Time is slipping away

[Beckula]

I realized that this baby could be born in the next two months, terrifying thought. I also realise that I'm scared to death of giving birth in a hospital and really would rather give birth in a cave alone. I know it isn't going to happen but ... Its a dream. I think its just nervousness to be honest.Its just the idea of having to tell the hospital staff and Dr.'s that I don't want most of their routine crap done to my baby that scares me. I'm not a very confrontational person and I'[m going to have to be at a time where I know I won't be feeling my best anyway. Eh, I'm just going to have to get over it. Does anyone else feel this way? Not scared by labor per se but scared of the confrontation and seperation from you DC (if you have one).

[Kontessa]

YES I feel that way! I could not do it without hubby. In short, I had a painless labor with my last child, finally went to the hospital, and after being checked had baby 20 mins after. I had paniced after I got checked and had so much pain from that point on. Mostly fear I think. The Dr read my birth plan and was trying to talk me out of most of it while I was PUSHING. He said "So you honestly feel the whole medical world is wrong about this stuff" thankfully my hubby said "It's a possibility" and in short closed that conversation for me. But after Hubby still had to stay with baby and they STILL put baby under heater after the birth rather then on me.

Without hubby here....

We desided then that we would have a homebirth for the next child, and so that is what I am doing. I would so much rather hubby be here for it but as he can not be, I will simply make my cave here at home and protect my baby from the Drs. The midwives I am not at all worried about and heck, I get to choose when to call them depending on my mood. LOL

I feel for you, I really do. I hope some how, some way, you can ease your worry by making sure you have a warrior or two there who know the birth plan and will fight for you and baby so you will not have to worry about that.

[melissakc]

I feel that way too. I've got birth jitters for sure! I really wish a homebirth were an option for me. I'm going to have a doula there with me to be my warrior bc I too am not confrontational and in that state I don't stand up for myself well.

[sorteep]

I definitely felt that way with 2nd.. hence our switch to MW's and birth ctr this time.. but, I found we got a lot more respect than I expected at our last hospital birth (1st one too) I was armed for battle and did not really get one.. I was pleasantly surprised.. but we still ahd to be hypervigilant with baby so nothinjg was "done" to him.. but it was OK.. we were just calm and firm in our resolve and they just let it go.. higs good luck

[Valerieg]

I'm actually feeling pretty relaxed and ready. The only thing I have to get past is the fact that this birth will be different from DD's (for better or worse).

But, I chose a hospital birth again because of how well the hospital worked with my birth plan, and how well DH did at protecting me from their procedures. I think if you have the proper backup it won't be too bad. I expected a lot more trouble last time and really didn't get any (besides monitoring, which is part of the reason I changed drs).

Your dr should be able to tell you if your birth vision is compatible with what they'd work with (both the dr and hospital). It isn't too late to find a new one of either if they don't think they can give you what you want.

It's funny though. I chose a hospital birth because I was afraid of the fear of "what ifs" and that causing me to stall with a homebirth!

[kathteach]

Yes I am scared too. Last time I was in the hospital, the same hospital I will deliver in this time, but the head nurse/midwife fell asleep and no one checked on me until I woke my DH up saying I had to have meds, I couldn't take the pain. I was in transition and didn't know it. He ran to get the nurse, found her asleep at her desk, and when she came it was time to push so no meds like I wanted after all.
This time I am nervous I will cave if I have people checking on me. I am such a people-pleaser. Hopefully if I don't call on the nurse, they won't bother with me because they'll be too busy. That's my hope anyway.

[Beckula]

Its just that I don't know what to expect really. I'm going to a different hospital than last time because I was told my chances for a VBAC are better by the Birthing Center (who won't deliver VBAC's). My OB is not a physician at this hospital as it is an hour and a half from my home. Our plan is to wait until pushing so there is no reason to pick an OB affiliated with the hospital as we would get the on-call OB anyway. Its a really big hospital too so its doubtful I would just so happen to be there the same night as any of the OB's I meet beforehand. I'm going to try and schedule a hospital tour though I might be too late. That way I can ask what their routine procedures are (so I can refuse most of them). Also when we do show up its going to be to late to go over any birthing plan so really any plans I make will have to be for DH, my Mom, and I to know so we can actively say no. What happens if they are absolute jerks like last time, can I leave before they discharge us? I really don't want DH tasered because we want to leave with OUR baby.

[marisa]

I think if you leave before they discharge you it's considered "against medical advice" and your insurance can refuse to pay. That's just what I've heard, anyway.

[Momma Aimee]

i actually was really really freaked aboutthis birth -- untill my awsome OB appt on Friday.

Now -- ahhhhhhhhhh PEACE for the first time this pregancy. Not sure why the dramtic change.

now i am suddenly having "visions" and dreams of a totally calm and peacefull birth -- to an extream i know is not realsitc -- "like oh i feel the baby, oh it is crwoning, oh it is here" .............. but they are a lot better than the paniced CS and NICU nightmares i have been having for months.

I know the biggest thingi am doing is trying to be MORE REALISTIC this time. I went into Theo'd birth on a high horse -- dead set adginst anything medical and sure i was gonna be fine. welllllllllllllllllllll uhhh not so much. soooooooooo this time i am trying to be much more realsitc. and not set myself up to fall this time, yk?

[Beckula]

OK my last post was a little dramatic at the end, sorry gals!: Still freaked out about it though but i think I can handle this, I've just got a whole lot of drama in my family right now and I guess its making me be a little over dramatic (my husband is not going to be tasered, for goodness sake). Well off to get some swedish pancakes at IHP because my DS is having a lack of pancake fit.

[Beckula]

OK my last post was a little dramatic at the end, sorry gals!: Still freaked out about it though but i think I can handle this, I've just got a whole lot of drama in my family right now and I guess its making me be a little over dramatic (my husband is not going to be tasered, for goodness sake). Well off to get some swedish pancakes at IHP because my DS is having a lack of pancake fit.