We had our first appt. with the RE today. I really like her. And she gave me some insight on why, oh why, I haven't gotten pregnant. Maybe. Obviously the testing will reveal more. But I have to wait another month before we even start that. Drat. But I expected that on some level.
But the big question that has been bothering me for the last month is this: I have a friend that I've had for years. She and I no longer live in the same city, so we don't talk nearly as often and so we're not quite as connected as we once were. But still good friends. The last time I talked to her was in April. I mentioned that we had been TTC and that I was getting a little frustrated. Her response: "You know. The more frustrated you get, the less likely it is to happen." I didn't even really know what to say, so I quickly moved the conversation along. Her birthday was a month ago. I didn't want to call her, but I did. I just didn't want to talk to her and have that "issue" come up. Thankfully, I got her voice mail. We've exchanged a couple of short emails. She left a message here a few weeks ago, and I haven't called her back. I just can't do it. I'm too raw right now to talk to her about it, and now that she's knows we're TTC, I know she will ask. Should I send her an email? A letter? Telling her how I felt about the comment and where I'm at now and how I feel that I can't trust her. Should I just let the friendship drift? Should I write a letter and not send it? It tears me up because I've realized that people really seem to have a hard time "hearing" about infertility. More than one person that I've gently tried talking to have kind of dismissed my concerns. Needless to say, it leaves me more than a little hesitant to try talking to anyone else--even someone that I know would understand because they've been through it. So. Any advice? Thanks, ladies.
But the big question that has been bothering me for the last month is this: I have a friend that I've had for years. She and I no longer live in the same city, so we don't talk nearly as often and so we're not quite as connected as we once were. But still good friends. The last time I talked to her was in April. I mentioned that we had been TTC and that I was getting a little frustrated. Her response: "You know. The more frustrated you get, the less likely it is to happen." I didn't even really know what to say, so I quickly moved the conversation along. Her birthday was a month ago. I didn't want to call her, but I did. I just didn't want to talk to her and have that "issue" come up. Thankfully, I got her voice mail. We've exchanged a couple of short emails. She left a message here a few weeks ago, and I haven't called her back. I just can't do it. I'm too raw right now to talk to her about it, and now that she's knows we're TTC, I know she will ask. Should I send her an email? A letter? Telling her how I felt about the comment and where I'm at now and how I feel that I can't trust her. Should I just let the friendship drift? Should I write a letter and not send it? It tears me up because I've realized that people really seem to have a hard time "hearing" about infertility. More than one person that I've gently tried talking to have kind of dismissed my concerns. Needless to say, it leaves me more than a little hesitant to try talking to anyone else--even someone that I know would understand because they've been through it. So. Any advice? Thanks, ladies.
