Well FWIW, my DD is similar - not as extreme with the self-feeding thing...but she is definitely a bit of a "princess" where mom is concerned. She is almost 4. For now I'm willing to let it slide because we have other issues to deal with...look I'm just happy she finally potty trained! LOL
But with dressing, for example, if I'm not there, she will at least attempt it (like at camp) even if she gets things wrong...but if I'm anywhere in earshot she is all about "momma do it". I will encourage her and ask if she'd like to try, but when she refuses, I don't want to make it into a big battle of wills....I'm hoping that by the time she is school-age she will be more interested in self-care. If I get really desperate I will up the ante and try to do more game playing, etc to get her interested.
She will definitely eat better if I feed her....so I will sometimes when I think she's gone too long without food. But mostly I leave it up to her - but she's never gone 8 hours without eating...
I guess you could just encourage her to do more for herself in other areas that she *is* willing to do...for example, my DD is willing to carry her dish to the sink when she is finished. I let her cook muffins by herself (except the stove of course)....anything I can to help her advance her life skills....Maybe doing some of that will help you feel like you're not doing "everything" for her?
I'm just hoping that by 6 or so, when she gets more body aware, she will want to do more of this stuff by herself....
|She won't ever sit down!! If we try to read a book she wants to look at the pictures for 5 seconds and be done, she is not interested in the story at all.
My DD is the same way. One thing that helps is to get pictures with items she likes in them (like balloons)...then I have her point out all the balloons. Then we talk about what color they are, etc. Eventually, we might get around to "what do you think the balloon is doing" etc. My DD will *rarely* sit for a story - her APD makes it just a bunch of words to her. So she prefers "fact" books with things she can point to and name. Maybe stick to those for a while until you get your DD into the reading "habit" and then give her more complex pictures. And repeat books over and over - she will see more each time she looks and get to know the "story" over time.
Also, my librarians have been good about recommending books where the pictures tell the story...so I point out what is happening in the picture, or ask her what she sees...that engages her alot more than the words of a story...
good luck mamma