Originally Posted by HannahsMomma
I quit cold turkey the day I found out I was pregnant with dd. I was six weeks pregnant. I was really afraid of hurting her. I try not to be judgemental but I smoked for 10 years and I was a heavy smoker - like a pack a day !
Is that a "heavy smoker" nowadays? When I was a kid, my mom went through a carton (20 packs) a week.
Originally Posted by jazzybaby9
Yes, it's an addiction...but how are so many women who find out they are pg able to quit cold turkey & so easily, too? Maybe because they care more about the health of their unborn child than their quick nicotine fix? There were plenty of times I craved a cigarette (and other major substances I abused before finding out I was pg) but you find the strength within yourself to steer clear of those things when you have another life to look after. I'm not passing judgement... just saying I know how it feels to have to give up drugs, drinking & smoking so my child has the best chance to have a healthy life.
You know how it feels *for you*. There are all kinds of addiction. A good friend's parents used to smoke, drink, and do all kinds of other drugs. They didn't even start quitting until after their third child was born, even though the second had FAS. I don't know the entire story of how they quit the illegal stuff, but when it was time to quit drinking, mom joined AA and went through hell; dad just stopped. When it was time to quit smoking, same thing... for the mom, it was a HUGE struggle, for the dad it was just "Oh, ok, we're not doing this anymore."
My parents were similar, actually. My dad was a social smoker at some points in his life. He'd have a cigarette if everyone else was having one. But he was never addicted to cigarettes. There were times in his life when he drank too much, but when his doctor told him "You can't do that anymore," he just stopped. My mom, on the other hand, spent the first 8 years of my life trying to quit smoking. She tried smokenders, aversion therapy, everything. Finally, intense psychotherapy and regression hypnosis got her to a place where she could stop. She didn't allow herself to drink alcohol for a year after she stopped, either, because she was terrified of replacing one addiction with another.
So yes, some people can just stop, some people need a whole lot more... support, time, strength, alternatives, motivation, whatever. If both parents smoke, as one poster mentioned, it's going to be much harder for mom to quit for the baby, because it's always there, taunting her. If all your friends smoke, it's much harder to be the one who doesn't. If you live in a state where people still smoke in restaurants, it's hard to go out without smoke in your face. I think it was a lot easier for my good friend (same one as whose parents I talked about above) to quit smoking when he did, because by that time, he was the only one left; none of his good friends smoked anymore. It's also practically illegal to smoke indoors or near doorways here in California. He'd tried many other times, and even managed to stop for a while here and there (usually for a girlfriend), but always started up again because his social circle all smoked.
I'm judgemental about some of the stuff I've heard on this thread, but mostly about the DOCTORS who are advising women to keep smoking because quitting would be too stressful. :-( That's pathetic; all a smoker needs is an excuse to continue to just destroy any resolve they might have to quit. Being pregnant can be a wonderful motivator, and can give many women the strength and resolve they need to finally give it up... but if your doctor is telling you NOT to?! Yeah, right, there goes that.