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post #41 of 111
Well, just like my last 2 pregnancies, I gain gain GAIN!

I refuse to own a scale (haven't since I was about 22) but at my last appointment I was 12W5D and had gained 10 lbs. I'm petite (5'3 1/2", 120# pre-pregnancy) and I never had any trouble losing it all after my babies are born, so it doesn't "bother" me. I don't have m/s (never did, thank the Good Sweet Lord) but if I don't eat every 2 hours while I'm awake, my stomach HURTS and I sometimes even get dizzy!
post #42 of 111
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Originally Posted by JustJamie View Post
There's nothing you can do to prevent pre-eclampsia. To say otherwise almost acts as blaming the victim for women who have suffered through pre-e with prior pregnancies.
There is insufficient evidence to affirmatively state that there is nothing you can do to prevent pre-eclampsia. And getting defensive about searching for answers and providing possible methods to help prevent a rise in blood pressure or pre-eclampsia only inhibits the process of discovering what we CAN do. I personally think it's unlikely that pre-eclampsia will remain a medical mystery forever. With more attention, time, and more sophisticated medical science, hopefully sooner rather than later there will be an explanation.

I am not blaming mothers for anything. Also, pre-eclampsia is frequently misdiagnosed. Many OBs can't agree on exactly when a woman becomes pre-eclamptic, and many OBs will also tell women the are pre-eclamptic when in reality all they're experiencing is PIH, which may be a perfectly normal condition for that particular woman at the end of pregnancy.

I experienced moderately elevated blood pressure towards the end of my last pregnancy. Had I been seeing an OB, there's a good chance it would have been called pre-eclampsia. Doubtless I would have been induced at roughly 37 weeks, or at least hospitalized and medicated. I've seen many stories from other women with *lower* BP than I had and identical proteinuria (trace to none) told that they were developing pre-eclampsia and needed to be induced. Voila, unnecessary c/s 12 or 18 or 24 hours later.

Women are not to "blame" for pre-eclampsia any more than I say "Well, it's your fault - you shouldn't have had so many hamburgers" to someone who has a heart attack. If there is the possibility that a good diet can reduce risk (whether that be because of protein intake, calcium intake, or something completely different) or pregnancy or birth complications, I think it's worth sharing that information. I didn't put anything out as gospel; even put "claim" in quotes because it's unproven.

As someone who's experienced elevated BP in late pregnancy and been given the medical run-around as a result, I'm interested in everything I can do to prevent something similar this time. And if I'd been seeing a typical OB during my last pregnancy, there's a good chance I'd believe I'd developed pre-eclampsia, when that was not in fact the case.

Also, I re-read what I wrote, and I really don't see where I even stated that you can prevent pre-eclampsia. I stated there was a claim about possibly preventing it, that there are two possible explanations currently being discussed regarding that claim, and that nothing has been affirmatively proven.
post #43 of 111
My appt on wed. I went up two lbs, so that means I'm down three since I got pg. It's coming on quick now though.
post #44 of 111
I've gained six pounds.
post #45 of 111
My midwife said that since I have a slender build (5'7"/123 lbs pre-pregnancy) I might gain more than usual.

I've already gained six... so I'm wondering if she's right??

Has anyone been told the same?

Trin.
post #46 of 111
I've gained nothing so far at 11 weeks but my m/s has made it difficult to eat. Romana, from my understanding of pre-e, its a different number for everyone, my bp is quite low, its an increase of more than 40 points they worry about. I'm surprised people are induced for just a bp rise, most women I know induced had b/p increases, were spilling high levels of protein, were swollen, had headaches etc.
post #47 of 111
I'm down about 15 lbs so far but things are looking up. I'm getting 2000 calories each day by IV and starting to keep some food down. I'm even getting a little belly finally!
post #48 of 111
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Originally Posted by Pinky Tuscadero View Post
I'm down about 15 lbs so far but things are looking up. I'm getting 2000 calories each day by IV and starting to keep some food down. I'm even getting a little belly finally!
I'm glad things are finally looking up for you!
post #49 of 111
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Originally Posted by Trinitty View Post
My midwife said that since I have a slender build (5'7"/123 lbs pre-pregnancy) I might gain more than usual.

