Nice to find a new FS thread. Thanks for starting it!
Well, my life is so much better than the last time i posted in the old FS thread. For those who have read my story, more weird things kept happening with our extended family: dh's uncle commited suicide two weeks after dh's father died
My brother's wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer... Our "visiting-homeless-friend" was commited to stay in our house forever, I was 100% sure I wanted to divorce from my dh, my dh could not stop drinking as an sponge...
Trabot, I so much heard you and let my friend stay some more time. He was a clear pain in the a$% but I kept re-saying what you told me about his presence meaning something. He's gone now and so has his cat. His stuff is still in my house, but we have cleaned it and put it all in order in a place out of sight. Well, his presence, at the end, was good for my relationship with my dh: this 'friend' kept talking BS to me about my dh, and my dh was all the time mad at him. So, we somehow joined against the alien.
I made my homework during the Cancer moon and now...
We are not getting divorced and It's strange, but since yesterday my 27 months ds started talking about a baby girl, and he says she is under our bed... Funny, but we also started thinking about maybe ttc another child. It gave me the chills when Vicente said last night -and again this morning- "Ma, la bebé está abajo de la cama, decile a la bebe que salga" (Mom, the baby girl is under your bed, tell her to come out )
The house is so much better. Yesterday we moved the bed (maybe that's why Vicente started mentioning the bed...?) our heads are directed towards the East now. No idea about what that means, but it definitively feels better (although there's a bathroom at the other side of that wall...)
We have planted a lemon tree in the back yard, and waw, I have just realized thay just by coincidence I have planted a climbing pink rose in the interior patio, right in the division line between the 'relationship' square and the 'children' square.
What else? we have put an oleo featuring roses at the bathroom door to keep it closed.
My partner re-arranged his studio at home, we moved an ugly white cupboard and now the space is open and inviting, his desk is all nice and tidy too. And guess what? He's writing again, and painting, and feeling much better and the best of it all, not drinking, nor smoking.
There's still a lot to be done, but just wanted to give you an update and say thanks for listening!
Montwice, I read something about the kitchen too close to the entrance of the house and friends coming only to "eat", I guess this is a metaphor, meaning that if your privacy, your soul, your food is too exposed to your friends, they will only come to you to 'take' things instead of being more prone to give things or to be in the right place, in the right moment.