I've read the bulk of the thread but must skip the last 5-10 replies due to lack of time. I did want to add my 2 cents though. I'm one of those that dreamed of having twins - like since I can remember. I believed with every fiber of my being that one day I'd be blessed with twins. I had 2 singletons first and was sorely disappointed each time that there was only one baby. Then finally I got my wish. No, it hasn't been easy, yes, I've had to compromise some of my AP values, but oh my gosh how lucky and glad I feel to have them! I'm happy with the one set I have and don't feel the need to have another set of twins, however, I'd absolutely have them again if given the choice. I carried them to term, giving birth at home to babes just shy of 7 & 8 lbs each (even in the water to one of them - hehe), have nursed on demand since birth, co-slept, and baby-wore (although admittedly not as much as I would have/be with a singelton surely), and cloth diapered with enthusiasm. In fact, as an evolving mother, I feel that these are my most AP-parented babies yet. Sure, with just one I could be "SUPER-AP-Mama!" but I'll settle for "just doing my best-mama" for the most part. I've been sad to read so often here that so many moms not only didn't hope for twins but were crushed to learn they were having them. Now that I have my own twins I can certainly understand how they must have had a firmer grip of twin-reality pre-twins, unlike me, but that just makes me feel that much luckier that I was one of the relative few (from what I gather) that truly wanted this life. I'm so glad to have it and I hope that other moms, like the OP, who are truly up for the adventure are so blessed. So anyway, I was going to say Yams & to be nursing when you conceive but I see that's been covered. Best of luck to you - I hope your dreams come true! And fwiw, I don't think I've ever sugar-coated my twin experience. A lot of it has been rough but honestly I feel that most of the rough stuff I've been going through as a parent is more about meeting my older kids needs than in my dealings with the twins themselves (although they're current 17-month old stage of constantly knocking each other down, biting, and screeching is quite trying). Gotta love the adventure though!
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9/12/07 at 4:19pm