When you're changing doctors. . .

[Maggirayne]

do you tell your current doctor why you're changing or not say anything at all and not go back?

Do you explain to your new doctor why you're changing to him/her?

I've had a good relationship with dr, but wasn't pleased with her pushing induction (when I'd said no from the get-go) I had to wait on her to get to my room before delivering my DD (whose heartrate was dropping enough the nurses put me on oxygen), I get asked when am I going to have her vaccinated every well-baby visit (when I've said not until she's two) and refusing to give me a rx for powdered Nystatin without sugar for thrush (she wanted to do stronger drugs, and I knew the Nystatin was working, but was not good enough and likely b/c of the sugar solution. And I'd ask questions during pregnancy and not always get answers. And after DD was born at one of her appts. I was asking questions and she didn't answer me straight, but did when DH came with me a couple weeks later (I asked the exact same stinking questions)!

She is supportive of breastfeeding. But I don't have enough trust in her to go in when I am fighting plugged milk ducts because I am figuring she would just suggest antibiotics which I will not do because the thrush is just about cleared up(after 2 months), and no way on earth am I going to take any antibiotics.
Sorry, venting a little.

[MidwifeErika]

If it would make you feel better, you can let her know why you are switching. Otherwise, I would just pick out a new doctor and have them get your records for you.

[Charmie981]

Your health care provider is entirely your choice, and changing health care providers is also entirely your choice. You can make an appointment with the new doctor and have them send a request for your records to the old doc's office and never have to face the old doc again. Or, if you feel that by explaining yourself to her, she might rethink some of her practices, you can write her a letter explaining the situation. But you don't have to do that if you don't want to.

[Maggirayne]

Hmm, okay, well, I have felt good most of the time talking to her, she's not a bad dr, just doesn't fit with what I want from my dr. I just needed to bounce someideas off. Thanks so much!

[onlyboys]

For me, it would be very difficult to swtich doctors, so I'd take the back door approach and have a request for my records sent. But, I detest conflict, and I hate to hurt people's feelings.

BUT, and this is a huge BUT, I would never stay with a care provider no matter how much I like them if they weren't going to provide me with a birth that I feel is right for me.

Have you decided who to switch to?

[SublimeBirthGirl]

I always think it's a good idea to send a letter about why you're switching. Consumer demand/doctors losing money will help change things.

[Maggirayne]

Originally Posted by onlyboys

Have you decided who to switch to?

Not entirely, but I'm meeting a MDC mom from my town tonight who liked her OB and had a doula (my dr said a doula was unnecessary, I think) I know I asked. Not positive attitude anyway. And the other hospital in town where her OB is at has two-person whirlpools, not a bathtub with jets that's not big enough for me, and I'm 5'4". I would rather do a HB, but DH isn't ready for that yet.

And thanks, SublimeBirthGirl, yes, for consumer demand, she can't change what she doesn't know needs to be changed. So It is important enough that she should know. I've been thinking DD's well-baby in Oct will be our last appt. Writing my initial post really helped me clearly state what I wasn't happy with her service.