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I just got back from two hours of running errands with all of the kids, with people saying smart things like, "That's a lot of kids," to which I was very tempted to reply "I have eight more at home" (but I didn't).
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New to this thread.

Mom of 4 here, boy 7, girl 4.99 (turns 5 in 2 weeks), girl 2, and boy 2 1/2 weeks.

i've gotten several of the "are they all yours?" which, after saying yes, is quickly followed by "you have your hands full!" to which i always say "Yes, but better full than empty".
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Subbing. In the middle of moving so I am a bit busy at present and will be more lurking this month. But who knows. I may get things done more quickly than I think and be more active. I hope!
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What's considered many? I have 3 (all 3.5 and under) but desire many more :-)
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Subbing.

Mom of 5 here. I don't get the "are they all yours" question too much. I guess it must be obvious But I do get my fair share of "you got your hands full" which I don't mind hearing to be honest. I think having your hands full is a good thing. I actually enjoy being around my kids - they're a lot of fun!
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I get the "are you babysitting" a lot, which is quickly followed by my "only crackheads take this many babysat kids in public" (I have four, preggo with five), then they say "so all these are yours" making the "these" sound like my kids are small rodents I forgot to put on leashes. Sigh. People are so weird. I think more than the size of my family is the fact that I'm 27 but I look 15, so they're probably bitter about the idea of supporting me with their taxes. Hahaha. I've never been on government help in my life. Not that it's bad if you need it, but shoot. If I was really 15, how'd I get them all to the store in the first place? Pile 'em on my street legal moped?

I swear my normally AA boobs grew 5 sizes today. Yay. I get to shop in the women's department for a bra! Sigh.

Hope you guys are well.
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Mom of many

I am new to this thread. I have 5 plus an exchange student, so that makes 6 for at least 10 months of the year. lols When i tell people I have 5 their eyes always bug out, but when i tell them i also have a Korean exchange student, that is when they say, "WOW are you crazy!" Notice how it it is not a question?

I just went and bought my three oldest school shoes. I am happy to say we spent less then $100 on all three and my oldest is now in a size 9 adult! I will have to wait for a week or so till i have enough money to buy them sneakers. Money is always tight. My dd, though can't even squeeze into her sneakers from last year, so we both hope there is no gym this next week!

Robin
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Ick I had one of those afternoons yesterday, where I took the kids to the forest festival in the park (very cool. Good music, chocolate brownie tent, lots of arts and crafts and juggling and tree-related activities for the kids to do and it's a central meeting point for Swindon's alternative community.) In this time, DS1 decided to be himself, get on with stuff and go and try everything available. DD was on a mission to dig molehills, and DS2 was whingy, twisty, and feeling shy : Does everyone else have one kid that they find harder work than the others, or am I just a really bad parent?

Anyhow, we got ourselves sorted to go home and I realised I had no battery on my mobile to call for a lift, so I rang DH from a payphone: and whilst doing this, one boy decided to start a game of tag, with his sister, whilst only six foot from the road : :steamcomingoutofears So not cool.

I dunno. Either I'm the worst mother in the world and all my kids should be taken off me and I should be spayed, or else there is something genuinely off balance with that child that makes him act like this. It just feels like I've spent the last seven years dealing with one incongruous action or irrational/ inappropriate need after another, and I want a break
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Signing on, mamas!
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Helen - what a day! Did YOU enjoy yourself in between the madness? Did you meet anyone interesting?

My littlest dd is 1 today and I feel like she could be the one who wears me down in the future. I'm certainly worn out after only a year of parenting her! I don't think I've done anything different with her - apart from EC - but she is something else already.

They all have their own thing going on and I don't think you can always fix them so that they are all the same. If you were a different parent how much more x, y or z would he be? You can never know so you just have to keep going and try not to despair.

I could trade you for the 7yo - would you like a semi-miserable 14yo, a reclusive and clumsy but sweet 10yo old, a bossy, screechy 4yo or a turbo-charged boob-addicted toddler? They are all lovely but sometimes I want to hide and sleep for a month then send another month looking for where I left myself.
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Does anyone else here buy through a food co op? My 15yr old is eating me out of house and home so Ive started to buy in bulk. Ive also been finding some great deals on amazon.com for their organic foods.
What kinds of things have you been getting? Interesting! I hadn't thought of Amazon. Definitely try a food co-op if you use a lot of fruits and veggies and can stand getting some "interesting" things to cook once in a while.

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What's considered many? I have 3 (all 3.5 and under) but desire many more :-)
There are a few of us with three here! I am awaiting my #4 and that will be our last bio baby. I don't know what else the future will bring as far as fostering/adopting, etc, but the baby factory is closing! I can't do any more pregnancies.