I've already gained six... so I'm wondering if she's right??

Has anyone been told the same?

Trin.
I don't know. My Drs/MWs always said they'd like me to gain at least 40 and I'm the same size as you. However, I've always hovered right near a 20lb gain. I tend to lose 10 in the 1st tri, gain most of it back by the 2nd tri, and then add close to 10 in the 3rd tri. My SIL is the same size as me and she tends to gain 70ish with hers. I think it just depends! Gee, I'm no help. Sorry!
post #50 of 111
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Originally Posted by Pinky Tuscadero View Post
I'm down about 15 lbs so far but things are looking up. I'm getting 2000 calories each day by IV and starting to keep some food down. I'm even getting a little belly finally!

I'm glad you're feeling better. How did you decide when you should seek help? I'm trying to decide if I should bite the bullet and go in or wait and see if this terrible sickness subsides on its own.
post #51 of 111
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Originally Posted by healthnutmama View Post
I'm glad you're feeling better. How did you decide when you should seek help? I'm trying to decide if I should bite the bullet and go in or wait and see if this terrible sickness subsides on its own.
i'm with you here. i'm 13w and down 17lbs. i feel horrible half the time and okay the other half. i'm hoping my m/s is on its way out the door!!!!
post #52 of 111
I went in the first time when I hadn't kept anything at all down in 3 days. I stayed 5 days. Then after 10 days at home I had lost 10 lbs and still could not eat or drink anything, I decided to go back for TPN.
post #53 of 111
Forgot to say, dehydration makes morning sickness worse. If you're not keeping any fluids down, go get an IV. It may help you get over the hump and start feeling better.
post #54 of 111
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Originally Posted by Pinky Tuscadero View Post
Forgot to say, dehydration makes morning sickness worse. If you're not keeping any fluids down, go get an IV. It may help you get over the hump and start feeling better.
Thanks. For the past 6 weeks, I have had one episode weekly that lasts anywhere from 24-60 hours of continuous sickness. My head feels like it's going to explode and my stomach wretches. I know the sickness gets worse as I get more dehydrated so it's really difficult to come out of. If it happens again, I'm going in. I can't do this anymore. I'm weak even on my "good days" b/c I don't think my body has really ever had a chance to catch up.

Thanks again for your insight. I just never really know when to go. It's difficult to make decisions when you are delirious.
post #55 of 111
have lost 12 lbs
post #56 of 111
I've gained a 'healthy' amount.

(that is to say I don't own a scale, I've gained weight and try not to pay too much attention at the doctor's office to what I've gained as long as he has no concerns I'm trying to eat healthy and not overdue it, but I refuse to dwell on it. Now if I could only stay awake long enough to go running again )
post #57 of 111
I'm 13 wks and have gained 2 lbs, which I think is fine. I did realize I'm not eating near enough though (calories or protein) so hopefully when I do manage to eat enough I won't gain a ton! I gained 50 with dd, hopefully it'll be less than that this time!
post #58 of 111
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Originally Posted by healthnutmama View Post
I don't know. My Drs/MWs always said they'd like me to gain at least 40 and I'm the same size as you. However, I've always hovered right near a 20lb gain. I tend to lose 10 in the 1st tri, gain most of it back by the 2nd tri, and then add close to 10 in the 3rd tri. My SIL is the same size as me and she tends to gain 70ish with hers. I think it just depends! Gee, I'm no help. Sorry!

My m/w says the "healthy" range is so broad for each woman and each pregnancy that there's no use getting too micro-manage-y about it. She says she's had some mamas gain a healthy 15-20 lbs, and some gain 70, and no matter how much or little they gain, some have a hard time losing it afterwards and some don't. So she stresses proper nutrition and regular exercise over stressing out on the scale.
post #59 of 111
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Originally Posted by lilkat View Post
My m/w says the "healthy" range is so broad for each woman and each pregnancy that there's no use getting too micro-manage-y about it. She says she's had some mamas gain a healthy 15-20 lbs, and some gain 70, and no matter how much or little they gain, some have a hard time losing it afterwards and some don't. So she stresses proper nutrition and regular exercise over stressing out on the scale.
My OB said the same. She looks for patterns of gaining that could indicate problems, but isn't really concerned by the numbers, just the patterns.
post #60 of 111
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Originally Posted by Romana9+2 View Post
There is insufficient evidence to affirmatively state that there is nothing you can do to prevent pre-eclampsia. And getting defensive about searching for answers and providing possible methods to help prevent a rise in blood pressure or pre-eclampsia only inhibits the process of discovering what we CAN do. I personally think it's unlikely that pre-eclampsia will remain a medical mystery forever. With more attention, time, and more sophisticated medical science, hopefully sooner rather than later there will be an explanation.

