How are things with older DC?

[Vermillion]

If you've told them about the belly bean yet that is...

I had wanted to wait to tell DS and DSS until I was further along, but DS knew even before I did. He had heard me mention that I needed to get my annual soon, and asked me if I needed to see a doctor to check the baby in my tummy. After that he was always talking about the baby in my tummy. This started right around ovulation. :

But anyway... my 5yo DS has become my sidekick lately… He had been Mr. too cool for mom for a while, but all of a sudden is a huge mamas boy again he is so protective over me and is always asking what the baby is doing... how the baby eats, if the baby is sleeping, when the baby is coming He's so cute. DSS doesn't seem to be phased yet one way or another

[Shanana]

How timely ... I was just thinking of posting something similar. DD recently turned two, so I have held off telling her. It seems like such a difficult thing to explain, and then there's the risk of m/c, and I would hate to have to explain THAT too. I figure we'll wait until I'm through the first tri, or close to it.

But kids aren't stupid, and I've heard lots of stories like yours, where they know mama is pregnant before anyone else. Even if my dd can't verbalize it, I know she has to sense a shift. I know for me, the energetic shift has been HUGE, and I'm sure she has to feel it too.

She seems fairly normal, except she has skipped her nap 5 times in the last week and a half, which is making me absolutely batty. She is also waking earlier, and just tired, cranky and crabby overall. I'm not sure if it's related or not ...

[MamaJ2005]

I told my little girl that I had a baby in my belly. She looked at me, touched her belly, and said, "I have a baby in my belly." Now I point to my stomach and ask her what's in there? She smiles and says, "Baby." In July she told me on her own that she wanted a baby sister, then it was a brother. Silly Girl!

[Molliejo]

Originally Posted by MamaJ2005

I told my little girl that I had a baby in my belly. She looked at me, touched her belly, and said, "I have a baby in my belly." Now I point to my stomach and ask her what's in there? She smiles and says, "Baby." In July she told me on her own that she wanted a baby sister, then it was a brother. Silly Girl!

That's what my stepson did when we told him that he was getting a brother back when I was pregnant the first time. He told me that he had two babies in his stomach because he was "special-er than me".

[adtake]

We havent told any of the boys yet.. its such a long time to wait for them. I;m thinking we will wait till I go to the midwife and kinda see from there to tell them.

[thismama]

I told mine the day I found out. She knew I was waiting to know, because she knew "Mama went to get a seed for a baby" and that's why she stayed overnight at her Dad's. I had told her my yoni was trying to see if she could put the egg and seed together to make a baby. So DD was excited and wondering.

When I told her there was "a baby in my belly," she started jumping around in my arms and talking about being a big sister. Really excited. She keeps asking how big the baby is, patting my belly, asking where it is in there. She has plans that when I am making lunch, she is going to hold the baby all by herself and I will be far away, and she doesn't need any practice or for me to stand over her like I do when she holds our friends' babies.

She keeps asking why the baby chose her for a big sister. I said the baby was looking down from the spirit world to choose a mama and sister, and maybe she saw how gentle DD is with our cat, or our friend's babe. And she saw how many things DD knows how to do, and thought DD could teach her how to be a kid.

Lots of really sweet stuff like that. DD is also really insistent that the baby is a girl, and I'm a bit nervous about what if it's not. She has gone off boys lately coz there are a couple of rough ones in her life.

She is also nursing TONS, although this has slowed a bit again. I had to leave her for two full days and a night with her Dad to go try to get pregnant, and she doesn't like that much separation, so she was very clingy immediately after I returned.

And she expressed some fear about what if the baby chews her toys. So we strategized to put them on a high shelf. That kind of thing.

Because it is so so early, I have also told her that sometimes babies don't get to stay in the mama's belly, sometimes they forget something back in the spirit world or have something they need to do there, so they go back for a bit and then come back into the mama's belly another time. I said I really hope our baby is able to stay in my belly, that usually they can, and that we will know for sure in a few months' time. She seemed alright with that.

[Molliejo]

Originally Posted by thismama

I told mine the day I found out. She knew I was waiting to know, because she knew "Mama went to get a seed for a baby" and that's why she stayed overnight at her Dad's. I had told her my yoni was trying to see if she could put the egg and seed together to make a baby. So DD was excited and wondering.

When I told her there was "a baby in my belly," she started jumping around in my arms and talking about being a big sister. Really excited. She keeps asking how big the baby is, patting my belly, asking where it is in there. She has plans that when I am making lunch, she is going to hold the baby all by herself and I will be far away, and she doesn't need any practice or for me to stand over her like I do when she holds our friends' babies.

She keeps asking why the baby chose her for a big sister. I said the baby was looking down from the spirit world to choose a mama and sister, and maybe she saw how gentle DD is with our cat, or our friend's babe. And she saw how many things DD knows how to do, and thought DD could teach her how to be a kid.

Lots of really sweet stuff like that. DD is also really insistent that the baby is a girl, and I'm a bit nervous about what if it's not. She has gone off boys lately coz there are a couple of rough ones in her life.

She is also nursing TONS, although this has slowed a bit again. I had to leave her for two full days and a night with her Dad to go try to get pregnant, and she doesn't like that much separation, so she was very clingy immediately after I returned.

And she expressed some fear about what if the baby chews her toys. So we strategized to put them on a high shelf. That kind of thing.

Because it is so so early, I have also told her that sometimes babies don't get to stay in the mama's belly, sometimes they forget something back in the spirit world or have something they need to do there, so they go back for a bit and then come back into the mama's belly another time. I said I really hope our baby is able to stay in my belly, that usually they can, and that we will know for sure in a few months' time. She seemed alright with that.

That is so sweet!

[thismama]

Originally Posted by norajane

That is so sweet!

Thanks! Yeah, it has been really cool including her in the whole thing right from the beginning. Really makes me hope everything goes well, though. But my DD is around ALL the time, and I'm a single mama, and if I'm going to talk at all about being pg, she is going to overhear, yk? So for me it would have been very, very hard to not tell her.

I am loving how excited she is, all the questions she is asking. At her preschool they have circle time where all the kids share 'news,' and her news was that she is going to be a big sister. So cute!

[symesa]

Nope...I haven't mentioned anything and I won't for a while.

I figure we'll talk about it when it starts to become physically noticeable bump-wise. My DD is 2.5...