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post #81 of 164
I have to wait till SATURDAY?!?!?! :
post #82 of 164
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Originally Posted by CorbinsMama View Post
It sounds like the word "after" was left out after "child."

So that would work out as Blissful_maia said:

They already had three children (we assume) then they had a child after each failed vas. Two failed vas makes two kids, then one successful vas, making three vasectomies.
Yeah that does help me piece it together. Thanks!
post #83 of 164
Maybe this is too obvious... but shouldn't the OP's husband get tested for sperm regardless of whether she is pregnant right now or not?

I mean, he needs to do that anyway, so he should do it RIGHT AWAY. Then we won't all have to wait until Saturday.
post #84 of 164
FIVE WHOLE DAYS we have to wait - what are you doing to us???
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Originally Posted by lovingmommyhood View Post
How do you get that from this?

"My husband had a friend at work who had 3 vasectomies and a child each of the first two (for a total of 5)."
Lol I meant he had a kid after each of the first two vasectomies. They had 3 kids, he went for a vas, it failed and his wife got preggo, got another one, wife got preggo again, got a third and it finally worked.
post #86 of 164
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Originally Posted by Laggie View Post
Maybe this is too obvious... but shouldn't the OP's husband get tested for sperm regardless of whether she is pregnant right now or not?

I mean, he needs to do that anyway, so he should do it RIGHT AWAY. Then we won't all have to wait until Saturday.
That's all I'm sayin'
post #87 of 164
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Originally Posted by Laggie View Post
Maybe this is too obvious... but shouldn't the OP's husband get tested for sperm regardless of whether she is pregnant right now or not?

I mean, he needs to do that anyway, so he should do it RIGHT AWAY. Then we won't all have to wait until Saturday.
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post #88 of 164
Just bumping in here b/c I'm curious, too!
post #89 of 164
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Originally Posted by my3peanuts View Post

Ruthla, yeah I should've waited to wonder, I see the peer pressure now.

BTW, I decided to POAS no earlier than Saturday.


More peer pressure!

POAS tomorrow first thing in the morning!!!!!
post #90 of 164
I know a couple that had a surprise post-vas baby. And they're just one of only a few couples I know who relied on a vasectomy for birth control!

Subbing.
post #91 of 164
Yeah!! (Seconding agreeing POAS tomorrow!)
post #92 of 164
We still try and convince my mom, who is stillin child bearing years, that one of these days she will find herself knocked up.....24 years post vas
post #93 of 164
Thread Starter 
In 5 pages I've gotten 1, possibly 2 that gave me reassurance!


I keep going back & forth in my mind about how I'd feel if I were pregnant. I wasn't really thinking too strongly about it until everyone had a story about a post-vas baby. LOL

I HATE being pregnant & I don't want another baby. Really, I don't. But I LOVE labor and delivery! I can't think of a good fix!
post #94 of 164
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My dh had a V about 1.5 yrs ago. His first sample wasn't clean (in spite of his heroic efforts to "clear the pipes"), but his second was.

I read recently that the new recommendation is for men to get checked every three years. Even if the procedure is initially successful, those sneaky vas deferens can figure out a way to regrow sometimes. Dh's urologist claimed that because he cauterized the vas in addition to cutting them, that he is not at risk, but I am unwilling to take that chance.

The "test" merely involves looking at a slide of semen under a microscope. Swimmers are pretty easy to spot in a fresh sample! If you have any scientist geek friends you could check yourself.

You said you have only had a couple of PP afs, right? I had some really wierd cycles with lots of pg symptoms during the first few months it was back. I even used up all the pregnancy tests I had left from my TTC days. Hope it's just a false alarm!
post #95 of 164
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Originally Posted by Ellie'sMom View Post
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My dh had a V about 1.5 yrs ago. His first sample wasn't clean (in spite of his heroic efforts to "clear the pipes"), but his second was.

I read recently that the new recommendation is for men to get checked every three years. Even if the procedure is initially successful, those sneaky vas deferens can figure out a way to regrow sometimes. Dh's urologist claimed that because he cauterized the vas in addition to cutting them, that he is not at risk, but I am unwilling to take that chance.

The "test" merely involves looking at a slide of semen under a microscope. Swimmers are pretty easy to spot in a fresh sample! If you have any scientist geek friends you could check yourself.

You said you have only had a couple of PP afs, right? I had some really wierd cycles with lots of pg symptoms during the first few months it was back. I even used up all the pregnancy tests I had left from my TTC days. Hope it's just a false alarm!
I think this is my 4th cycle...

The funny thing is the sample has to be "from masturbation & brought to the lab within 45 minutes". Well, we live 30 minutes from town so that doesn't give him much time. :
post #96 of 164
Within 45 minutes??

Would the presence of dead sperm be just as convincing as the presence of live sperm?

Dh's "sample' was way more than 45 minutes old...it was like...3 hours old....
post #97 of 164
Just to add to the stories here - my MIL knew a couple who decided to be child-free. She had a tubal and he had a vas early on in their life together. 15 or so years into their marriage (and they were in their mid-40's by this time), she discovers she is pregnant. What are the chances of that? Minute, but still possible. When I met them, their child was 10 or so and they really did enjoy being parents. But still - what a surprise!

OTOH, my periods could be whacked when in the earlier months/years of breastfeeding. If I was pg for every time I was convinced that I was, I'd have approximately 15 kids by now. Thankfully, that is not the case.
post #98 of 164
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(in spite of his heroic efforts to "clear the pipes")
post #99 of 164
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Originally Posted by my3peanuts View Post
I think this is my 4th cycle...

The funny thing is the sample has to be "from masturbation & brought to the lab within 45 minutes". Well, we live 30 minutes from town so that doesn't give him much time. :
Unless he collects his sample in town... maybe at the lab. He might discuss the time factor with them and see what they suggest he do.
post #100 of 164
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Originally Posted by its_our_family View Post
Within 45 minutes??

Would the presence of dead sperm be just as convincing as the presence of live sperm?

Dh's "sample' was way more than 45 minutes old...it was like...3 hours old....
If they saw any sperm they would have called you. If the vas deferens are severed no sperm should be getting out. I think the issue is just that live sperm are easier to spot.

I occasionally see live sperm in my patients' vaginal secretions (in spite of them being told to please abtain for at least 24 hrs before an exam) and given the wait time in our clinic, I can promise you that sperm was at least several hours old. Those little dudes are built to last! Keep the sample warm, and I bet they'll do fine.
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