When are you telling your family? - Page 2

[TheGirls]

We told our parents and a few close friends immediately, however, I'm waiting until a family wedding at the end of the month to tell the larger family. I'm basically holding out as long as I can because I'm nervous about a miscarriage, but I know I won't be able to hold back when I see everyone in person. Also, the morning (and afternoon/evening) sickness is pretty bad, and I don't want everyone to think I have something they can catch every time I clutch at my stomach!

[Korimomto2]

I told my mom yesterday. She was not amused. This is our third in four years and although *we* are thrilled, she believes we are ruining our lives. :

Why can't people just love babies??

[symesa]

I told my mom when she came to visit last week -- so 5 weeks. But...we won't be telling other people until we head home to visit in late October.

Aside from that, I've told a *few* IRL people who would be my support/comfort should anything go wrong...

[1babysmom]

I wish we could tell right away. I have had past experiences that lead me to believe it'd be best if we wait, so we won't REALLY be telling until around late November/December, if possible. We told early on in my first pregnancy and got some not-to-thrilled-but-congrats-anyway responses from most family. Then we lost the baby and had to untell them all, and since I'm pretty much the only one in the family to have fertility issues, it was awful. We never told anyone about the second pregnancy, which we also lost. We only told my family at 9 weeks with DD because we went on vacation with them and I needed to explain why I had to keep progesterone suppositories in our snack cooler in the car. LOL

I will probably tell my MIL pretty soon because she'll be in prayer for us and keep quiet about it, but also she's our access to any medical stuff we need ( she's an RN and married to the medical director/ER MD in our hometown- 1 hour away- so can get us anything if we need it). My mom is here today and I SOOO want to tell her but I'm just afraid. My family is great about joking about when we'll have another and teasing me about DD having a little sibling, but if I were to tell them that we were really pregnant, all the opinions on our situation would come flying in and I just hate that. (the biggest being that we're young and DH is in school now...but we wouldn't have tried for a baby if we couldn't have managed! Oh yeah, the obviously don't have any idea we've EVER TTC).

Anyway, sorry for the novel!! Sometimes I wish I could just blurt it out to the world...it's such wonderful news. But it's so early still, so I'm pretty nervous about telling anyone.

[blizzard_babe]

Originally Posted by Korimomto2

I told my mom yesterday. She was not amused. This is our third in four years and although *we* are thrilled, she believes we are ruining our lives. :

Why can't people just love babies??

sorry to hear that. Hopefully she'll come around and understand that if it makes you happy, then it is a good thing.

[Molck]

I'm not sure what we'll do. The plan right now is to wait until at least the beginning of the second trimester (all the better to avoid well-intentioned meddling).

But my parents are driving down from Washington tomorrow for a one-day visit, the first in ... four years? And I'm terrible at keeping secrets. I'll probably grin like a fool as soon as I see them and then blurt it out within the first hour. D'oh!

[MamaJ2005]

We live about 800 miles from our families, so we're thinking about sending out Christmas cards with the news included somehow. : ) Love hearing about everyone else's plans.

[SunRise]

I will see my parents first week of October. We are all going to a cousins wedding. I would like to tell them AFTER the wedding.

But it depends if I am showing or not ... Also my sister has an inkling and she is a huge gossiper. I like to keep her hanging and wondering. My plan is to make some cards and distribute them after the wedding.

Partner has already told his mom and family (they live in Turkey)

[amandaanne]

We told the day after we found out with DS, waited a couple of weeks with DD. I don't know what we'll do this time. I'm only 11 DPO, just found out today, so we'll probably wait a few days at least and make sure this sticks. I just don't really expect anyone to be overly excited this time since it's our third. Probably a few will think we've lost our minds. :

Originally Posted by Taedareth

Last night I ordered a Big Brother shirt for DS. I'm thinking in the next few weeks we'll attend some kind of family get-together (for DH's side) and we'll let DS run around wearing the shirt. See how long it takes for everyone to notice.

That's exactly what we did with when we announced my last pregnancy to my DH's family. It didn't take them long to figure it out, but I think if it hadn't been for DH's observant brother it would have taken longer. The rest of them don't pay that much attention.

[princesspennie]

I am about 5 weeks and already told everyone!
To excited to keep it to myself.

[pammysue]

Well, since we have only know for about one hour only MIL knows. She is very happy. I left a message for my parents (they are apparently still sleeping) to call me back. We will call SIL in a little bit.

Other than family, we won't be telling anyone for a while. Though, if I continue to feel so nauseous and start throwing up, it won't be a secret for long at work. We are all women and pretty close-knit. I work in day care and had a gag reflex yesterday when changing a poopy diaper--a dead give-away. :Puke