Middle name issues

[BamBam'sMom]

We have come up with Hunter as a definite maybe for a first name, but we are not in agreement over the middle name. I want to use my father's middle name which, unfortunately, is Granville. Dh really doesn't like it. It seems like some people love it and some hate it.

Do you think it would be cruel of me?

[Plaid Leopard]

Maybe give 2 middle names?
I have to admit Granville is not one of my favorite names, but as a middle name it won't really be used much. In any case, it's not a weird name, it just sounds like a family name.

[gizzyntaz]

Eh, it's just a middle name, is my opinion. I don't tend to worry about the middle names! I'm not a big fan of DS's middle name but it's DH's and his father's so it was important to him. If it's REALLY, REALLY important to you, I think you should use it. I was willing to consent with DS because I knew it was REALLY important to DH.

[thewaggonerfamily]

All of our children have 2 middle names. It just started that way and we just carried it through. The second middle name tends to be a family name and a lot of times is a little different. But it really never has to be used, if they don't want.

Katherine Elizabeth Sophronia (Sophronia is my GGma, I wish I used it for her first name, but I was worried about teasing. It was also sort of a joke, since my mom swore she was a girl while I was pg and called my belly Sophronia Begonia. They didn't believe DH when he came out and told them she was born and her name until they saw that he was crying. They thought he was pulling their leg.)

Christian William Dudley (Wm is my dad's name and every male in both sides of my family back to the 1600s. DH vetoed it saying that Wm Waggoner sounderd like Elmer Fudd talking. Both Scott's dad and gpa are Earl Dudley. DS hates the Dudley, though.)

Johannah Rose Tamilin (Tami Lin is Scott's sister's name who was killed by a drunk driver when he was 8 and she was 6.)

Nicholas Frank Joseph (Frank Joseph is Scott's grandpa's name who he was very close to)

Genevieve Malissa Grace (Genevieve is my great aunt (sophronia's sister) and Malissa is Scott's ggma)

You might try Hunter Something Granville and then when talking to your side of the family you can tell them his full name, when talking to everyone else, you can just leave the second middle name out. DH might go for that, no?

[greenmagick]

I think it is fine for a middle name. My youngest brother has my moms maiden name for a middle name, so it is Zachary Gatewood.

[mamas2atti]

I like it. I really like family names being passed down though.

[philomom]

If your hubby hates it, I would toss the idea. Is there another family name you like? Maybe your dh wouldn't hate one of those.

[mommajb]

I agree that it just sounds like a family name though it would be nice if your dh also liked it.

[BamBam'sMom]

Thanks for the advice.

I suggested giving two middle names and dh didn't really respond (he does that, but I don't realize it until later) so I have to bring it up again. I guess I want him and ds1 to have the same number of names, although there's no real reason for it. Ds's middle name is a dh's family middle name, Eugene, which I think is far worse than Granville but I went with it because I knew it was important to him.

There are a few other family names we could use, but dh isn't crazy about any of them either.

The thing is, I never realized how important it was to me until dh turned it down. My dad died when I was 12 and I really wanted to name this son after him, and neither of his other names work with dh's last name.

When we talked about it, briefly, the other night, dh said he knows it's important to me and he's trying to like it.