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Is having a lot of stuff ... absolutely essential to a large-ish family? I have sent countless bags of clothes to the charity shop... and I still feel like we are drowning under the clothes, books and papers of 6 people. Do I just keep on clearing out so that our basic stuff level is low and we can cop with the daily addition of stuff....
Absolutely not essential! Get rid of it all. You will feel SO GOOD! When we moved from NY to CA 17 months ago, we had a three level house full of stuff (and were moving to a very tiny 3 bedroom with little storage). We got rid of 99% of everything we owned. I had clothes for 7 days for each of us and we gave away the rest. We gave away books and tossed papers and I went thru every cupboard and kept only essentials.

I have rarely realized I need something I tossed/gave away, and our entire being as a family is so much more positive now. The house is easier to clean!! There is some clutter now after 17 months and I just keep tossing/giving/selling everything we can live without. It's an amazing feeling.

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I dunno. Either I'm the worst mother in the world and all my kids should be taken off me and I should be spayed, or else there is something genuinely off balance with that child that makes him act like this. It just feels like I've spent the last seven years dealing with one incongruous action or irrational/ inappropriate need after another, and I want a break
Have you ever looked for the book The Bipolar Child? Give it a look just to see if your son matches up. He sounds a lot like my eldest. No harm either way, but it's good to know. Also seriously look into food allergies!!
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Flapjack,

I totally know what you mean about one child taking more energy than the others to raise. Mine is my ds, he seems to have so many issues that I have to deal with and requires so much more time/energy/supervision that I feel like sometimes the girls miss out because I have to put so much into him. There are many many days that I feel like I am the worst mother ever and any other person would be able to do a better job than I am doing with this kid. Sorry that I'm notmuch help. I just wanted you to know you are not the only one to feel this way.
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Thanks, mamas. I did good yesterday- it's not so much that HE did good as that I felt proud of the way I handled things.

Gina, I'm terrified of reading up on bipolar children, tbh. I have a history of depression and his dad is bipolar, so there's a significant chance that at least one of the boys is going to have issues with their mental health somewhere down the road. Given that Isaac inherited everything else undesirable in either of our family's gene pool, though, it would be nice if he got spared that. The allergies is a good point though- we really need to get round to trying the Feingold diet at some point in time.
Rachel, you need to come next year I didn't get time to talk to anyone new, I was too busy trying to keep half little miss molehill in the same park as the rest of us And, no, of your lot the only one who sounds like I'd get a good deal would be the 10yo- we need laidback around here, and the idea of parenting a teenager terrifies me.
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Hey all! SCHOOL STARTS TOMORROW!!!! I. Can't. Wait.

My kids are bored to tears with the summer. They are excited about starting school, but they will be in for two days before we pull them out to go to my sisters wedding in Georgia. What a week.

Who else has their kids in public school?
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Hello
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Hey all! SCHOOL STARTS TOMORROW!!!! I. Can't. Wait.

My kids are bored to tears with the summer. They are excited about starting school, but they will be in for two days before we pull them out to go to my sisters wedding in Georgia. What a week.

Who else has their kids in public school?
My two oldest are in public school and as soon as the others are old enough they will also be going. In the summer I sometimes think about homeschooling, but as soon as they are back in school I remember that I like them being gone part of the day.:

They go to a really good, very small school.
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Yep, me too. We have some misgivings with the school- the headmistress is fantastic (when I talked to her about Isaac and my insanity issues, she shared stories of her own adorable little one, and actually seems to get the balancing line between subdued and bearable...) but some of the routines aren't parent friendly.
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Hi all,

My two oldest start school tomorrow. Honestly, I'm really sad at the thought that they are going to be gone during the day again. I miss them and I find that with the little ones, I don't get to help out at the school nearly as much as I want. The school of thought at the school is something along the lines of "Well, let your baby nap in the stroller for an hour and help us do the reading program" but they don't understand that my baby doesn't sleep in a stroller (much less at a predictable time each day) and nurses throughout his nap (which I'm sure would go over well with 2nd and 4th graders). That still leaves the 4 yo who is way too extroverted to sit in a corner of the classroom and play quietly while I help out. Oh well, I'll get to help out one day.

I think it's hailing here right now - wow. Glad I'm tucked in bed with the baby!

I got the "Are they all yours?" question at the grocery store yesterday. They look so much alike how could they not be related?
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Anyone else go off their rocker?

I haven't posted on mothering in a while.

I just blew up at my oldest daugher and really feel guilty about it. I guess it doesn't really matter why.

How do you guys handle all the bumps? Mine range in age and have radically different needs. The youngest is very challenging and zaps my energy before breakfast.

Do you ever just want to get the heck outta Dodge?
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