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post #1 of 14
9/11/07 at 3:53pm
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DD (3.5) started preschool last week. We've already had a few issues.
She attends 3 days a week- so she's been to 4 classes.
In that time:
- she is fed candy/ koolaid/ capri suns for snack.
- she has gotten a coloring sheet marked out because she didn't color a duck yellow
- I told the teacher that she should go to the potty at least once, teacher assured me there are breaks. So far she is yet to go to the potty there.
- today I picked her up and she had had an accident- and NO ONE CHANGED HER CLOTHES. She was in wet pants and underwear. : She was also crying about this

I'm really upset, mainly about the not helping her after the accident.
So what do you think? Am I over reacting or should we talk to the teacher?
post #2 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:01pm
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Originally Posted by theretohere View Post
- today I picked her up and she had had an accident- and NO ONE CHANGED HER CLOTHES. She was in wet pants and underwear. : She was also crying about this
Frankly, I would never send her back. :
post #3 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:04pm
I'd call and talk about your concerns, especially the accident - FWIW, it doesn't sound like overreacting to me.

Good luck to you!!
post #4 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:08pm
I don't think you're overreacting at all. Granted, I haven't sent my kids to school, but I've heard all the reports and stories amongst my group of friends (most of whom have older kids than mine), and that just doesn't seem right, nor does it line up with anything I learned about a teacher's responsibilities in my early childhood ed. courses. At the preschool level, it's expected that kids will benefit from a reminder to go potty and help with buttons and zippers (although it's appreciated when parents send their kids in clothes they can handle themselves). Marking papers down shouldn't even be an issue; it's preschool. Participation is a pretty big accomplishment at that point. The snacks are woefully the norm for America but I think the healthy foods debate is prominent enough now that you could make a strong argument for a change and have a decent chance of being heard. And to not notice a potty accident and change a child is just wrong, assuming it didn't happen right before you picked her up.
post #5 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:11pm
Not dealing with the accident, ugh! But there might be some reasonable excuse (how long before pickup did it happen? maybe she is refusing to use the potties there, rather than not getting an opportunity to? or she is confused about what the opportunities to are?); I can at least imagine reasons... But... did you say she was marked out (by this I think you mean, told she'd done it wrong) for not coloring a duck yellow???. This would be an even bigger major red flag don't send her back, to me.
post #6 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:28pm
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Originally Posted by Eris View Post
Not dealing with the accident, ugh! But there might be some reasonable excuse (how long before pickup did it happen? maybe she is refusing to use the potties there, rather than not getting an opportunity to? or she is confused about what the opportunities to are?); I can at least imagine reasons... But... did you say she was marked out (by this I think you mean, told she'd done it wrong) for not coloring a duck yellow???. This would be an even bigger major red flag don't send her back, to me.
Yeah, her third day of school- preschool at that, she had her picture crossed out with a big black X.
I'm not sure how long before pick up her accident happened. She won't say, she just cries, so I'm going to leave it be.
post #7 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:33pm
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Yeah, her third day of school- preschool at that, she had her picture crossed out with a big black X.
I'm not sure how long before pick up her accident happened. She won't say, she just cries, so I'm going to leave it be.
What???

Do you have the option to change preschools?

I do not think you are overreacting.
post #8 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:33pm
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Yeah, her third day of school- preschool at that, she had her picture crossed out with a big black X.
I'm not sure how long before pick up her accident happened. She won't say, she just cries, so I'm going to leave it be.
"a big black X"???
What kind of an attitude is that towards a child??? :
I would remove her immediately from that class or even school, if the teachers are all like that!
Horrid people!
post #9 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:39pm
Nope, you are not over reacting at all. I was going to post about my own preschool woes, but frankly, they seem mild compared to this. I would pull my child out for sure. I'm considering doing it for lesser things.
post #10 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:40pm
What did the teachers say when you asked them about the big black X and the potty accident?
post #11 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:43pm
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DH will be asking tomorrow when he takes her. Teacher wasn't available when I picked her up- she was busy with other parents and I wanted to change DD's pant as quickly as possible without further embarassing her.
post #12 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:51pm
It all sounds dreadful to me. I wouldn't send her back if it was me -- and I would lodge a complaint with the management. That's no way to treat a little one. Hugs to you!
post #13 of 14
9/11/07 at 4:57pm
Unless this is daycare without which your family can't function, I would not take her back until I understood what in Sam Hill was going on there.
post #14 of 14
9/11/07 at 5:09pm
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Originally Posted by beka1977 View Post
Frankly, I would never send her back. :
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