I get that quitting can be very difficult (well, as a pp said, I don't really get it because I haven't been there, but it's pretty obvious that smoking is a difficult addiciton to break) and I would never want to attempt to "shame" a mom or mom-to-be into quitting -- I also get that that is counterproductive. That being said....
Originally Posted by Inspired007
Coming from someone whose mother smoked (a lot) while pg with her...I do find it incredibly selfish for a woman to continue smoking while pg. With all that we know about the harm that smoking can do, it is extremely selfish to not consider the damage you are doing to your baby just for your own high.
I can relate to this. My mom smoked during her pg with me and my sister; she quit during her pg with our little brother, who was born when I was 7. She's not proud of it, and I get that, but at the same time, I can't help but be affected by it. I wasn't important enough to her to quit smoking? And actually, smoking during pg bothers me somewhat less -- I know I was very much a surprise pg, and I know that it can take time for a pregnancy to sink in and seem real and all that. But she kept on smoking around us (and when they were at work, my parents sent us to a sitter whose whole family smoked) for 7 more years. I remember it, and as much as I can understand that it was difficult
for my mom to quit, it was impossible
for me to get away from it. I guess what it comes down to is yes, I feel for moms who are struggling to quit smoking. But as the child of a smoker, I feel for the children more.