Originally Posted by MelKnee
What would I do?
I would not be with a man or have a child with him if he wanted to mutilate a child.
I would definitely try to educate him first. I found, with my dp, that a small comment here and there (facts about circ) was enough to get him to change his mind. No big discussion, and I didn't wait to see if he disagreed with my comment or not. Just said it and moved on.
Now, this was after we had our ds circ'ed. I regret it all the time. I hate it. So I wasn't in the position that you are in. I let dp decide (because I didn't know what to believe at that point). But if I'd had a strong opinion to NOT circ, and dp refused to leave ds intact, I would have been pi$$ed. I would have been mad at his total lack of regard for the facts, for our newborn ds's comfort, for the complications that could arise in ds as an adult, etc. (yeah, I'm mad at myself for that stuff...).
AND I would have been pi$$ed about his lack of respect for me. Like a pp said, the one who doesn't want to do it wins until there's a mutually agreeable solution otherwise. (same in many other situations too)
And, like another pp said, if I had wanted to leave ds intact, and dp won and we circ'ed him, I would have resented him a LOT. As it is now, I don't blame him. He was just as uneducated as me. And I know that if I had said "no" that would have been it. He would not have argued it with me. But if I blamed him, that would be a LOT of stress on our relationship.