I am not blaming mothers for anything. Also, pre-eclampsia is frequently misdiagnosed. Many OBs can't agree on exactly when a woman becomes pre-eclamptic, and many OBs will also tell women the are pre-eclamptic when in reality all they're experiencing is PIH, which may be a perfectly normal condition for that particular woman at the end of pregnancy.

I experienced moderately elevated blood pressure towards the end of my last pregnancy. Had I been seeing an OB, there's a good chance it would have been called pre-eclampsia. Doubtless I would have been induced at roughly 37 weeks, or at least hospitalized and medicated. I've seen many stories from other women with *lower* BP than I had and identical proteinuria (trace to none) told that they were developing pre-eclampsia and needed to be induced. Voila, unnecessary c/s 12 or 18 or 24 hours later.

Women are not to "blame" for pre-eclampsia any more than I say "Well, it's your fault - you shouldn't have had so many hamburgers" to someone who has a heart attack. If there is the possibility that a good diet can reduce risk (whether that be because of protein intake, calcium intake, or something completely different) or pregnancy or birth complications, I think it's worth sharing that information. I didn't put anything out as gospel; even put "claim" in quotes because it's unproven.

As someone who's experienced elevated BP in late pregnancy and been given the medical run-around as a result, I'm interested in everything I can do to prevent something similar this time. And if I'd been seeing a typical OB during my last pregnancy, there's a good chance I'd believe I'd developed pre-eclampsia, when that was not in fact the case.

Also, I re-read what I wrote, and I really don't see where I even stated that you can prevent pre-eclampsia. I stated there was a claim about possibly preventing it, that there are two possible explanations currently being discussed regarding that claim, and that nothing has been affirmatively proven.
Not everyone who is diagnosed with pre-e is misdiagnosed. Unless BP of 190/??? is normal during pregnancy, unless a weight gain of 75 pounds, including 13 pounds in 3 weeks in the first trimester is normal during pregnancy, unless it's normal during pregnancy for your platelets to just...disappear, unless it's normal to have seizures during labor.

I was miserable during my pregnancy with my daughter, the only mis diagnosis happened when symptoms showed up as early as 16 weeks and the doctors ignored it until they were threatening an emergency c-section at 30 weeks.

I believe it's irresponsible to say "oh, just eat more protein and you'll be fine" when that's simply NOT TRUE. I was active, I ate a healthy, well-balanced diet, plenty of fresh fruits/veggies, avoided carbs, ate lots of healthy protein, and I still got very very very very very sick. AT THIS POINT IN TIME, THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO PREVENT PRE-E. Bad things happen.

Part of why I believe it's irresponsible to give that kind of advice, ESPECIALLY in a community like MDC, is it will help to encourage women who really NEED medical assistance to avoid it, because they will believe claims like that - that they just need to change their diet. It's NOT TRUE. Women and babies can DIE from pre-e, and they NEED to be monitored by medical professionals if they develop it.

One thing I have noticed in the time I've been at MDC - I frequent MDC and another mainstream board of equal size; true, here there are a lot more "successful" vaginal births - but there are also considerably more infant and maternal deaths. In the 2 years I've been a member at the mainstream board, there has been 1 maternal death (due to undiagnosed pre-e, interestingly enough!) and 1 infant death. There have definitely been more deaths in the "natural family living" community.

I think a balance needs to be reached, where women are confident in their own bodies, but also know when to seek medical care. Pre-eclamptic symptoms are a time to seek medical care, because changing your diet just is not going to cut it, and it is dangerous to say otherwise.
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