I had my 27 week checkup yesterday, and am now starting my 3 week appointments unstead of 4 weeks. First, baby sounds good, and I PASSED my GTT, which I thought I would because I did last time. Diabetes does run in my family, but its Type 2, so really if you're taking care of yourself, which I am, I shouldn't ever get it.
Anyway, once we got in our midwife's actual exam room some random person with a lab coat comes in and says she's a midwife in training and is going to do the vitals and go over my chart with me. Fine. So she gets done, and tells me I should come back in 3 weeks... Ummmm. Am I going to see my midwife? She says, "If you want, but it will be a little while, she's backed up." To which I reply "I'll wait, I always do." Yeah, I wanted to reply that If I didn't want to see my midwife I'd just cancel the appointment, or switch to another practice, or a myriad of other things and that I want to see my midwife EVERY appointment that I make, not a trainee that I JUST met, especially with my history and advancing pregnancy. Then she tells me that she'll probably be there at the birth. In my head I'm saying "And who gave you permission?"
So 5-10 minutes later my midwife comes in and apologizes for the delay (no biggie.) I ask her point blank if the midwife trainee is taking over for her or if there is something I should know about, and she, thankfully, reassures me that she is still my midwife and that the trainee is not a replacement. I asked her about what the trainee said about being at the birth and she said that the trainee might be there to assist her, and to watch, and give my mw a food break, or let her see a patient or two while I'm in labor. She says that the trainee will only deliver the baby at the client's discretion. I gave her a little look and I think she got the message that I don't want someone I just met delivering the baby.
Next meeting we go over the birth plan, so we'll see how that goes. I'll have to reiterate the part where I say that the ONLY person I want doing vaginal exams is my actual midwife and that I want minimal amount of people attending the birth.
I'm all for training, but I guess I just expected my midwife to come in and ask my permission before just sending in a random person.
So then my midwife tells me that I'm going to have to be on mild bedrest/pelvic rest from about 32 weeks on. She said something about me having to lie on my left side 3x a day for 1 hour and if we can abstain from sex from 32-36 weeks we should. She's going to tell me more next time I see her, but I'm just confused as to what she means by 3x a day. Obviously it makes no sense to wake up and go straight into lying on my left side, because I've already been lying down, and it doesn't make sense for me to do it before I go to bed for the same reason... So anybody have those type of orders? Does it just mean I get up for a few hours, lie down, get up, lie down? Just a little confused.
Anyway, one more thing that's been bothering me is that for the past few sessions mw has been talling me that its a good thing my son came early because I'd have a problem birthing a large baby. My son was 5 lbs 7 oz. So last night I was talking about how I want to keep the baby in as long as possible so its healthy and she AGAIN says that she thinks last birth was devine intervention because I'd have trouble birthing a larger baby. This time I was annoyed and I said, "You know, my mom wasn't a large person and she birthed 2 normal healthy full-term babies." MW says "Yeah, but they weren't large right?" I say I was 6lb 4oz and my brother was 7lb 2oz. She replies that that's not so big and I could do 6lb 4, but 7 is pushing it...
Its just making me so upset that she's saying I might not be able to birth a full-term baby. I know I'm short, and petite, but isn't the female body made to birth a baby? What good does it do to tell me I might not be able to do it? Is she planning on giving me a cesarean if I go on time???? Why is she being so negative when I'm trying trying trying to keep positive?
DH said I should call her and talk to her about it, but I think I'll wait until next meeting. Any words of wisdom mamas on how to broach the subject without just yelling at her? Its really making me second guess myself and feel uneasy about the birth, and last time I gave birth my midwives (of which she was one) NEVER said I couldn't deliver a full-term baby...
Ug.
Anyway, once we got in our midwife's actual exam room some random person with a lab coat comes in and says she's a midwife in training and is going to do the vitals and go over my chart with me. Fine. So she gets done, and tells me I should come back in 3 weeks... Ummmm. Am I going to see my midwife? She says, "If you want, but it will be a little while, she's backed up." To which I reply "I'll wait, I always do." Yeah, I wanted to reply that If I didn't want to see my midwife I'd just cancel the appointment, or switch to another practice, or a myriad of other things and that I want to see my midwife EVERY appointment that I make, not a trainee that I JUST met, especially with my history and advancing pregnancy. Then she tells me that she'll probably be there at the birth. In my head I'm saying "And who gave you permission?"
So 5-10 minutes later my midwife comes in and apologizes for the delay (no biggie.) I ask her point blank if the midwife trainee is taking over for her or if there is something I should know about, and she, thankfully, reassures me that she is still my midwife and that the trainee is not a replacement. I asked her about what the trainee said about being at the birth and she said that the trainee might be there to assist her, and to watch, and give my mw a food break, or let her see a patient or two while I'm in labor. She says that the trainee will only deliver the baby at the client's discretion. I gave her a little look and I think she got the message that I don't want someone I just met delivering the baby.
Next meeting we go over the birth plan, so we'll see how that goes. I'll have to reiterate the part where I say that the ONLY person I want doing vaginal exams is my actual midwife and that I want minimal amount of people attending the birth.
I'm all for training, but I guess I just expected my midwife to come in and ask my permission before just sending in a random person.
So then my midwife tells me that I'm going to have to be on mild bedrest/pelvic rest from about 32 weeks on. She said something about me having to lie on my left side 3x a day for 1 hour and if we can abstain from sex from 32-36 weeks we should. She's going to tell me more next time I see her, but I'm just confused as to what she means by 3x a day. Obviously it makes no sense to wake up and go straight into lying on my left side, because I've already been lying down, and it doesn't make sense for me to do it before I go to bed for the same reason... So anybody have those type of orders? Does it just mean I get up for a few hours, lie down, get up, lie down? Just a little confused.
Anyway, one more thing that's been bothering me is that for the past few sessions mw has been talling me that its a good thing my son came early because I'd have a problem birthing a large baby. My son was 5 lbs 7 oz. So last night I was talking about how I want to keep the baby in as long as possible so its healthy and she AGAIN says that she thinks last birth was devine intervention because I'd have trouble birthing a larger baby. This time I was annoyed and I said, "You know, my mom wasn't a large person and she birthed 2 normal healthy full-term babies." MW says "Yeah, but they weren't large right?" I say I was 6lb 4oz and my brother was 7lb 2oz. She replies that that's not so big and I could do 6lb 4, but 7 is pushing it...
Its just making me so upset that she's saying I might not be able to birth a full-term baby. I know I'm short, and petite, but isn't the female body made to birth a baby? What good does it do to tell me I might not be able to do it? Is she planning on giving me a cesarean if I go on time???? Why is she being so negative when I'm trying trying trying to keep positive?
DH said I should call her and talk to her about it, but I think I'll wait until next meeting. Any words of wisdom mamas on how to broach the subject without just yelling at her? Its really making me second guess myself and feel uneasy about the birth, and last time I gave birth my midwives (of which she was one) NEVER said I couldn't deliver a full-term baby...
Ug.
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