Originally Posted by Benji'sMom
This has been discussed before and I think the mods came (or cynthia mosher maybe?) and said that Mothering, the mag, doesn't support the mother-child seperation that WOH creates, so it's not something they are going to talk about very much in their mag or website. It's just not that type of magazine. We get a subforum and that's it.
wow, really?! if true, that is really really sad. it seems an incredibly elitist stance. worst case scenario, there are mothers who cannot afford not to WOH and this would just make it seem that AP was not for "those people". or at the very least i cannot picture being an effective attached parent if i, as a mother, am not taking care of my soul too. i love my work and i'm sure i'll love my child. so, why do they have to be mutually exclusive?
and, if true regarding Mothering not supporting WOH, i think it goes straight back to what i was saying in my first post in this thread about the inability to imagine work and family as an integrated proposition in our culture. until more of our society can envision that it is possible and beneficial for parents to integrate their home life into the workplace and vice versa it will be a constant struggle for women to ever be truly empowered to be a mother in a holistic sense. ( i'm focusing on women/mother because we are talking about mothering and not parenting but it will take both men and women to create this.)
and if it doesn't start with a forward thinking magazine like Mothering then who will it start with? i hope this is not the case and i hope that Mothering is the frontrunner on raising the awareness and trumpeting the horn for companies who support women in their mothering role while operating successful businesses. it's time for us as a society to get creative, not cling to old paradigms of what work is and how motherhood must conform to that. and, finally, a question- how do the editors and writers of Mothering have the kind of mother/child relationship they promote while still obviously working at something besides being a mother? maybe they can share their stories as a starting point...