The OTHER side of natural child birth - Page 2

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Ayiii!!! Take it easy on the first-timers! You're scaring me!

Sorry, Grace! Just take this thread as an invitation to do whatever you need to do. Don't be ashamed! Let it out! It's harder if you try and remain calm or subdued or ladylike. Forget all that!

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by AimeeandBrian

I know I will be screaming the F-word the whole time. That and "hooooly sh*t" I told my mom and she asked me nicely if I could please not say unwholesome words lol. (she spells out everything rude) She also asked that I keep myself decent. I told her she can either not see the baby born, or she can deal with my naked boobs. (I'm asuming she wasn't expecting me to wear panties!)

That made me laugh out loud, the idea of wearing panties while you are birthing a child!

How ridiculous is it that your mom is setting boundaries with you about labor?! And keep yourself "decent"? OMG! I'm not having my mom there for that very reason. She would be ashamed of me, so she can't be there. You'd think they never had kids the way they act sometimes! :

[canadiannancy]

I thought I might be loud..and for sure i would swear...but with both dd1 and dd2 I had lousy back labour(both were posterior with nuchal hands) and didn't scream or shout or curse once. With dd2 that was very handy, because dd1 was conveniently having her nap when dd2 was born and I didn't wake her . No idea how this one will be....crossing fingers she is not face up with both hands on her face though!

[lilsishomemade]

Sorry for jumping in, not due with a baby at the moment. I had back labor with my last (only natural birth) and while I always thought I'd be the screamer with back labor, I was very quiet, maybe with some low "oh oh oh" sounds, but I had to focus inward to get past it. Oh, and counterpressure really helped. The back labor stopped right before transition, so I think he might have flipped around to a more comfy (for me!) position.

Don't be afraid of it. Listen to your body and do whatever you feel like doing. That keeps it from getting too painful.

[gcgirl]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Ayiii!!! Take it easy on the first-timers! You're scaring me!

Yeah. That.

[GinaRae]

Don't be scared, girls! Be primal

Thank goodness with all of mom's flaws, I don't think she would ever tell me to cover up. She will still be naked in front of me if we're talking and she needs a shower, so I don't think she's shy.

But according to her she won't stick around for the birth anyway.

[AimeeandBrian]

That's why her comment shocked me! We were a naked family! We don't shut the bathroom door and I have seen her naked a million times! I think its just planned nakedness she has a problem with haha. She also didn't like watching me get a brazilian wax that time...:

(But she does spell out everything and it cracks me up-- she doesn't know how I got this mouth)

[GinaRae]

My mom shocks me once in a while too. Inside she's evil like me, but sometimes she likes to play the pious role. Like being the queen of lies and then telling others that she doesn't like lies and would NEVER lie. Which is a total lie. My husband finds that one particularly funny. Ticks me off :

[crystalalene]

Originally Posted by scheelimama

Thanks for that reminder Gina.

I'd rather remain blissfully unaware of how different (and potentially more painful) this next one could be.

Originally Posted by Monkeybutt

yea same here!

And me, too. : Lately, I am nearly obsessing about having back labor. I didn't with DD but I am so afraid of how much everyone says it hurts.

DD's birth was a bit noisy, more than I thought it'd be, but I couldn't come up with any words so I didn't curse. The only thing I whispered to DH was that I had to poop , and then in transition I said that I was tired and I wanted to take a nap. I wanted to sleep. I had imagined that I'd be silent the whole time but the moan/groan thing really helped during contractions.

For first timers, don't worry about it, just be open to anything!

[Undercover Hippie]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Ayiii!!! Take it easy on the first-timers! You're scaring me!

Not trying to scare anyone! Just think of it as good preparation, you'll know what to expect and if you find yourself being loud you'll know it's absolutely and completely normal.

IMO it is kind of like sex, some people are loud and some people are quiet, there is a natural for each of us and trying to be something that you're not ruins the moment.

[monocyte]

Originally Posted by GinaRae

Don't be scared, girls! Be primal

Exactly what I was going to say. I really have not much recollection of noise during ds birth, but, my mw did comment weeks later about how "primal" birth can be....so I can only imagine!

Let me add (and I'm still somewhat processing this...) I totally had an orgasmic birth with DS from the time I felt like I needed to push, til when he crowned (one extreme to the other...) So I can only imagine what primal noises I was making then I knew it could happen, but was a bit shocked when it happened to ME.

Accept it, ride it, be there, or dont be there. And if your like me...you'll want to do it again, and again...even though it does hurt. But there's nothing like the rush you get soon after. It's the best, most amazing, beyond words "I DID IT".

[Grace24]

Cool Kelli that's what I like to hear!

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by Undercover Hippie

IMO it is kind of like sex, some people are loud and some people are quiet, there is a natural for each of us and trying to be something that you're not ruins the moment.

Right. And some people were loud until they had kids and had to be quiet..

[Monkeybutt]

Originally Posted by GinaRae

Right. And some people were loud until they had kids and had to be quiet..

bahahaha Im having such a crappy day and that just made me laugh. I needed that Gina!! It's so true!!

[moonchiald]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Ayiii!!! Take it easy on the first-timers! You're scaring me!

Ah, so I am not alone!

I can't even imagine what I will do. As it is now, if I am in pain or sick I internalize, so I wonder if I will do the same then.

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by monocyte

But there's nothing like the rush you get soon after. It's the best, most amazing, beyond words "I DID IT".

That is so true! After my DD was born I felt like I was high. I felt like Wonder Woman. There is this picture of me afterwards and I look totally stoned. It's funny. I learned later that it was endorphins I was feeling. As long as you aren't medicated, the chemicals flow freely--your body takes care of you!

[GinaRae]

Yes! I was never ever so proud and high as after my first VBAC that was unmedicated. I still remember the feeling! I hope I can feel that again. What a rush. Even with a nasty episiotomy and stitching and the usual fatigue of having just done the birth marathon, I ate, jumped out of bed and showered and was wide awake to spend time with my new baby.

[mothragirl]

Originally Posted by melissakc

That is so true! After my DD was born I felt like I was high. I felt like Wonder Woman. There is this picture of me afterwards and I look totally stoned. It's funny. I learned later that it was endorphins I was feeling. As long as you aren't medicated, the chemicals flow freely--your body takes care of you!

for real! i was on a high from my birth for months.