Thanks for this really interesting discussion mamas! I'm particularly resonating with the "why worry about it now" comments, and OTOH also with the "I wish I had limited (especially re: tandeming) coz now I'm DONE."
I don't want to be DONE, all caps, yk? Especially not with another infant on the way! I'm not feeling that now, although I worry that if I do, right after a new baby arrives will not be a good time to cut DD off the sauce.
I mean, I've set it up now, I've told her that when the baby comes they can share nursing, that the new baby will nurse first but DD can still nurse. So... I'm pretty committed, she doesn't forget that kind of thing.
But man, I don't want to burn out. Honestly for me a lot of it is social pressure, she is the oldest nursling in our social circle, and I know a lot of ppl would love it if I stopped nursing her. It's weird in public (I've started putting limits on that but she will still sometimes ask, loudly), I think her Dad is jealous, my childless housemate and my ex-gf disapprove. That kind of thing.
Apart from that stuff, and sometimes feeling touched out, I still love nursing her. And man it comes in handy! We were out at the pub last night, I met DD and her dad there, and she wanted all my attention. But whip out the boob and suddenly she is occupied, on the way to falling asleep, and I can have adult conversation. I think still it has more plusses for *me* than negatives. And certainly she is still really, really attached to nursing.
Sometimes I wonder if it will ever end though. Okay, a lot I wonder that.
I can't nurse beyond 5.5, myself, just too socially difficult. And even that is pushing it right to the very edge, for me.