with two kiddos. I think I'm done right now, but mostly because I feel like I couldn't handle it. Maybe once I feel more "normal" I'll want more. I am happy with two though.
A
post #416 of 441
Today might not work out, but do you have some friends you can hang out with during the week, Finn's Mama? I have several new friends who all have babes around my urchin's age. It really helps to just go out and walk and get some fresh air/chat. The regional/tribal forums here on MDC are great for meeting new folks.

Getting out certainly isn't enough, but it may help a little bit in the interim. It may at least distract you.

Please do find someone who will take your PPD seriously. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. And those meds are helping to correct a *physical* problem of slightly wonky brain chemicals. It's not a matter of strength or weakness--your brain and body just need some adjustment.

If you don't want to go to the ER, is there an Urgent Care/walk-in clinic nearby?

Take care of yourself. It's really hard right now, but it's the most important thing you can do for you and your family.
post #417 of 441
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
Thanks for the hugs and support mamas.: I talked to dp about it last night, but I don't think he really gets it. LilMomma, I know what you mean about being scared to tell anyone. It was hard to tell dp that I felt awful things toward ds1 and even though he is trying to understand, he still thinks that it's just a matter of me getting out or that maybe I don't want to SAHM, not that it's hormonal or that there isn't anything I can really do about. I'm also afraid to go to the hospital (we don't have a doc here yet, so I was told to go to the ER!) because I worry about the kids being taken away if I admit to some of the thoughts I've been having.: Which I hope is an irrational fear.
Here's some interesting info about ppartum anxiety/OCD :http://www.healthyplace.com/communit...y/women_14.asp
Intrusive thoughts that come up is a perfect example of OCD in postpartum anxiety. I had them. The meds have practically made them disappear. You can pm me anytime if you want to talk. I went to see a psychologist who assured me this was very common. In fact he told me everyone has these intrusive thoughts, but anxious people dwell on them, while most other people would just brush them aside and forget them.
Dh didn't really "get it" either. He kept on telling me to relax and to stop stressing. Like it was in my power to :
You can Google postpartum OCD for more info.
post #418 of 441
So I got in to see a doc and you know what he tells me? That I'm not depressed. I'm adjusting to the move and I need to get out and do stuff even if I don't feel like it. I have to be enthusiastic.:
This after I tell him all about intrusive thoughts etc. and that I want to jump out the window sometimes.
This is all normal according to him.
A
post #419 of 441
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
So I got in to see a doc and you know what he tells me? That I'm not depressed. I'm adjusting to the move and I need to get out and do stuff even if I don't feel like it. I have to be enthusiastic.:
This after I tell him all about intrusive thoughts etc. and that I want to jump out the window sometimes.
This is all normal according to him.
A
Oh, no! That's so awful, I can't believe a doctor would be so submissive. Can you seek out another opinion?? I bet that just about sent you through the roof.
Big, big s: mama!
he must have a very horrible view of women
A
post #420 of 441
Well, now I know why women end up keeping it to themselves. He made me feel like a complete idiot for even coming in really. He reluctantly gave me a number for the mental health clinic in town so I could get counselling.
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