Hubby got a promotion and it worries me!

[GinaRae]

I should be grateful. He's been given the opportunity to take over his own boss' position and get some kind of raise (they haven't said just what yet) and instead of being happy, this freaks me out.

He had just interviewed with some other company too because he's in big demand. He's literally one of the only people that does what he does, so these huge companies want him (Google wanted him!).

The interview really bugged me because who knows what the new job will do like taking him away even more, travel, etc... i reminded him it's not a good time to start a new job because I expect him to be around a bit near and after the birth.

So part of me is grateful for the promotion because he may be be tempted to stay with this job BUT how many more late evenings because he has to schmooze clients, how much more travel, how much more stress? How many actual suits will I need to buy him if he needs a full suit instead of just dress pants/shirts/ties?

I am always his biggest cheerleader and stick by him with job stuff. I am SO proud of him! I am not a math person, but I guess he makes 2-3 times what he made when we first got together in 2000.

It's not just money (as you all know, no matter how much you make, it sems to never be enough and certainly hard to get ahead with a [soon to be] family of 6!) But it's that he gets so far because he's super smart AND has an amazing personality. Of course, I get the grumpy him at the end of the day, but I know the real him too.

Anyway, just venting. I don't like this whole job change thing while I am pregnant because I am dealing with enough right now and need him more, not less!

[gcgirl]

Well, I kinda know what you mean. DH is the same way, one of the only people who does what he does, always getting job offers, and moving up fast in his company. Right now he's working on buying the company he works for, which is a major extreme PITA and headache for us. He's also been out of town for 8 weeks (was supposed to be 2) because he's the only guy that knows what's going on on the project he's doing and they don't want to let him go yet. :

Any job change, even a promo, is a stressful event. I want to say congrats on the one hand, but why do these otherwise good things have to come up at the worst times? Kwim?

[Isaac'sMa]

Oh boy, Gina, I know *exactly* what you're going through. Ok, well maybe not exactly but my dh just started a new job two weeks ago so we've been a whirlwind of emotions at our house...as if the pg emotions weren't enough, right?! In addition to (((hugs))) because I know how stressful it can be, I just wanted to say it can work out for the best too. I hope it does for you guys

[GooeyRN]

I hope he makes the best decision. Its so hard to know what is right with a baby on the way!!!

[GinaRae]

I'm "used" to him traveling and being late, but during pregnancy I am much more hormonal and needy with emotions and with the house, so this isn't fun. He's gone all week to San Francisco (left Saturday!) and at least I asked him to take Friday off instead of working since he had to miss most of his weekend with us. He was fine with that.

Seems like he gets layed off or changes jobs a lot around Nov/Dec. That's hard on us because of the interruption in pay around the holidays, but life just sort of comes at you! Now something like that will probably happen again because we're also having a baby, so what worse time than that?!

[Curlita]

I think that any kind of change in job situation/life situation is hard, even if it looks like it will be am improvement. It's stressful to change the family routine, and to have so many unknowns happening at once. And it's even harder when you feel like you should be unreservedly ecstatic -- talk about cognitive dissonance!

Will there be any perks to the position change that might ameliorate the additional stress? If he takes the job, I hope you guys can find ways to make it work and keep carving out time for the family. Maybe the additional funds could be put towards cleaning or a mother's helper or something else that will facilitate happy family relations.

Good luck, mama!

[GinaRae]

Any extra funds will be eaten alive before they hit the bank account