: First, on day 2 of school I sent a note saying dd would be taking the bus from now on. (Originally I'd said we'd have parent pick up first week, but dd and ds insisted, so I relented and sent notes stating the change and gave my cell # and email addy if the teachers had any questions. Additionally, I emailed the teachers this info on top of sending the note.) She called dh's cell that afternoon at 2:20 saying that dd said she was taking the bus now. DH confirmed and I said that I'd sent a note. She replied, "Oh, I haven't even looked at my notes yet."
This morning dd told me she thought there was a bday today.
We don't celebrate bdays so the arrangement in our home is to send the kids w/ a pkg of their own cookies (no cupcakes allowed in school) to be kept at school so they can have a cookie when everyone else does. I asked dd's teacher (in a note & in person) to please send dd to another class during the festivities. (2nd grade doesn't do anything other than the song and a cookie, kinder makes a bigger production.) No big deal. I sent notes to each teacher the first day stating this and asking them to email/call if they had any questions.
DS's teacher said it was a great idea and said we could leave cookies for ds. So we did. Never heard back from dd's teacher.
So, since I was under the impression that there might be a bday today, I went to the store and bought 2 kinds of Newman's Own cookies so dd could pick which she wanted to leave at school. I walked into the classroom and the kids were all resting. I thought their rest time was later in the afternoon, but apparently not. Had I known it was then, I'd have gone later. I sat down by the teacher to explain the situation and then it just got really frustrating.
The teacher didn't stop interrupting me so I could explain what I was doing there in a complete sentence. She thought I was bringing them for tomorrow's bday, she thought I was trying to give them to dd NOW, and she told me it was disruptive because I came at rest time. She kept on these few things all through the 10 minutes I was there and trying to explain 2 things to her. "These are for dd. She needs to pick one to leave here. Please send her to another room during bdays. Thank you. Goodbye." THAT SIMPLE. It was too much, apparently, for the teacher to just listen...
If I had known it was rest time I'd have come later. And NO I'm not intending to give her a cookie now. And stop telling her they're for tomorrow. She knows. I need to ask her which ones she wants to leave here. Stop talking so I can get an answer from her. She KNOWS they're for tomorrow, she's not stupid, please stop talking to her like she is.
The issue as to why I was there kept on, too. AGAIN I stated that DD told me she thought there was a bday today. I wasn't sure, so I brought the cookies just in case. I already KNOW there is one tomorrow. But I was under the impression that there might be one today. That's why I'm here. I didn't want her to miss out on a cookie. These are for dd. Please give her a cookie or 2 and send her out of the room during the festivities. I am not trying to give her a cookie now. I need to give her a choice as to which ones she wants me to leave here, because I was under the impression that there may have been a celebration today and I didn't want her to go w/o a cookie.
: : :Finally the woman got the message and was fine w/ it. She asked if she needed to send the cookies home. OMG. (My head was about to explode at this point.) No! Keep them here. I said that in the note I sent on the first day and again when I spoke to her in person and she was practically pushing me out the door.
And the woman doesn't read or respond to her notes, as we've seen, so I have no idea whether she's got any questions or anything or even if she reads the notes at all.
It was quite draining! It's almost as bad as talking to my mil. I am not even kidding.
STOP interrupting me and jumping to conclusions and LISTEN.
Ugh. I hope I can find a way to communicate w/ this woman on a smoother level than these first few weeks have been.
It may just have to come to that! 
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Like I told you, she can't follow such simple instructions that are so simply stated, yet she is in charge of a group of K'ers? Um, yeah. Hope things look up for R! Wait until the next is in K! 
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