Anyone else having problems with DP/DH freaking out before the birth?

[jazzybaby9]

We argue so much we've broken up a few times through the pg. This last month, since I'm so close to having the baby, he quit his job and has been spending money we DON'T have, while I'm working a few 9 hour days for extra $. We live in seperate apartments right now, until the baby comes then I'll be moving into his place where her crib and everything is already set up. Sometimes we go a day or 2 without even speaking to eachother. He says I should stop "nagging" at him to get a job and I tell him to be productive in some way. Every time I talk to him he's out with friends. Things used to be so good between us. I felt like we were inseperable and we were crazy about eachother. Now it feels this past month everything has changed. We're so distant with eachother...

Has anyone else experienced this? I'm wondering if your partners/husbands tend to freak out when the arrival of baby draws near...

Please tell me I'm not alone!

[BamBam'sMom]

I'm sorry. What a hard thing to be going through right now .

Yes, I have heard of many dads-to-be having little freak-outs, so I definitely don't think you're alone.

I think many men, especially the first time around, don't understand how our hormones work. With my first pregnancy, I don't think dh knew what do to with me, I was so emotional. I think he became a little distant because of it.

I hope things get better for you guys soon.

[jazzybaby9]

Originally Posted by BamBam'sMom

I'm sorry. What a hard thing to be going through right now .

Yes, I have heard of many dads-to-be having little freak-outs, so I definitely don't think you're alone.

I think many men, especially the first time around, don't understand how our hormones work. With my first pregnancy, I don't think dh knew what do to with me, I was so emotional. I think he became a little distant because of it.

I hope things get better for you guys soon.

Thing is, I'm not the emotional one, he is. Even with the change in hormones I'm still as stable as ever. I feel like I'm toting his emotional baggage around. He whines about how everything will change after the baby is born, while I'm the one holding myself and him up. I thought I was supposed to be the one to be held up and supported, but he's acting as if HE's the pregnant one....

I'm sorry for seeming like a complainer, I really try not to be. I just feel the need to vent since I don't want to put any stress on the little one.

[stacyg]

Many being sent your way! How stressful! Vent away here...No real advice just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you!

[IntuitiveJamie]

I wish I had something helpful to say..
Just wanted to give you a
I'm really sorry you are going thru such stress right now.

[BamBam'sMom]

Originally Posted by jazzybaby9

Thing is, I'm not the emotional one, he is. Even with the change in hormones I'm still as stable as ever. I feel like I'm toting his emotional baggage around. He whines about how everything will change after the baby is born, while I'm the one holding myself and him up. I thought I was supposed to be the one to be held up and supported, but he's acting as if HE's the pregnant one....

I'm sorry for seeming like a complainer, I really try not to be. I just feel the need to vent since I don't want to put any stress on the little one.

It definitely sounds like he's being pretty immature. Things certainly will change after the baby is born. Hopefully he can accept that he has to live a different kind of life now.

I wasn't trying to put it all on you or anything.

And go right ahead and vent. It sounds like you are being very strong. There's nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam.

[~minnow~]

I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. I def. have experienced the argument in which he says I need to stop "nagging" him when I'm trying (calmly) to tell him he needs to get his stuff together.

I hope it gets better soon. Hugs!

[mamas2atti]

Oh mama I'm so sorry. I don't really have any advice but I'm always willing to "listen."

[Plaid Leopard]

Many hugs to you. You are right, you are the one who needs to be supported during this time. I hope your DP gets his act together and realizes what a blessing and joy (and responsibilty) it is to be a father and a partner.
Don't feel bad about venting here. We are all here for you.