Very sneaky, very sneaky. :P
Originally Posted by othersomethings
What have you noticed about parents that you've observed in person that has influenced the way you want to bring this child into the world and raise it? In other words, what have been the real life influences on your decisions about this child?
I think the main thing here is just that we are a fairly non-traditional couple. This is hard for our parents to understand and has already caused a few problems. We've learned what NOT to do from observing a lot of the people around us, but sometimes I think that's pretty darned useful.
|1. How did you come up with your user ID?
2. Do you have family living close by, and is this a good or a bad thing?
3. How were you introduced to MDC?
1. My user ID is just a playful take on the word "tofu"--it's like tofu with kung-fu in it. I think anything becomes at least 85% cooler with added kung-fu. :P
2. No, no family living close by. This is a good thing.
3. I run a large women's health community elsewhere on the Web and one of my colleagues recommended it to me when I was despairing over the lack of like-minded women with whom to commiserate over pregnancy/birth/life with kids. Since then, I've sent a lot of women here.
|What type of Birth do you plan on ?
Do you play any games with your baby?
What worries you the most right now?
I have a team of CN midwives that will help me deliver in the hospital. I plan to room in and to BF right away once the baby is born. I hope I can get through the birth w/o any complications or drugs! (Hopefully next time we do this, we'll live somewhere with more birthing options so the hospital's not my only choice.)
I don't play games yet with my baby, but I do talk to her/him (we won't know the sex for a bit yet). I often encourage her/him to practice her/his ninja moves with a bit more vigor, since I can't be sure I've felt any movement yet. (As a side note, I am excited about finding out the sex so I can talk to my baby more easily in Spanish--it's such a gendered language!)
What worries me most right now is that I will have no clue what to do when the baby gets here. I haven't spent a lot of time around babies and I grew up an only child, so I'm completely clueless here.
|What has been your favourite thing about pregnancy so far?
What has been your least favourite thing?
My favorite thing is just the biological miracle that's happening inside my body. Something that is simultaneously very mundane and also very extraordinary is happening inside me.
My least favorite thing would have to be the m/s from the first trimester. And maybe the fact that I'm still not really definitively showing yet, so I'm not sure if I look pregnant or just chubby.
|1. What is your absolute favorite thing to eat right now?
2. Are you reading any books or taking any classes to prepare for birth/motherhood, etc?
3. Do you have any pets at home?
1. Unfortunately, my favorite thing to eat right now is chocolate!! Tsk on me. :P But I have also been craving Thai and Indian food like mad.
2. We are considering taking Bradley classes and I have been reading a ton of books. Some of them are: Birthing from Within: An Extra-Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation
, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer
, The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy
, and any/all books by Dr. Sears.
3. I have one spoiled cat that's well into her middle years and who thinks she is the lord of this house and we are her servants. I am a little worried about how the she'll take the demotion. Any tips?
|1. As the date approaches, do you feel you're getting more calm or more antsy?
2. How do you go about people asking you the question "Are you gonna raise your baby vegetarian?" (I get this a lot with pre-accusatory tones like I'm gonna starve them or something )
3. I know you are about the same age as me and have had a career etc., how do you plan going about integrating the forces of motherhood with work etc.?
1. It's weird, I feel a little bit of both! As me again in 10 minutes. :P
2. Great question! I get that a lot about my pregnancy ("So, you're vegan and pregnant, right? Is that even OK?"). I just tell people that of course our children will eat what we eat. Sometimes I share this link
with nutritional info, or this link
that contains the profiles of happy, healthy vegan kids.
3. Well, I teach in higher education, so I have a more flexible schedule (in theory), although right now I'm finishing up a PhD and am a little worried about how baby-raising and PhD-finishing are going to happen at the same time. :P